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Should I feel so exhausted?

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Ellypat Mon 12-Jun-23 20:18:15

I live with my DD, SIL, and two DGS, very energetic and noisy five and two year olds.Both parents work, so I drive the kids to and from school, daycare, and after school activities. I also look after them until at least one parent finishes work, around 6pm, and also on Sunday afternoons so the parents can have time together. I do about 20 hours childcare a week on average. I’m 71 with type 1 diabetes, but in reasonable health. The problem is that I always feel exhausted, even first thing in the morning when I wake up after a good night’s sleep. My doctor has run various tests but can find nothing wrong. I desperately need to find more energy, because this arrangement isn’t going to improve for years. I suspect my daughter thinks I’m just lazy, as she constantly encourages me to go swimming, hiking etc. But it’s an effort to put one foot in front of the other most days. Is this normal for my age?

Hithere Thu 15-Jun-23 22:41:25

People are not mind readers

If you don't tell them it is too much and what you can do for them (if anything), they are not taking advantage of you

Musicgirl Fri 16-Jun-23 19:21:23

Hithere, I could not disagree with you more. Anyone with an ounce of compassion would be able to see that someone in their seventies is likely to have less energy and tire more easily than they used to. Anyone with a degree of conscience would also know that the present arrangements are totally unfair. Elkypat has also put a lot of money into this project and should be treated with the respect she deserves and to reciprocate the love she has given out. It is because her family is behaving so selfishly that the situation has arisen in the first place. I understand that you have young children yourself and I am sure that you get tired by the end of the day. Imagine if you were thirty or forty years older how much more exhausted exhausting it would be.