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Diverticulitis and mental health

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barmcake Fri 14-Oct-22 10:54:14

I have just returning home after visiting my brother who was released from hospital with a sever diverticulitis attack. He was mentally o.k. when I left, just a little down. Had a phone call last night that he was missing. A neighbour said he was dropped off by taxi wearing just an incontinence pad and shirt. Neighbour said he saw him handing over large amount of money to taxi driver. Just had another call to say carers can't get in. Has anyone had a similar experience. I'm 5 hours away and have to use public transport. Any advice welcome.

Greyduster Fri 14-Oct-22 15:28:57

Barmcake I’m so sorry.? Whether he discharged himself from the hospital or not, questions really should be asked.

25Avalon Fri 14-Oct-22 15:31:41

Barmcake how terrible. I really feel for you. There will be a lot to come out and you are going to need all your strength. Just remember everyone on here is rooting for you.

Barmeyoldbat Fri 14-Oct-22 15:35:40

So so sorry

teabagwoman Fri 14-Oct-22 17:38:33

So sorry to hear this Barmcake, look after yourself.

Pudding123 Fri 14-Oct-22 19:08:06

So sorry for this terrible situation Barmcake although you will never get to meet any of us please try and take some comfort from our loving thoughts ..I feel so sad for you.

Harris27 Fri 14-Oct-22 19:12:58

So desperately sorry.

Iam64 Fri 14-Oct-22 19:13:54

Barmcake, tough situation for you. I echo the advice to get a welfare check. In the past, police and adult services would have done this together. Maybe now the police are in reality the only emergency service but they’re good at what they do

Do yiu know your brothers GP? If so ring them.

As others have said uti can be awful in triggering confusion]
Best of luck

Shinamae Fri 14-Oct-22 19:16:07

Iam64

Barmcake, tough situation for you. I echo the advice to get a welfare check. In the past, police and adult services would have done this together. Maybe now the police are in reality the only emergency service but they’re good at what they do

Do yiu know your brothers GP? If so ring them.

As others have said uti can be awful in triggering confusion]
Best of luck

Go back and read the thread from the beginning

Shinamae Fri 14-Oct-22 19:16:48

So very sorry for your loss ??

icanhandthemback Fri 14-Oct-22 19:17:55

I am so sorry, *barmcake@, what terrible news. I hope you get some answers as it sounds as if the taxi driver needs to be questioned, let alone the people who discharged him.

Grannyben Fri 14-Oct-22 19:23:05

I am so very sorry, what a terrible situation. May your dear brother rest in peace.

emmasnan Fri 14-Oct-22 19:47:29

I'm so sorry to hear this, a dreadful time for you.

JaneJudge Fri 14-Oct-22 19:51:14

I'm sorry barmcake x

sodapop Fri 14-Oct-22 20:13:13

So sorry barmcake what a tragedy for all of you thanks

Wyllow3 Fri 14-Oct-22 20:28:51

25Avalon

Barmcake how terrible. I really feel for you. There will be a lot to come out and you are going to need all your strength. Just remember everyone on here is rooting for you.

Barmcake xxx
Your brother just couldn't bear it anymore, holding you in the light while YOU try to bear it all.

but hold on to this

You could have done no more
you couldn't have "saved" him
he was not in his right mind at the time
he was in such pain physically and mentally he felt. "no choice"

(it does sound as if he self-discharged and just did a runner, but time will tell)

Nancy0 Sat 15-Oct-22 23:29:13

So sorry for your loss barmcake...such a tragedy.

Deedaa Sat 15-Oct-22 23:45:11

So sorry for your tragic loss barmcake Really lost for words but hope you get some comfort from our good wishes.

barmcake Sun 16-Oct-22 04:47:29

I realised I've been in the same clothes since it happened. Just had a lovely bath. Our estranged family is coming together after about 20 years. Sister coming today. Bungalow is a crime scene and we have to wait for inquest etc.

silverlining48 Sun 16-Oct-22 09:07:26

A dreadful shock for you barmcake. I am so sorry.

Shelflife Sun 16-Oct-22 09:32:17

Barmcake, I am so very sorry and sad to learn your tragic news, you must be devastated. So glad you can "share
with strangers" and that it is some comfort to you. I hope in time you will find the strength to talk to someone it may help. The Samaritans are a wonderful listening ear - not personal friends but a real voice from a compassionate person.
I, along with all the lovely people on GN send you sympathy and
(((( hugs )))). Thinking of you. ???

baubles Sun 16-Oct-22 09:41:17

Barmcake I’m so very sorry.
My sincere condolences to you. ?

Georgesgran Sun 16-Oct-22 09:44:08

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Blondiescot Sun 16-Oct-22 09:45:43

Barmcake, nothing any of us can say will really help ease your pain at this tragic outcome, but please know that we are thinking of you. flowers

Wyllow3 Sun 16-Oct-22 10:10:01

Aw, Barmcake xxxxx

HeavenLeigh Sun 16-Oct-22 10:15:45

Please know everyone is thinking of you at this very sad time. Sending you a virtual hug and ? so very sorry