Female sterilisation.

I was sterallised at the age of 32 and it was the best decision i have EVER made.

I was sterilised in 1982 when my son reached his first birthday ….hospital wouldn’t do it before then. I was 31. No husband permission needed.

I don’t know how old you are VioletSky but I had no problem getting my sterilisation on the NHS in 1982 when my third daughter was 6 month old.
I had had 4 C sections (not advisable apparently) and my uterus had been close to rupturing when D 3 was delivered, so it was a no-brainier.
If DH and I had split up and he subsequently wanted (more) children with another partner that would not have been affected but there was no way I could contemplate another pregnancy - and accidents can happen.

I had prolapse repair and sterilisation done with no problem when third child was 2 in 1986. My only worry was it was done internally so no visible evidence ?

Maw mid 40s, i have children ranging from adult to primary

I had a mini lap operation when my second child was 6 weeks old. That was in 1979.
The only incision was through my navel so no scar visible.

I was casually offered sterilisation in the 1980s when I had to have the placenta removed after child no 3 was born. The last thing I said to the obstetrician as I drifted off under the anaesthetic was “if you sterilise me, I’ll sue you”. I went on to have two more children, and then chose to have my tubes clipped as a day case in my mid 40s.

I was sterilised in 1972, at the age of 28, I had 5 children by then. I`ve never regretted it.

I was refused a sterilisation too at 30 even though I had loads too many children, one disabled

I was sterilised n 1972 at 28 during my second caesarean section.
My DS1 and I had almost died during his birth by EMCS.I never wanted to have another after this happened but, as the saying goes, things happen. At my first ante natal appointment the consultant told me or rather demanded that I have my tubes tied as in his words '' We cannot cut you open everytime you have a baby''.I was given no counselling but after what happened the first time I was too scared to refuse.
I had a lot of regrets afterwards in spite of this.Suddenly everyone I knew was pregnant or just had a baby.This was made worse by my MIL telling that I had committed a mortal sin and there was no longer any hope for me.
I learnt to live with it over the years and now I am a proud grandmother and great grandmother, courtesy of my DS2

Downtoearth

pinkprincess

I was sterilised n 1972 at 28 during my second caesarean section.
My DS1 and I had almost died during his birth by EMCS.I never wanted to have another after this happened but, as the saying goes, things happen. At my first ante natal appointment the consultant told me or rather demanded that I have my tubes tied as in his words '' We cannot cut you open everytime you have a baby''.I was given no counselling but after what happened the first time I was too scared to refuse.
I had a lot of regrets afterwards in spite of this.Suddenly everyone I knew was pregnant or just had a baby.This was made worse by my MIL telling that I had committed a mortal sin and there was no longer any hope for me.
I learnt to live with it over the years and now I am a proud grandmother and great grandmother, courtesy of my DS2

pink princess That consultant should have been struck off. I had C sections in 73,75,77 and 81 .
Your story makes me very sad but I am glad things have turned out well despite the attitudes you describe.

I have no comment on the NHS.

Had my tubes tied age 37, and 3 children, no issues getting it done. That was in Australia in 2000.

in answer to original question of why it is done less now everywhere -I think 2 reasons.

1. contraception, particularly long term contraception like implanon and mirena, are much more reliable and user friendly.

2. More men are taking up the option of vasectomy instead

My dh had a vasectomy in the early 80s and remember at that time it was commonly women being sterilised, a much more complicated procedure than the much simpler vasectomy. I could never understand why once again it was women taking responsibility for family planning.
It’s a long time since I have come across this and assume it is because modern contraception is much better now.

I decided when I was 37 that 2 children were enough for me. My husband worked in the Oil industry and also played away a lot ( although he always denied it) I had to get his permission in 1976 to have it done on the NHS.. The waiting time was 15 months so I decided to have it done in the private hospital. It cost £150 at that time with one overnight stay in the hospital. I never regretted it although my mother was horrified at the time. I got divorced in 1989.

MawtheMerrier

Thankyou very much