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annie that all sounds positive, go girl!

Joce & Doodle I do understand, at times it is impossible to think about the good things. I've been there which makes me all the more grateful that, at times, I can appreciate what I have.

Joce although it is good to think of others, there are times when taking care of yourself should take priority. Please do that too.

Hi all x

How is everyone ?

Doodle count your blessings? this may help, in my prayers I
do my praise, my needs and my thank you’s , no matter how small, I just think what has been good in the day- as well as what hasn’t been ? x

Joyce we are in ‘strange times’, little is how life was just over a year ago, we mustn’t stay silent on this thread , I certainly haven’t recently, we can’t compare because everyone’s life is
different, but we can share and not feel we shouldn’t x

Hi nonnie we posted at the same time x

Hello everybody
Joce - I hope the hypnosis will help you it is certainly worth a try.
Nonnie - positive thinking before sleep is something that is easier said than done however I do try and say my Thanks at the end of the day. Thank you for your wise words.
Doodle - I hope today is a good one for you and you have been able to get out with your DH. We have just had a walk it was cold and damp but as always we felt better for it.
Annie - it’s so good to hear you sounding so positive. Mini Fred should be just the job - can you use him indoors too? Your new helper sounds like she could be the best of both worlds - I hope she will be a good friend for you.
Today we had to take our cat to the vet. Very strange in these times as the Vet comes outside to talk to you then takes your pet indoors to treat and leaves you outside!!! Some animals must be very distressed by this I think.
I,m not very good at talking about my feelings but just to say today is a sad day for me as it is the Anniversary of when my lovely little Mum took her life. I miss her every day but so glad she was my Mum.
I wish you all a nice evening and send love to all. Lavender,Rafichagran, Bluesky Nanny,Polo, and any I have forgotten take carex

Annie what a lovely family you have.

Scaredycat what a loving tribute to your Mum, hugs x
Yes it must distress animals to be taken into the vets surgery without their companion, my Lottie would be terrified.

Yes, mini Fred is for use indoors, after 7 weeks sleeping on the
sofa I can sleep in my bed,

rafichagran yes I am truly blessed with my small family.
How are you ?

I am ok Annie horrendous problems at the moment, but at the moment nothing I can do about them.
I will catch up with BDG and everyone of you, but at the moment it is not possible to give full concentration. I do check in though and read all your posts.
Take care each of you.

Annie I am very good at asking God for help in any number of things but not so good at saying thank you. So much of my time is taken up praying for family and others but the thanks should be more important. Thank you for the reminder.
Oh Scaredycat what a lot of sadness you have had in your life. Your mum was obviously very special to you.
I hadn’t actually thought about animals in this lockdown but you are right it must cause them stress to be taken in to the vets on their own.
rafinchagran I’m sorry you have such troubles at the moment. Even if we can do nothing, it doesn’t stop us worrying about things. I hope things resolve themselves soon x
Joce I’m ok thanks. Always worried about the family but ticking over. We can plod along together ?
Nonnie you’re right, we should always appreciate what we have and I really have a lot to be grateful for.

Doodle hope everyone keeps plodding on, we can but try...
Have a peaceful night sleep all ?

I appreciate that we should all try to be positive and also try to keep negative feelings at bay, but it's not easy, especially if you are a worrier like I am.
I try to count my blessings every day and I know I am so lucky in many ways, but I still feel so guilty when I am sad and in tears. I know people who have a great deal more to deal with than I have, but I've come to the conclusion that I must be such a weak person. I try hard to be upbeat but if my husband feels I'll or has just a niggle anywhere, I feel myself panicking and obviously I have to control it so as not to upset him. The other day I just had to go to the bedroom and have a good cry. I think I'm collapsing under the pressure of him being disabled to his broken hip since last june and the lockdown and not getting help from various places that's finally getting to me. I'm sorry I have no positive thoughts for all the black dogs tonight but forgive me me for rambling on. I keep a lot to myself and cant really tell my family how upset I get. It's good to know I can write it down and hope you lovely people will understand
Sweet dreams

polomint no, you are not weak, and please, please don’t add guilt, you have no cause to feel guilt, you are concerned for your husband, caring for him , I am sure all here have had the same emotions as you.

Weak ? You are strong, you have shared here, that can take courage . Please stop punishing yourself and positive thoughts are not compulsory on this thread , I certainly haven’t been positive over the last seven weeks .

You can share here and know everyone here understands

Sending you a cwtch ( a special Welsh hug ) x

scardycat couldn't agree more! That is why I shared that because it was a positive day. I do always try to look for the positives and they are always there but some days are far outweighed by the negatives, usually because I have lost my perspective.

Anniversaries are so hard, just like birthdays .

Hope the cat is OK.

annie hope you slept well last night.

rafichagran sounds like you are part the way there with acceptance but so very hard. Hope there comes a time when you can deal with them.

Polomint please don't feel 'guilty', you have those feelings and should acknowledge them without guilt. I hope writing how you feel on here is a partial release and am sure we all understand. I sometimes find worrying about others worse than worrying about myself, it is so understandable especially for those of us who overthink. Be kind to yourself.

Hi all x

I am waiting delivery of mini Fred, am anxious, much depends on this decision.

How is everyone?

I hope everything goes ok with your new mini fred chair annie. Thoughts for everyone today

polomint you are in good company with the worriers here. I have plenty to be grateful and positive about but it’s the things the worry me which take up most of my thinking time.
No need to put on a brave face here. This is where we can tell it like it is and be assured that others will understand and sympathise. You can always come in here and let it out.
You have been through a lot looking after your husband. You can come on here and post whenever you like and no need to hide how you are feeling. x
Nonnie so lovely when people post positive things too. It reminds those of us having troubles that there are lighter times too.
Annie how exciting. When is mini Fred coming? I hope this time it works for you x

Annie hope it has arrived and you love it. Will Mini Fred just be abbreviated to mini over time?

In a frivolous mood today, just received a package I ordered online, something completely unnecessary. This morning I put on some leggings I hadn't worn for ages and asked DH if they looked OK. He replied, "yes, still got great old legs". Shame, he meant it as a compliment but was far more honest than necessary

Have a good weekend all

Annie how’s your new friend? hope you are wizzing round on him x

Hi all x

nonnie so funny, off topic but will share, my sister had a heart attack, raced to ITU. She does tell untruths about her age, she will soon be younger than her daughter, I phoned her
when she came home, was she troubled by her experience? No, she was furious that her husband had knelt by her and said
‘Don’t leave me old girl’ ?

Joyce still waiting for chap to come to assemble scooter, if I had the company assemble it I would have to wait 2 weeks

How is everyone?

Scooter assembled, lead for charger missing, have to wait until
Tuesday !

Oh Annie how frustrating. How does it look, are you happier with it?
Sorry to hear about your sister, hope she’s ok. Is this the first time you’ve spoken for a while?
Nonnie I am sure it was a well meant compliment ?
Nice to have a frivolous purchase, We need such things in lockdown.

Joce are you feeling ok?
Hope Bluesky Scardycat Nanny rafichagran and polomint are all doing well. Have a good weekend all x

Hi all x

How is everyone today?

Yesterday was first day of Spring, trees in leaf, flowers bloom,
sunshine ! , light evenings , new hope .

Am delighted with mini Fred, can’t use until the lead comes on Tuesday, he will go in bedroom, have been sleeping on sofa
for seven weeks, certainly hasn’t helped my knee and hips.

Last day for enablers visits, been told if needed I can call on them. New support worker starts tomorrow thankfully, having over 20 calling for seven weeks, some were so nice, it will make a difference just the same person each day.

Why do people think if one’s body is weak then the mind must be too ! ! ! !

annie sharing these little things can bring a smile to us all. Doesn't matter if we go off topic now and again.

Life is so frustrating, hope it is worth the wait. Don't suppose Fred's charger would fit? You've probably already thought of that.

Yes, that age old thing of asking the carer what the other person wants. Grrr.

Little things cheer me up, young friend with an 8 month old sent me a video yesterday, baby has just learned how to squirt the milk our of the teat on her bottle and was doing that wonderful chortle they do at that age. Wish I had one nearby to do that with. Just as well she has her own parents nearby or I would offer to be proxy Grandma!

I have just ‘discovered’ this lovely thread. How good to be able to offer support and love to each other. I agree with one of the earlier posters, Doodle, we tend to ask God for help and sometimes forget to thank Him when things go well so thanks for reminding me of that. Have a lovely day everyone. It is late evening here and I have had a lovely day with my daughter and 2 year old granddaughter. I don’t see them that often, it was a real treat.

Hi everyone
Nonnie- our cat is ok thanks - having great fun getting antibiotic syringe into his mouth! There is nothing like a baby to cheer you up. My favourite is that face they pull on tasting something they don’t like. Hope you have hung on to those lovely frivolous feelings today!!x

Annie - sorry to hear about your sister I hope she will recover well. Good that you have had contact with her again.
Good to hear that you are so pleased with Mini Fred bet you can’t wait til he,s all charged up nd ready to roll!!
This coming week is a new start for you and I hope now you,ll enjoy your daily visits. Xx
Doodle - I,m ok thanks and hope you are too. Had a 6 hour AF yesterday but today is another day and I,m going for a walk in a minute as the sun is shining! Hope whatever you are doing you are having a good dayx
Nanna8 - hello nice to meet you. Pleased you had a good day with your daughter and GD - best treat in the world.
To all in BDG hope you all enjoy your Sunday and sleep well tonight.x

Doodle I’m still plotting hope you are as well..
Good Evening all,
Nanna8 welcome to our friendly thread, lots of lovely people hear to talk to..
Annie so pleased you have your mini Fred, looking forward for your update on Tuesday..
Scaredy-cat did you enjoy your walk.. it’s been a lovely sunny day where we are enjoyed the garden, it’s looking nice ready for the sunny day.
Have a good night all ?