Black Dog 18

Candy no need to apologise for not posting, or for replying to even just one person that you feel you want to answer. Just pop in say hi if you feel like it.

Then I remembered how VERY fortunate I am. This is what I try to do. When I was younger I helped at our local RNIB, and that made me realise how fortunate I was.
Your visit to the sanctuary sounds lovely HVDY. I bet you're glad you made the effort.

EllieAnne, I'm sure you were relieved that it was ok with your friend. There must be a way to make friends, U3A, local library groups, (knit and natter) book club. Meetup groups, neighbourhood groups. But you need to be brave, and go. you've nothing to lose, if it doens't work out. "Feel the Fear and do it." as the book says. Are none of those a possibility?

Doodle goodness, you've such a lot to do , checking and looking after your husband. It must be imprtant too, to keep an eye on his temperature after having something as serious as sepsis. What do you do have to do if his BP is too low?
My BP is usually about 103/62 or thereabouts, but GP thinks that's ok. I'm doing my best to do a half hour walk each day to see if that helps. and drink plenty of water.
It's difficult to tell the cause of weakness , CFS/M.E. causes so many symptoms. But I'm feeling better. I've been sorting out my medical folder while listening to Taize on youtube. Might sound weird having a folder, but if doctors ask questions about tests, I would never remember.

Letting it out does help, Wyllow3.. I'm glad you managed the haircut. It always helps. It does take a huge effort to do simple things if you're feeling very down. There are times when you just do the actions mechanically that you have to do. Like making yourself get out of bed and into the shower. Not sure I'm explaining it right.
But you will feel better in time.xx

Thinking of you Sweetpeasue.
Goodnight everyone on BD. I hope it's a peaceful one.

Well done on getting the haircut Wyllow . Don’t give up on yourself. Remember that son and his family who love you.
Better times will come even if it doesn’t seem like it at the moment. x
nadateturbe I don’t have to check all those things all the time just if I think DH isn’t looking too good. Not sure about the low Bp to be honest. Will phone GP Monday. In the meantime he’s going to cut out one of his BP meds to see if that helps. He’s been feeling much better today.
Medical folder is a really good idea. DH has a whole drawer in the filing cabinet 🤣🤣. He has often been congratulated by the medics at hospital for being able to provide them will all sorts of information about his meds, weight, Bp etc. It’s a good idea.
Sleep well all

nadateturbe Has your BP always been so low? A friend of mine has the same but is perfectly ok. I keep hospital letters in a folder, too. For my own benefit, really.

EllieAnne I sympathise. As others have said, there must be some groups you could join, although it would mean being out of your comfort zone to go to one alone for the first time (I lack the confidence to do so but went to the day centre place alone and I'm glad I did)

Wyllow3 Well done getting your hair done. Better days will come, especially when you can get to see your family.

Doodle , Whiff, ScaredyCat, Candy6, SweetpeaSue, Allsorts, VioletSky, anyone not mentioned - hope your day is going as well as it can. x

My husbands had to be lowered Doodle as he was too sleepy. Hope the GP can help. Good foryour husband, its really helpful, essential even, to keep records..
HVDY I don't know really how how long it's been low.. But thanks for that information about your friend. Not much can be done about low BP. So I just try not to worry (as God says it achieves nothing).
Hope your day is good all BDs. We have a dry day here! 🙂
Just had a walk with someone who is lonely but won't try anything. I'm glad you were brave and went to the day centre. It's the only way.

Afternoon all, in earlier today. Went to watch GS play football. He’s so passionate about it and determined trip which I suppose is a trait which will bode well for him in the future. Called at the garden. Ente too. I’ve decided I want to grow some raspberries so bought some that fruit in the autumn 🤞.
Doodle you look after your DH really well. He must appreciate you looking out for him like that. Good you can do that to hopefully nip things in the bud before they get too serious.
Nadaterturbe I hope you enjoyed your walk. I’m toying with going but I think I may go for a swim instead then walk the dog later. Hope this nice weather holds! A medical file is a good idea. Good to organised I think.
HVDY how lovely visiting the sanctuary, must have been lovely. I like swans, so graceful but they can be quite nasty too. I used to walk my dogs around a lake near my old house and it was often a case of approach at your peril. Lovely though.
Wyllow well done on getting your haircut. It’s good you force yourself to do things even if you dont feel like it. Just a thought, have you ever thought of moving closer to your sister? She seems like she would be a good support to you and I know you often think about moving. None of my business I know but may be worth considering? The message from your son was lovely, treasure it.
Ellie Anne there’s a group online, I think it’s called meet-up. It’s for like minded people who want to do just that. I think they do walking and other activities. It might be worth a look.

Off for my swim now. It’s a bit of an effort to go but I know it’ll be worth it when I’m there. DD and family coming for tea (Sunday lunch). Missing my DS today, I wish he lived closer but I know I’m lucky in lots of ways so i’ll be ok. Wishing you all the best day possible xx

nadateturbe I've been going to the day centre (they don't call it that, but I used to run the same types of places and that's essentially what they are) for 2 years this coming December. I'm the youngest there ( 2 others a couple of years older than me go now) but the people who run it are all very friendly, and we all have a pleasant time. I tried a couple of things after my stroke - aerobics for stroke survivors (I was the fittest and youngest there and it was too easy for me so I dropped out after about 6 weeks) and a group for people with head injuries (unsuitable for me) as well as a Stroke Association group (I was the least affected person there so only went once). I haven't yet found "my" place, but it's ok.

Did you walk far? DH and I went to a nice park near us, fed the ducks and geese there, had an ice cream and a mooch round, for a couple of hours.

Candy6 Hope you enjoyed your swim. Have you got to cook for your family? It'll be nice to see them. When will you get to see your son next?

Hope ALL BDers have had a bit of sunshine today. n It's been lovely here but looks as if we might get rain x

Candy, hope you're not too tired to walk the dog after your swim.
The weather has been good today. We sat outside in the garden.
I remember walking around the lake at Hillsborough Castle and the swans wouldn't let me pass. I had to backtrack.
Lovely idea to grow fruit. I'm thinking of an apple tree.
Enjoy your visitors.
HVDY you may not have found your 'place' but it's still enjoyable company while you keep looking.
Short half hour along the seafront. Pleased with managing that. I actually painted for a half hour today too. Much better than yesterday 🙂.

nadateturbe DH has high BP so for his to be too low must mean his meds need looking at. Some people have naturally low BP and it can be fine for them. Nice of you to go for a walk with someone to keep them company.
Do you have any fruit trees in your garden already? My dad used to grow fruit and veg. Mum used to make lovely pies with the garden produce.
Seafront walk , how lovely.
HVDY my DH has numerous health folders. One for every condition he has. His hospital notes need a trolley of their own to transport them 🤣
I like the sound of your Day centre. A sociable group, good food and company of others.
Now you’ve made me fancy an ice-cream and I haven’t got any. Glad you and DH had a nice walk.
Candy I’ve learnt a lot over the years trying to keep DH fit and well, not his fault, poor man, that he has so many health problems.
Hope you had a good swim and a nice time with your family.
Quiet day for us today. Been lazy and not done much.

Dear BD friends, I'm not coping well at all, didn't get out, made myself eat etc, bad thoughts, making time pass is so hard.
I've read todays posts and was glad I'd come in and caught up and glad to hear of todays walks and swims. Will come in as much as I can.

xx all BD's

Sorry Doodle I meant my husbands meds brought his BP too low, so his dose had to be lowered. Iykwim. I think that's maybe the same. But let us know what GP says.
It's not really funny but you made me laugh about the trolley.

Thinking of you Wyllow3. Try to distract your brain if you can. Do not worry about posting. xx

So sorry Wyllow Although been absent I wonder how you are and think of you daily. You have it so hard with grief to bear. I pray that God will hold you up.

Not wanting to come in as not good. More lasting pain. Bladder never feels without lately. Head is so wooly and I can't think. Like it before ADs, bad depression. Crawling through days.Sorry, but I think of all BDs and read. I see no future without pain. MH nurse coming tomorrow. Take care all. X

Thank you for the caring here and sending it back I think of you all. Sweetpeasue understood. its hard to post this way, yes. Shame - hard to reach out.

nadateturbe ah yes I understand. Yes could well be the same.
Wyllow sorry you’re feeling so bad. Is it anxiety over your family visit do you think?
I’m glad you’re trying to eat. Did you manage Quakers online?
Don’t worry about posting, we’ll just be glad to see you when you do.
Sweetpeasue the ADs will take tome time to kick in. Hope you can manage to cope with them. Sorry the pain is bad and constant. Glad the MH nurse is coming to see you too. Hope you get some help from somewhere. Hope the pain eases.
All of you in my prayers every day. x

Sending a big virtual hug to all. Sweetpeasue Wyllow the rest of us are here thinking about you.

nadateturbe A walk along the seafront, how lovely. It must be very peaceful in the evening.

Doodle I told DH we need to have some fresh air and a bit of exercise every day, if we can. The ice cream was from the park cafe, and it was a proper Mr Whippy 99 with a flake and sauce . Lazy days are alright, we all need them.

Wyllow3* Anything in particular making you feel so low? The recent test? Look after yourself, and try to have something, even if it's just a sandwich or soup, perhaps.

SweetpeaSue Hope the pain eases off. The ADs take a couple of weeks or more to kick in. Stick with it. Hope you have a better night tonight.

Hope ALL BDers have a restful evening x

Aw just typed a post and lost it 😡 can’t do it again now as exhausted. Just to say sweetpeasue and Wyllow hang on in there, things will get better for you. Sending you both big hugs and I hope you manage some rest. We are here and thinking of you.
Wishing everyone else well too. xx

Wyllow and sweet pea sue I am thinking of you and wishing I could help.
I have checked out meet up but none in my area. Also u 3a but nothing appeals as yet.
Tbh I do have really good friends. They are happy to go for coffees but days out to nature reserve or places of interest are not possible either due to health or family.
One of my friends can only meet if her husband is doing something else. I just don’t understand that.

Candy and others who lose posts. I write in a draft email. Then select all, copy and paste into GN message box. Draft email saves automatically and can edit and add to it.
EllieAnne some partners don't like leaving their other half on their own. And some don't like being left. Wouldn't be my way, but we're all different.
U3A, I have a friend who is in the Book Group and doesn't read the books. She reads a summary of the book on Goodreads. She just goes for the chat and coffee. Is there nothing that would tempt you? You can also join and start your own group - days out to interesting places..

Sweetpeasue and Wyllow3 thinking of you. Hope MH appointment goes well Sweetpeasue.
Hope GP is helpful Doodle. Lovely memories of your mum and dad.

As Doodle says, remembering all BDs in my prayers. xx