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Prolapse. Decision to make.

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Ohmother Fri 30-Dec-22 06:51:44

I have the prolapse where the bowel falls towards and narrows my vagina. I am still sexually active. Do I A) leave it, but it won’t get better and may even get worse. B) have a ring put in that helps to hold it back or C) Go for the operation if it doesn’t involve the mesh that has sadly left a lot of women in pain?

Any help from any experience welcome, please.

MissAdventure Fri 30-Dec-22 17:46:01

I wonder if there is a benefit to having the op sooner rather than later?

I would have thought so, in terms of the amount of prolapse?

SueDonim Fri 30-Dec-22 17:50:26

I waited over 2.5yrs for my op, MissAdventure and my condition definitely worsened in that time and restricted my life. I hadn’t realised by how much until I had the repair and suddenly, life was different!

There’s also the question of age - are you likely to recover more easily, the younger you are?

MissAdventure Fri 30-Dec-22 17:58:09

I'm sure it must be better, medically, to get it done out of the way.
Stuff "springs back" when you're young(er)

Maggymay Fri 30-Dec-22 18:27:34

My prolapse is getting worse stage 4 now, pessaries do not work
I had a shelf pessary recently fitted it was very uncomfortable and when it was removed the Doctor struggled for 20 minutes to remove it.
There is a 2 year waiting list after being referred,so I think I am going to look at having it done privately,I am 72 and just want to enjoy life again.

Delila Fri 30-Dec-22 18:42:23

Maggymay, do you mind if I ask whether you’ve had another pessary fitted in the meantime?

Iam64 Fri 30-Dec-22 18:49:15

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Maggymay Fri 30-Dec-22 19:00:27

Delila This was the second pessary I tried the ring pessary fell out immediately and the shelf pessary was so painful to insert and even more painful taking out left me sore and bruised.
My Doctor said it is really too advanced now for another pessary.

Delila Fri 30-Dec-22 19:18:35

Thanks Maggiemay, that’s awful. It sounds an unacceptably long wait for, presumably, surgery, so I suppose it will have to be the private route. I hope you can get things moving and get back to enjoying life, the sooner the better.

Elusivebutterfly Fri 30-Dec-22 19:48:34

I had surgery for prolapse. My GP recommended surgery as an alternative to possibly being very elderly frail in a nursing home and still having to have a pessary changed.
I knew I had a vaginal prolapse which needed hysterectomy. During my six month wait for this the prolapse worsened from stage 2 to stage 4 (the worst). I also needed bladder and bowel prolapse repair.
I would definitely recommend surgery. Recovery was slow but I felt so much better and prolapse won't go away.

B9exchange Sat 31-Dec-22 00:21:32

I had a severe prolapse repaired with a hysterectomy at the young age of 39, which lasted for 27 years, and then I had a vault prolapse repair 7 years ago. I didn't want mesh used, but the surgeon insisted it would be fine, and I haven't had any trouble since, though I am glad it is no longer being used. I would say go for the op, pay privately if you can, it just makes such a difference, like getting your life back!

Sophiasnana Sun 01-Jan-23 12:40:22

I have had two prolapse ops (mesh inserted) and they worked for a few months, then it was worse than ever. I had a Gellhorn pessary fitted two years ago, and its now great. Downside is you cant have sex with this inserted, and it needs to be inserted, checked and removed as an out patient at hosp twice yearly.

GrannyIris5 Mon 08-May-23 13:36:41

I had a bladder repair with mesh and bowel prolapse operation in 2009. Bladder caused leaks again after few years and some sort of prolapse started in December. Wish somebody had told me these ops weren’t that permanent. Hope to get ring pessary this week and appointment with physio end of month. Who’d be a woman?

Riley64 Fri 14-Jun-24 09:51:34

Hi just been told at GP I have a bladder prolapse just wondered if anyone else suffered the horrendous pain I am having and what did you take to relieve it?

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Debbi58 Fri 14-Jun-24 14:26:00

I had the surgery 3 years ago at 57 , I had no option as was severe. Op went well and touch wood, no problems since . I'm no longer sexually active though. They stiched the entrance to my vagina too much 🤦‍♀️ , but as hubbie has problems in that area . I don't see the point in having further surgery to correct it . Sorry if that's too much info, but if it's important to you, might be worth mentioning it to your surgeon

Ohmother Fri 14-Jun-24 16:02:08

Update as I haven’t been on here for a while. I saw the consultant gynae and she gave me the option of having it operated on, day surgery, 12 weeks recovery. Said there was a nine month waiting list. I’ve put myself on the list and will decide for good last minute. When I find the correct medical term for what I’ve got I’ll post it.

Ohmother Fri 14-Jun-24 16:05:45

rectocele