Black Dog 12

Well I managed to phone and have an appointment in 2 weeks with a nurse. The receptionist was very abrupt. Had to tell her what about but cdnt tell her everything. My blood pressure is high but don’t know if they approve of you taking it yourself so I didn’t say. I really wanted a dr but didn’t get the option.

I’ve not posted on here before but I’m just feeling so low and thought maybe someone might understand. I’m very anxious & depressed and can’t find any motivation to do anything. Im late 60’s and feel like there’s nothing to look forward to. My DH has told me I need to get some help - maybe a private therapist? I don’t know. My DH & DD are at the end of their tether but I can’t pull myself out of it. Anyone have experience of psychotherapy? Is it helpful?

Anniebach I'm feeling fine, thank you. I find that being out or keeping busy is really good for my MH. I'm glad you're cooler today. Lovely poem.
Doodle My husband's sister only lives about 5 miles away, but she doesn't drive, and by her own admission, never has anyone to her house (not even her adult children) because her home is very cluttered - she took everything from her late mum's (my MIL) house and kept it, without doing anything with the stuff, 7 years ago. She said she cannot get into some rooms (3 bed semi) because everywhere is stacked up with furniture! How are you?
SweetPeaSue. I've finally accepted all that happened with me. I'm well, have a good life, can do things, so all's ok. Glad you won't have much longer to wait for your appointments.
EllieAnne High BP ill mak you feel unwell. It's a good idea to monitor it yourself, and you can buy BP monitors fairly cheaply.
Grandyma Welcome. You'll find people on here understanding. I tried counselling for a few weeks but didn't find it very useful. Are you on antidepressants? They can't cure anything but can lift the mood to enable you to think a bit more clearly. The first step is to see your GP.

It's been warm here, but not too hot. It absolutely poured with rain from about 1-4pm. I saw my sister-in-law, we had a pub lunch and went to a garden centre, then back here for a cuppa before I took her home at 7pm. It's rained for a further 2 hours (Mr Coooper isn't happy about staying in). Love to all x

I,m feeling so sad tonight - my visit to see my son has had to be postponed due to several problems. I could nearly feel the hugs and now they are so far away again. How we love our children.

HVDY- glad all is ok with your son again. We can’t help worrying about those we love. Hope you enjoyed your lunch with your SiL- you,ll have lots to talk about I bet.
EllieAnne- well done with the phone call. You could always call the surgery and say you forgot to mention the high BP as they might bring the appointment forward as a result.
Doodle- isn’t this cooler weather lovely. Went for a walk this morning in light rain - bliss.
SweetPeaSue- yes we all believe you and care so much that you are suffering as you are. I,m glad you have a new councellor - I hope,she helps you as much as you deserve.Good luck with the GP Appt on Thursday.
Annie- thank you for the poem- you always know just the right ones to help.
Grandyma Welcome- so,sorry you feel so bad- it’s such a lonely feeling isn’t it. We are all here for you and will always listen and try to help.
Take care allx

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Oh Scaredycat I’m so sorry. You so much wanted to see him.
Yes we do love them so which it why it hurts so much when they are suffering. Yes I’m pleased it’s cooler too.
HVDY I bet your SIL was pleased to see you. Nice of you to take her out for a bit. Yes we have had rain too but not much.
Annie hope you are ok. x
Take care all

ScaredyCat How disappointing. I hope it won't be too long before you can see your son and his family. Yes, we never stop loving them

Doodle Oh, that's a worry for you all. Do they know what's causing your GS's behaviour? How old is he? Often, children act up because they're unable to say what's bothering them (we found that with our GDs) or they haven't always got the vocabulary to be able to explain.

HVDY my DGS is in his late teens. His problems are ongoing due to depression and anxiety. This has been the case all his life. It is so very sad.

Scaredycat Oh no. I'm so sorry. I do hope it will be a short-lived problem and the visit will take place in the not too distant future. Its such a tremendous disappointment for you. That hug will be waiting for you.
Doodle Thinking of you and so very sorry for this latest upset. You will be worried about your grandson and your family. If only we could make things better. Sending you love and a prayer.
Grandyma You sound very depressed and I believe your family can see you need help. I'm sorry you're feeling so bad. I think seeing your GP and explaining how you feel would be a start and don't be afraid of medication if it's thought it will help.
EllieAnne That seems a long time to wait for an appt. Good for you, making that call. We have a blood pressure monitor for DH. I think Dr's now approve of keeping an eye on it at home if you are aware it can be high. They will not disapprove.

Hope everyone has a peaceful night.

Doodle I'm sorry to hear that. We on BD know how debilitating depression and anxiety can be, but it's such a shame when it happens to young people. All we can do as parent/grandparents is offer support, understanding and a listening ear. We never stop worrying about our families, do we? x

Hi Grandyma I'm a big believer in therapy but I wasn't in a bad enough way for it. I did means based counselling and it was so helpful.

Scaredycat hope you get a visit soon

So awful how many young people have mental health issues.

I have been struggling to enjoy my visit, I can't keep my brain in the real world. Bloods tomorrow

Hi all x

Doodle I so understand, sending a cwtch x

Scaredycat what an awful disappointment, you are so
longing for that hug , I haven’t seen my younger daughter for over two years, we FaceTime every day but it doesn’t make up
for the longing for the hug, hope you get that hug soon my love x

Ellie Anne good for you making the phone call , definitely a
?. Wish you hadn’t held back with sharing all your health problems, if you think you have high blood pressure you realy
must say so, it’s uncomfortable telling some of your health worries but it’s the only way to see a doctor x

Sweetpeasue so relived to learn you are to see your GP x

HVDY it’s good you have taken acceptance, we cannot change the past so acceptance helps us move forward x

Grandyma welcome to Black Dog, do share when ever you
wish, we all understand depression and anxiety. I have had
counselling and it helped. Do speak to your GP first and get
a diagnosis, if the diagnosis is depression your GP may refer
you to the mental health team.

If you choose to find a counsellor do take care, they can charge
high fees and some are not qualified, also there is counselling
for different mental health problems x

I haven’t posted a link for different therapies for ages, will do so.

Friends today I have an appointment with a physiotherapist,
it has taken 20 months since my last appointment! I will know if it’s acceptance time or not. Prayers / caring thoughts please.

How is everyone?

Just need to rant!
Believe I've a urine infection. Wouldn't know if it's the second since last week or same one. In pain all morning. Told nuser will ring back. Urine samples need to be sent off by 2. Rang again and asked to put sample in. DH just taken it. No one seems to know what happened to one taken last Tuesday!!

Oh sending you lots of luck for your physio appt Annie and a prayer. X

Anniebach I'm so pleased you've got a Physio appointment at long last. Best of luck x
SweetPeaSue Oh, no, again? Have you been given more antibiotics? I hope it soon clears up, it's not pleasant. x

Hope all on BD have had a decent day. It's been grey and has rained on and off. It's still humid. I met met sister-in-law (widow of late brother) and we had a mooch round the shops, a pub lunch, then coffee and cake in a cafe. I've just got home. I feel worn out! I only got about 5 hours' sleep last night (that boy )x

Sweetpeasue thank you for your thoughts. Your prayers are much appreciated. I can’t believe your first sample got lost. Now you’re still in pain and no treatment yet. Not surprised you feel like a rant what with everything else you are dealing with. Phone again tomorrow and ask for the results. It shouldn’t take that long for them to come back.
HVDY thank you. This latest problem has knocked me for six. Apart from prayer I can’t see a way out so just hoping and praying as I have been for so many years,
Nice of you to meet up with your SiL. Hope you had a good day. Oh dear is Mr Cooper in the dog house so to speak.
Violetsky I’m so pleased you found the counselling helpful.
It doesn’t help everyone. Hope your blood test goes ok and your results are fine.
Annie thank you for your understanding.
I do hope your physiotherapy appointment went well, I know I’m the past they have been so disappointing. It’s about time you got some proper help.
Ellie Anne hope you’ve relaxed a bit now you have an appointment.
Scaredycat DH and I went for a walk today for the first time in ages due to Covid. We have been waiting for thunderstorms all day but nothing so far so we went out with rain jackets and sweltered. It’s very dark and threatening now but still not a drop of rain. I went out and watered the hanging baskets earlier. I was hoping I wouldn’t have to bother if the rain came but decided I couldn’t wait any longer,
Hope you’ve had a good day.

Doodle- I am so sorry you have such worry at the moment. Your poor son and his family- a young person with MH problems is a terrible strain on a family. My sisters 2 boys have mental health problems although they are not behavioural ones like your DGS. It must make you fearful for his safety apart from anything else.
We too have been waiting for the promised thunder and rain- but not a drop. You must have boiled on your walk.
I will be thinking of you
tonight and hope you manage to get some sleep as you must feel exhausted with all the emotions you are going through .x
HVDY- oh Mr Cooper has been up to his nocturnal tricks again- bet he got more sleep than you though!! Hope this evening you are enjoying a rest after what sounds like a lovely but tiring day.
VioletSky- I do hope you have been able to relax with your son but I know what you mean when you can’t stop your brain from interfering . Hope you get your bloods done ok.
Annie- I didn’t realise it was so long since you had seen your younger daughter. I hope you get a hug soon.
Fingers crossed that the new physio will be able to help you be more comfortable and not muck you up like the last one did.
SweetPeaSue- what on earth is going on wit( your results. No wonder you feel like ranting it really is not good enough.
I feel angry on your behalf.
Love to all

Scaredycat what a lovely and kind post. Thank you. x

Annie did physio go OK?

sweetpeasue uti are awful, hope you feel better soon. I can't believe they let you down like that.

Bloods all done. Usual struggle finding a vein. Fingers crossed my thyroid is behaving

Doodle I do hope that your GS gets the professional help he needs and that his MH problems get sorted out. It is so hard to see our loved ones struggle and not be able to help. My Son1 had a bad mental breakdown a few years back and was off work for 6 months. I felt so helpless, unable to do anything really but be there to listen when he felt able to talk about things.

SweetPea Sue, ScaredyCat, Anniebach, VioletSky, all on BD - hope you all have a restful night. Mr Cooper had to be carried into the house last night at 12.30 - he wanted to stay out, under the canopy part near the shed, when it was pouring with rain (I got rather wet). Silly boy. I'm not having his nonsense night . x

HVDY we have the same issue, slightly soggy looking cats under the garden table but they won't come in.

One has taken offence to a turtle garden decoration and has spent 3 days trying to build the courage up to go and smack it with her paw. She will watch it for an hour or two, creep closer and closer but every time there is a slight gust of wind or a noise she runs away from it. Then the whole process starts over. She got really close this morning with her paw ready to slap it and a passing car ruined it

Anniebach I do hope your physio appt went well and you are going to get more help. It's been so long since you saw your younger daughter, you will miss seeing her so much. How is your MT getting on with her new job?
HVDY Sounds like a great afternoon with your sister-in-law. Mr Cooper is ruling the roost! Hope he let's you sleep tonight.
Scaredycat It's been quite warm here today but we had some light rain yesterday and some drizzle this morning. Hopefully you will get some too as walking when it's very warm is not as refreshing. You're angry on my behalf and I'm sad on your behalf about the disappointment about the postponed meet up with your son.
Violetsky Hope you're managing to enjoy your son's visit and can relax soon.
Doodle I so wish these further worries will be lifted soon. We would do anything to help our families. It's so hard to see them in distress and feel helpless. I hope your DGS will get all the help he can right now. Will continue to offer prayers. Sending love.
EllieAnne Hope you're OK. Take care of yourself as well as your caring of others.

Well I got call back after ringing surgery again as I was truly on my knees. DH had taken in urine sample. Nurse prescribed antibiotics as sample showed infection with protein and blood cells. She'd recovered the result from test last week and said though blood cells, no infection but had already taken different antibiotics given by Dr last week anyway. Pain of infection eased a little. Just don't understand as yesterday had to leave husband with groceries in supermarket and rush to loo with pain and diarrhoea. I wish I could stop thinking the worst.
Many of us having fears and worries right now. Thinking of you all and wishing you all a peaceful night.

As it turns out, son is here for a month due to a mix up with tenancy so plenty of time now and he has picked up some work here too

*VioletSky *So pleased you have your son here for a nice long visit.
You must dread the bloods. I have that problem too. You most likely will know this but was advised to be very well hydrated before bloods taken. Supposed to help I think.