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Anniebach Sun 18-Sept-22 15:04:41

Content warning - this thread discusses suicidal feelings. This Thread is for support, understanding and sharing of
all mental health problems

seastar Sat 24-Sept-22 02:07:25

Sweetpeasue you sound a really genuine nice lady- keep talking on GN as much as you need or want.. There are some great people on here who make a lot of sense. Let them know how you are feeling . Talking about it really does help.

Sweetpeasue Sat 24-Sept-22 02:36:15

That's a kind thing for you to say seastar. As you have said, some kind words at the right times makes a huge amount of difference. They don't always have to be from professional MH people even though they're excellently trained. I'm so pleased you've found some helpful people here. Thank you. I wish you well.

Sweetpeasue Sat 24-Sept-22 02:41:42

Though do seek help from your GP if you feel very bad about things.

Whiff Sat 24-Sept-22 05:46:01

Sweetpeasue just wanted to see how you are feeling today? Hopefully a bit better.

Sweetpeasue Sat 24-Sept-22 05:54:27

Dear Whiff. I've been laid on sofa and husband on chair. I've not closed my eyes or slept at all. Mind doesn't stop working. So very kind of you to care
You've so much of your own troubles. You must look after yourself

Sweetpeasue Sat 24-Sept-22 06:04:46

I really don't think anyone will want me on here and I certainly wouldn't blame anyone. They all have problems. It's not fair. But I'm not your problem Whiff. You're such a lovely person and you've been through so much. You've always touched my heart, every time I see a post of yours. You've a lovely sense of humour too. I'm so sorry for all of your suffering. Particularly your dear husband - - was going to say passing or death but death seems so harsh and there was a thread about wording it, don't know what you prefer though I'm guessing death). Thank you for messaging me last night. I was in such a state I could hardly read the messages at all. I really didn't think there would be anything after that meltdown or whatever it was because nothing seemed real. But here I am, and have to face being me.

FannyCornforth Sat 24-Sept-22 06:06:45

Hello Sue, I’m here too. I just sent you a pm, but decided to post on here too
Good morning Whiff

Sweetpeasue Sat 24-Sept-22 06:12:56

Oh dear. I ve caused so much trouble. I just don't know what happened. I've never been like that before

FannyCornforth Sat 24-Sept-22 06:16:43

Hello again Sue
I’m sure it isn’t anything that can’t be sorted out.
What trouble do you think that you might have caused?
Like I said in my pm, you must treat yourself kindly. You have been unwell. Your inner voice needs to talk to yourself compassionately. You deserve kindness thanks

Sweetpeasue Sat 24-Sept-22 06:20:04

I'm in tears because you're all too kind to me but thank you. I just don't know what to say. I guess I'm more unwell than I thought. But thank you.

FannyCornforth Sat 24-Sept-22 06:40:41

You are most welcome
I’ve just made myself a hot chocolate.

Wyllow3 Sat 24-Sept-22 07:39:09

And I've just made myself a latte Fanny. enjoy your choc. Not a good night but I'm driving up to see family this morning (so lots of coffee to start).

Holding you in my thoughts Sweetpeasue. This is just an idea, non professional advice, maybe you take meds already, and not for all, but a little extra to help you in this time?

Catch up..much later on.

HowVeryDareYou Sat 24-Sept-22 08:03:04

SweetPeaSue I'd gone to bed at 10.30 so I've only just seen the various posts from after that. How are you feeling? Do you take anything to help you to sleep? (if not, perhaps you'd benefit from something?) I hope today will be better for you x

What kind people there are on here.

How is everyone this morning? x

Ellie Anne Sat 24-Sept-22 08:05:33

Just checking up on you sweet pea sue. You got through the night xxx
Of course you are wanted here. We may not know you in person but we care so much and this is your safe place. Keep talking to us but speak to your dr and counsellor too. You must be exhausted. Try to get some sleep.

Doodle Sat 24-Sept-22 09:59:22

Seastar what a lovely post. So pleased you are feeling a bit better.
‘Toughen up’. What a useless thing to say to someone. We cannot help being sensitive and I have been the same since I was a child too. Some people go through life not caring and others don’t. You are not alone in feeling out of sync with the world. Many are like that.
Take care and keep posting here whenever you like.

Doodle Sat 24-Sept-22 10:08:23

Morning Fanny nice of you to support Sweetpeasue hope you are doing ok.
Wyllow hope your journey goes well and you have a good time with your family.
HVDY having a lazy breakfast here. Got on the scales this morning and felt like giving up the diet but I will persevere ……perhaps the scales aren’t working properly ?
Hope you have a good day. Got the girls with you I think.
Morning Mr Cooper.
Ellie Anne it’s funny isn’t it how we can care so much for people we don’t know but I guess it’s shared experience with others and an understanding of their worries. Hope you have a good weekend.
Annie so pleased your girls have made up. Must be a relief.
Do you have any help coming in over the weekend. x
Forgot to say Sweetpeasue I have PMd you. Of course you are wanted.

HowVeryDareYou Sat 24-Sept-22 10:53:16

Doodle I start diets, lose a bit, put it on, start a diet again...then repeat, repeat. Hopeless. Mr Cooper has been picked up (like a baby) but GD1, she sways with him grin.

Doodle Sat 24-Sept-22 11:11:32

HVDY Mr Cooper is obviously a very loved boy.
Yes the diet isn’t going well at the moment. I like food too much ?

HowVeryDareYou Sat 24-Sept-22 11:56:03

I love food. Carbohydrates and sweet stuff are my 2 weaknesses. I've just had 2 Cream Crackers with cheese, then a Curly Wurly grin

Sweetpeasue Sat 24-Sept-22 11:58:03

I WILL come back. I'm trying to find words to say how sorry I am to a few GN in pms. Of course there aren't any words. Finger going numb as use phone. Had no sleep yet. Thank you all for your very lovely messages. I didn't know what to expect. I've shocked myself. Will need to see Dr on Monday. Can't write anymore at present. Xxx

Sweetpeasue Sat 24-Sept-22 11:59:29

It's just not like me to do something like that.

Sparklefizz Sat 24-Sept-22 12:01:24

flowers for Sweetpeasue

Anniebach Sat 24-Sept-22 12:03:03

Hi all x

Ellie Anne yes my love, you are unhappy, it can be as
distressing as depression , the one difference is medication for
depression, no medication for deep unhappiness, we have to
do what we can ourselves to cope with it x

HVDY what’s food ? ? x

Doodle I have a carer for Saturdays now, she is very nice,my
Monday to Friday carer comes Sunday now until I can find
someone to do Sundays, very difficult.

Yes I am so relieved my granddaughters have sorted things out,
i so worry about them, both now have good careers but there
are scars which are understandable x

Joyce still plodding my love, we are here for you x

Scaredycat have you had a paddle? Your holiday must be
wonderful x

How is everyone ?

Scaredycat Sat 24-Sept-22 12:03:36

Morning dear friends.
I too went to bed early and have just read all the nights posts.
SweetPeaSue - somehow you got through that traumatic night . You are stronger than you think. But please please get help if today proves too much for you.
You have caused no trouble just reached out to those that care.
Sending lovexx
Wyllow - wishin* you a safe journey and a happy stay with your family?
I will come back tomorrow but today I feel a bit anxious so will walk by the sea to clear my head.
HVDY,Doodle,EllieAnn,Whiff,FannyCornforth,SeaStar and all those I may have missed. I wish you as good a day as possible.
See you all tomorrow.

Whiff Sat 24-Sept-22 12:14:10

Sweetpeasue the lovely thing about GN that there are a lot of lovely people on different forums threads. We are all human and all have our share of life's ups and downs. But here we can admit how we feel and know we are not alone in feeling how we are.

I joined GN in 2019 when my second buyer for my house pulled out. I didn't want to burden the children with how I was feeling. But I found I wasn't alone and some had more buyers pull out on them than me. Then I found other threads for me to join.

GN is like a family we don't always agree but people understand. I found sharing has helped me as I get it out of my system and I don't feel as bad as I did. Because of all the help I have had I try and help where I can.

In my life I treat people the way I want to be treated. I can be nasty if someone is nasty to me. Even if I have to complain about something I do it nicely because the person you speak to it isn't there fault but faceless people higher up who never speak to their customers.

For anyone wanting support in losing weight Pears wow thread on dieing and exercise forum is lovely. Like here we support eachother . And have tips on how to do things. Everyone has a different way to lose weight which works of them.

I love hearing about people's pets as I don't have nor want one. But love all the funny things about your cats and dogs etc. At my craft group one of the woman has 2 cats she brought her wool in the other week as the cat she calls evil cat had decided to play with all the balls and as you can imagine it was a mess. She said she wouldn't mind but why does she only do it to her expensive yarn.

As usual I ramble on. But that's me in real life ?. Hope you all have the best day you can.

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