Really stressing

Who was Effalump post aimed at ??

JaneJudge

I've done both, hope that helps

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Perhaps that is what Effalump is doing herself and she is just assuming that is what everybody else does.

Wow, bit judgemental effalump, we don’t all drink and stuff our faces with junk food either, I certainly don’t! You can get many vits you actually need from eating healthily, totally agree with AGAA4s post, you sound very anxious Nanderin, Hope the test results contain good news, best wishes to you

Hetty58

Where is Nanderin?

Eating ready meals and drinking gin apparently. Effalump has outed her as the beer aisle clearer in her part of Sheffield

Where is Nanderin?

polnan the advise I gave was good unless you have a very suppressed immune system then going out or a husband going out should not cause you so much fear and upset
contact the gp surgery? all doc will do is give a prescription for some pills, that are habit forming,, addictive! and just make one into a zombie... that is what usually happens here
That would not be helpful, are you in U.K. ? it’s certainly not that easy to get tablets from the GP in my experience, a few years ago I asked my Gp if he could give me a calming tablet to take before a very difficult tooth extraction and was refused as ‘they could be habit forming’
In this instance a doctor could put the poster in touch with a metal Heath nurse or a counsellor or offer some talking therapy because what has happened is this lady has gone into a heightened state of anxiety and it’s very hard to get out of that without professional help

effalump

Can I ask a question? During the last 18 months, have any of you actually took any measures to boost your immune system? For example, taking supplements (Vits c & D3, zinc, selenium etc) or even consuming extra garlic or pre- and pro-biotics. Rather than piling your supermarket trollies with beer, wine and gin along with ready meals and junk food.

You can get many of the vitamins you need from a healthy diet.
Not everyone eats junk food all the time.

The OP is suffering with covid related anxiety and needs help with that.

I've done both, hope that helps

effalump, a bit judgemental and not helpful at all, when you don't know anything about us, our circumstances or lifestyle.

There are many on here, like me, who through no cause of our own, are immunosuppressed due to illness or medical treatment. All the supplements in the world, won't make much of a difference, I'm afraid.

Can I ask a question? During the last 18 months, have any of you actually took any measures to boost your immune system? For example, taking supplements (Vits c & D3, zinc, selenium etc) or even consuming extra garlic or pre- and pro-biotics. Rather than piling your supermarket trollies with beer, wine and gin along with ready meals and junk food.

I have had both vaccinations but I also have cancer and am having treatment for it, so I had a long time shielding and am having covid tests before cancer treatment so cannot forget about it . I now live alone and have a close friend who also lives alone so we are a little bubble. we have progressed from just sitting in our separate cars and windows open and talking to each other. We now meet up with each other and visit each others house. That is fine but I am starting to do some shopping but at my own pace. I wake up very early as my back is quite painful but the good bit is that I sometimes go at 6.30am to the shop and of course wear my mask and keep well away from the small number of people that I meet. If I have a bad day and for some reason feel very vunerable I dont go out.This way I am going at my pace and now if I dont feel safe, and very anxious, or think there are too many people about I just accept that is how I feel and stay at home but dont beat myself up about it. So whilst it is good to get advice and ideas I think it is feeling in control of yourself and making whatever decision fits your feelings is the best and not to feel shoved by other people. You cannot control how other people behave but you can decide how their behaviour affects you and make your own decision about what is acceptable to you or how you need to react to their behaviour to keep your anxiety down and feel as calm as you can. I wish you good luck

Two members of my family who had received both vaccinations caught Covid a few weeks back. One said she felt as if she had a light cold and an intermittent cough, the other had headaches for a couple of days. Both have thankfully recovered . I hope this will be the pattern for those who have had the jab - is there a reason why your daughter hasn't, Nanderin?

Hope your test results go OK,this is probably one of the main stressors for you as well as Covid.
Could you make a phone apt with your Doctor and discuss your fears or go to the health food store and ask for a relaxant of some sort,that might easy things a bit———- everyone has had such pressure for the last year and a half your feelings are quite understandable.Consider yourself hugged,good luck ?

nanna8

If I lived in the uk I would be like that, too. It is bad enough over here and we don’t have nearly as many cases. Then hearing that the vaccine only gives limited protection doesn’t help, either. I would be really,really putting maximum pressure on your daughter to get vaccinated if she lives with you

I'm not sure that's helpful nanna8.

This individual personal risk is tiny, and the vaccines - all of them - are miraculously good.

Lots of good advice here Nanderin, I hope it helps.

Nanderin are you using the home test kits available from the chemist? They're really easy to use and might give you some reassurance. I'm double jabbed but still wear masks in shops etc and test myself twice weekly. It would seem that we really do have to learn to live alongside this virus. When I first started going out it was a bit scary but the more you do it, the easier it gets and your life can return to some sort of normality. Good luck.

Sorry you are feeling so anxious.
I agree that you need to take things slowly but to get out a little would definitely do you good.
My husband has been playing golf regularly since it has been allowed. As others have said it is out in the fresh air and easy to keep a distance from other players.
If your daughter has not had the vaccine from choice you do need to have a serious discussion with her.

Nanderin, I think you’ve just got to be brave. Try just walking up the road and back, then try a little bit further next day, and so on. I can understand your fear, but I have been to my local town this morning and almost everybody is wearing a mask, and the shops are taking great care over our safety.

Your daughter really must get vaccinated to protect herself and you.

If I lived in the uk I would be like that, too. It is bad enough over here and we don’t have nearly as many cases. Then hearing that the vaccine only gives limited protection doesn’t help, either. I would be really,really putting maximum pressure on your daughter to get vaccinated if she lives with you

Nandarin - as a psychotherapist I can tell you categorically that you are not on your own in your fears - these have become ingrained by the evidence of the randomness of covid's effects upon people whereby previously fit and healthy people have died and many who have had it and survived are now showing signs of weakness/general debilitation. Many people are afraid to leave their houses and agoraphobia is setting in with some. I have no wish to dismiss your fears but I would ask you to look around you, collect the evidence of how many people you know have been seriously ill with covid, check on your daughter's lifestyle and if she has a good reason for not being jabbed - and there are several - introduce some protocols in your home that you want her to stick to and be open about her absolute need to do this to your satisfaction - as long as you're not unreasonable and expect her to change her clothes at the door - handwashing as she enters and a regular lateral flow test should give you some confidence. It is very important for your mental health and those around you that you get your healthy anxiety under control. Maybe if you could accompany your husband to the golf club you might feel more at ease with the fear.

Don`t beat yourself up Nandarin,the chance is slim imo aspecially as golf is an outdoor activity.

Look online for counselling. There are courses, advice and indivdual councellrs avalable.

If duaghter is choosing not to be vaccinated, she is a ticking COVID bomb sitting in the middle of your house. You may not get the disease badly, but if she did, she could be very ill indeed, which will not help your stress levels.

My peace of mind would depend on a vaccinated daughter or if she refuses to have it, her living elsewhere.

Our GP surgery has a list of numbers you can call regarding covid on their home page including helpline numbers (inc local) for you to ring if you feel panicked or stressed. Can you see if yours has the same? I've found this too

I really don't think you are alone. I still feel a bit about going out and have limited where I go in all honesty but my family are going to the gym, shops, sleepovers, gosh one even went to a party! Playing golf outside and being double vaccinated and social distancing, it would be very low risk but I don't want to minimise how you feel as I think the worry from the pandemic is manifesting itself in people in different ways and you sound like you need support with that.

Blue Belle, I am full of anxieties, from this Covid scenario!

I try to make light of it. so many of us are full of anxieties, some of us live with it. I could for a while

contact the gp surgery? all doc will do is give a prescription for some pills, that are habit forming,, addictive! and just make one into a zombie... that is what usually happens here.

I feel it is a little harsh to tell you you need professional help to deal with this anxiety.

If both you and your husband have been vaccinated the risk of him contracting corona while in the open air is minimal and probably would be even if he were not vaccinated.

So let him go and play golf. We have all been kept away from our sports or hobbies for so long that it will only do us good to get back to them.

If your daughter is to continue to live in your household, she ought to be vaccinated - if she refuses, ask her to move out, as obviously you cannot deal with the thought of her becoming ill or infecting you and others.

I realise you risk offending your daughter to the point of estrangement, but she is being unreasonable if she refuses the vaccine in my opinion.

And please look back, I assume anyone on Gransnet is old enough to remember a smallpox epidemic, typhoid, polio and various different flu viruses. We survived them all if we are still here, so there is a fair chance of us surviving this too.