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nadateturbe Thank you. That's right. Son1 moving into GF's, and Son2's family moving into his house. I've drafted a letter to the Practice Manager of the GP surgery.

ScaredyCat That's lovely, hope the weather stays fine for you. Enjoy your holiday.

SweetpeaSue I hope the pain stays away today. It must be awful. When do you see someone at the pain clinic?

Candy6 Have a nice time with your son.

EllieAnne Nytol might be worth a try. On occasion, I've even taken an antihistamine to make me drowsy enough to sleep.

It's a bright morning, so I'm going to get some things done at home, and then meet up with all the family for dinner this evening. Hope all BDers have a decent day x

Evening all, got the opportunity to respond properly now.
Doodle how different we are! I dislike autumn because of the onset of darker nights and then the dreaded winter. I never used to but since my depression got worse then I do. Spring is my favourite. Re. Your nails - mine are awful too but I now have something called “builder gel”on them. Not false nails but it strengthens them. It probably ruins your actual nails but I think what the hell, I’ll just keep having them done. I hope you enjoyed your visit to John Lewis. I love John Lewis but there’s not one very close but when I do go somewhere with one, then I go there. I’m the same as you with concentration, I flit a lot too but hadn’t give it a thought that it could be down to the internet. Your coat sounds lovely. Nice to have a bright colour to brighten up the dull winter days.
HVDY your lunch at the day centre sounded lovely. I like roast dinners 😋. Nice that your son and his partner are moving in together and they will be close you you. I expect you will love being on hand for babysitting & dog sitting duties. I love helping my daughter out when I can. Nice for your other son too! I think it makes us feel so good when our children are settled. Hope the situation with the surgery is sorted. It’s a shame you have to resort to formal complaints, you really shouldn’t have to. Hope you’ve got lots of jobs done today.
Sweetpeasue your physio didn’t sound helpful at all. Ridiculous assumption re the arthritis. I don’t really bake, mainly because I would eat them and I try to watch my diet. Your blueberry muffins sound delicious. I’m sorry your pain came back yesterday. How is it today? I hope you’ve managed to have a decent day. Some good suggestions by Doodle
Nadaterturbe yes, the allergy thing is frustrating. When i had the first incident, I was away on holiday too. I googled it and apparently the hot weather can make bowel problems worse and it was very, very hot! It’s happened once or twice since though since we got back 🤷‍♀️. Your analogy of the caravan being ‘an investment in happiness” is a really good one. You are lucky your DH can cook. I wish mine did. I hope you can both get out and about soon. I need to be out and about my MH would be so much worse if I couldn’t. Do you think you could manage to get to your caravan?
Scaredycat hope you’re having a nice holiday. The flat sounds idyllic. I would love that view too ❤️.
Ellie Anne I hope your day has been ok. I tried Nytol but didn’t seem to get any benefit but I’ve heard of people that have. My sleep has only really improved since I started the ADs although sometimes I think they make me too tired.
Wyllow thinking about you as always and sending much ❤️.
I’ve spent the afternoon with my son which was lovely but the problem is, and I know it’s so minor compared to others, I can’t let myself enjoy being with him too much because it hurts so much more when he leaves. I think I’ve said before, it’s a strange reaction and one which used to be so much worse before the ADs but it still triggers me. I also think that the fact he’s moved away and living the life I would have wanted has made me feel like I’ve wasted my life and should have done more. I have regrets and I feel guilty for having them as I should be grateful for what I have got I know. I always seem to be chasing something and it’s just not there. I’m glad for him though obviously. So Sorry to go on but it helps to get it out there sometimes. I’ll be ok.
Love to all and especially those not personally mentioned xx

Candy when I said I liked autumn I meant the leaves changing and the lovely colours. I wasn’t thinking so much of the dark evenings so I understand your preference for spring.
We are lucky to have a John Lewis not too far away. It’s out of town so easy to park there. My DH doesn’t cook either. Just toast. I think we all have regrets. Looking back things we could do differently, different choices made. Problem is you never know where those different choices might have led you. Pleased you had a nice afternoon with your son.
nadateturbe I think it’s lovely you were so cross on behalf of Sweetpeasue. That shows real caring for others feelings. I too find it hard to understand why life seems to be so difficult.
Yes I love my new coat. It’s very light but I’m hoping it’s warm enough.
HVDY I could do with some fleece pyjamas too now the nights are getting colder. What will you do about the trousers, take them back or take them up….if you see what I mean?
How lovely your sons are both getting settled. You must be so pleased. Does your sons GF get on well with his girls and him with her son?
Scaredycat good to hear you’ve arrived safely. Your flat sounds lovely. I too would love a sea view. Hope the weather is kind to you and you are having a lovely time.
Sweetpeasue thank you for explaining. You obviously have a good understanding of your symptoms and what it’s all about. With regard to the painkillers, you remember you didn’t want to take ADs for fear of being addicted to them. Now you are taking them you feel your spirits have lifted a bit. It’s the same with pain killers. If you have a condition which causes you pain every day (or most days) you need something to counteract that pain so it doesn’t overtake your life. I’m not saying pregabalin will do that for you but there might be a drug out there that does help. Don’t be afraid to take it. DH takes so many different drugs but he needs these pain killers to allow him relief from the pain in his legs. The side effect is it makes him sleepy but at least he can have some relief during the day. I Hope you find something that works for you soon.
Ellie Anne I’m sure your son didn’t mean to upset you. It can happen so easily that we hurt others without knowing it. I’m sorry your DGS isn’t well. Hope he gets better soon.
Like my suggestion to Sweetpeasue, take whatever you need to get you through the day. I’ve never tried Nytol but being awake night after night is no good. Might be worth a go. Hope you enjoy your walk and sleep well.
Wyllow glad to see you posing every day. It helps knowing you’re still in touch. Take care xx

Candy Know what you mean about eating what you've baked. That was main reason I gave up baking after sons left home. Afraid I am tempted but try to freeze enough so I don't have them around. I'm sorry your visit from son is bittersweet. I too look back on things which I would have done differently. We cant go back to a crossroads and change direction taken but I hope we can learn something whatever road we take. Life is so hard.
Doodle I understand what you are saying about being open to trying new medication. Will keep that in mind if it comes to that point. It's difficult to gauge how often the pain will come and predictability. Didn't take aunt out this morning as had some bladder pain though it improve enough for us to go out ourselves. Felt guilty about not taking aunt but just couldn't cope with looking out for her. Ive had much better afternoon though had a short period of weird indescribable nerve pain above bladder. I wish I could understand it but I should be strong like your DH who has to put up with so much. How is your wrist? Hope your knees are beginning to feel benefit of the stepping exercise. Thanks so much for caring.
HVDY Hope youve had a lovely meal with your family today. I think the collection of red lesions are nowhere near as inflamed using the Sudacrem - they appear to be healing over. Told DH he must find out your address so if I need nursing care as I get older I can move closer! 😂
Nadateturbe Hope you and your DH have been ok today. Can't remember if you are both well enough to go to your caravan this weekend. You have such caring posts for everyone and I know you don't always have the energy.
Scaredycat Hope you're enjoying your time away.
Wyllow Thinking of you as always and sending love.
EllieAn e Have you been walking today? Hope this weekend wont be too hard for you.

Wishing all BDs and those reading a peaceful night. X

Candy6 I think we all have regrets sometimes. I know I do, but all we can do is try to live for now, and try to make the most of the present. Not always easy to do.

Doodle I'll take the trousers up - DH bought a sewing machine a few years ago, so he can have that job . I wouldn't have a clue about how to use it. I like the colours of the trees at this time of year. I don't mind the weather, too.

SweetpeaSue Glad the lesions appear to be improving. Wouldn't it be great if we all lived near to each other?

It was GD2's birthday (it's actually tomorrow, but she's with her mum then), she's 9, but she decided she didn't want to go out. She chose to have pizzas, so her dad (Son1) ordered them, I took a birthday cake, and we all gave her her presents. We played computer games, and scoffed chocolates afterwards. Nice family time. .

Hope ALL BDers have a goos night x

Doodle Meant to say that yes, Son1's GF gets on well with the girls, and her son gets on well with Son1. He and my eldest GD are in the same year at the same school, so share some lessons.

Hello everyone.
I suddenly realised that Wyllow hadn't posted for a while on the Good morning thread l put a message on there asking if anyone knew why.
Another Gransnetter sent me a private message telling me where you were posting. Glad to have found you and this thread.
I'm estranged from my son and his family and although I've lived in this complex for nearly 4 years l still haven't made a good friend.
I get very lonely and low particularly at weekends and Bank Holidays.
I hope everyone has a good weekend.

Hello Hymnbook and all. things very bad which is why just coming in th say good nights and xx BD's.

Hymnbook welcome. Sorry you are lonely. Don’t know what sort of complex you live in but have you tried inviting a neighbour in for coffee. I’m sorry you are estranged from your son and his family too. That must be really hard for you. Many people find weekends a trial. Do you still work?

HelloHymnbook I'm sorry you're feeling so low and lonely. Glad you have found your way to this thread. It must be dreadful to have estrangement to your son. Please feel free to post here, you are very welcome.

Hi again,
Doodle yes, I do understand what you mean about autumn, the colours are just beautiful. The wood where I walk my dog is just spectacular. It’s just the dark nights and dreary weather drag me down. You are right in what you said about life choices and where they may have led, the grass is always greener I suppose. Hope you’ve had a good day.
Sweetpeasue yes, life is hard at times but you just have to get through somehow. Hindsight is a wonderful thing as they say. I’m glad you got out today. Don’t feel guilty about your aunt, you would have taken her if you could. You have been struggling and maybe you just need to look after yourselves for a while. You can’t do everything.
HVDY thank you for your comments. Yes, good theory and I’ll try to remember that in my low moments. Like I said, I do have a lot to be grateful for, I just need to focus on that and not let the negatives overwhelm me. Sounds like you had a lovely family day. They are the best ❤️.
Hymnbook welcome. I’m sorry you are estranged your son. It must be so difficult for you. Post here when you need to. We can be your friends.
Wyllow I’m so sorry things are so bad for you. I really hope you are getting the help you need. Sending you lots and lots of love ❤️.
Hope everyone else is ok and had the best day possible, night all xx

Hello, Hymnbook It must be very difficult to be estranged from your son. Have you got any other family? Any groups you could join like W.I. or U3A?

Well I went walking on the beach yesterday and it started to rain. I hurried home to get the washing in but it was wet. It’s now on the airer but as we have no heating at the moment it will be there for a while.
Hello hymnbook. It’s difficult to make friends isn’t it.
I do have some good friends mainly made through church and working in a charity shop. Is that something you could do.
I don’t like weekends either . I’m married but we are like strangers and don’t do anything together. So I rely on friends and various activities to get out of the house and weekends are difficult.
Thinking of everyone especially wyllow.
Hvdy your family night sounds fun.
Have to admit to a wee bit of envy as my children put up with us rather than want us.

Hello all.
Misty and mizzly today but still lovely. DH is glued to the Golf so I have a minute to chat.
Candy- it’s such a shame that regrets and sorrow mar your time with your Son. I understand very well as I too have a Son hundreds of miles away. Glad the ADs are helping you like they are me to deal with the situation but try to enjoy every second with him - you haven’t wasted your Life- it very rarely turns out how we dreamed. But you have a good life and loving family who all love you to bits that is a big achievement.
Doodle- yes the view is lovely and from my seat here I am watching the tide come in and the little boats starting to Bob about again.
Autumn is a mixture of emotions sort of Season, Beautiful colours,pretty mists, a sort of Wintery smell in the air but those dark evenings are so depressing- I love the light.
I bet your DH can make a mean bit of Toast!! My DH can do a bit and quite enjoys it- I don’t care what he does- I haven’t had to do it😄😄😄😄😄
SweetPeaSue- please don’t feel guilty about not taking your Aunty yesterday. It was good for you to go out together and just enjoy a quiet outing. You are strong- never forget that.
HVDY- you had a lovely Birthday day with your GD and family - you are right times with the family are precious. It’s lovely that all the children get on well together
Hymn book- Hello Hymnbook nice to meet you. I ,m sorry you feel so lonely- it must be heartbreaking to be estranged from your Son and his family. We are all here for you .
Wyllow- I feel so sad for you but it’s always good to see you even for a brief moment.
EllieAnne- I hope today has been better so you have managed a more comfortable walk! Yes it’s that time of year when it’s a bit dodgy to leave the washing out. Is it not possible to see your GC at weekends sometimes- I,m sure they love to see you.
Have you been to church today?
Well we are going to have a walk once the Golf is over- can’t be long now. Go Europe!! I,can’t believe how much even the small inclines are affecting the walking this year . But that’s how it is so must just do what I can.
Love to,all - those mentioned and those not. Hope you all have a peaceful night.

Scaredycat the view from your window sounds lovely. I could watch the sea and the boats for hours…..not golf though. Oh yes, we find the inclines hard too. Never used too. Funny how we’ve all gone down hill.(wrote that and then thought it sounded funny after not being able to manage the inclines 🤣)
Candy I love trees and the leaves. Nice to have a wood nearby. Is it quite open. Do you feel safe walking the dog there? No I don’t like the dark nights or the dreary weather.
Ellie Anne shame your washing got wet. I don’t hang mine out as we live in a flat. I hang it on an airer and most things dry overnight. Shame the rain spoilt your beach walk. Were there many people about now, or is the beach still popular in the autumn? Has your friends funeral happened yet?
I think your children may think more of you than you realise.
How often do you work in the charity shop? Is it busy there? Always seems a lot to do in our local one.
HVDY what a lovely time your DGD had for her birthday. Her choice and nice thing to do. Nothing wrong with scoffing chocolates.

Good evening everyone,
Have been tidying for son coming.
I've partly drafted a post, but am much too tired to finish and not feeling great, so will just say I wish you all a peaceful night and will post in the morning.
xx

The beach always has a few dog walkers but is relatively quiet. The one near the town centre is usually busier with locals and visitors as it has the shops nd a good play park kiosk etc.
I don’t work in the charity shop now but did for many years and have kept friendly with people I worked with. It was one of those ladies who died. The funeral hasn’t happened yet.
Good night everyone.

Good evening everyone. Thank you for your kind messages and advice and welcome. My eldest granddaughter phoned me today she has invited me to her graduation. The days seem very long now that the nights are drawing in. I hope the coming week will be a better one for all of us. Good night

Night night BD's xx

ScaredyCat Your view sounds very nice indeed. Hope the weather is still decent.

EllieAnne My washing got wet yesterday, too. I ended up putting it (bedding) on the clothes horse. We've got a tumble dryer but it uses a lot of electricity, so I only use that if really necessary. It must be lovely to be near a beach. Hope today is better for you.

Doodle How's your wrist now? Are your husband's legs going on alright? I'm glad I don't have to walk up our street - it's quite a steep hill and we live at the top.

Hymnbook Your granddaughter's graduation is something special to look forward to. Have you got a few grandchildren? I've got 3, one is only a baby.

Son2 and his little family, and Son1's eldest daughter all came to see us for a couple of hours yesterday. They'd all been swimming at a place that's got flumes, wave machines, etc. Baby apparently enjoyed someof it .

Hope ALL BDers are getting on ok. Keep looking after yourself, Wyllow3 Hope everyone has a decent day x

Good morning everyone. I'm feeling weary today. I have 4 granddaughters. 27/25/18/15 . I have a Great Nephew he's two and a half he's a joy to be with.
I hope everyone has the best day they can. I'm sorry to hear about Wyllow l hope you are getting some help.

Hymnbook Your grandchildren are all quite grown-up then.
Toddlers are lovely . My granddaughters are 12, 9 (yesterday) and 3 months. You say you're weary - do you mean tired or low? What are you up to today? I went to aqua aerobics earlier. Have you tried it? It was busy, about 30 of us there.

Sorry can't finish my post after all. Not slept much. Just been for more antibiotics and sickness pills. Son and partner (DiL) here. Thankfully they're happy to go off and do their own thing and come back for tea/dinner. I think they actually prefer not being together the whole time, which suits me.
Hope everyone is OK today.
Hello Hymnbook (how did you choose your name?) Talk to you at some stage.
Love to all.xx

Hi all!
Another misty drizzly day-nothing will stop me loving it here though.
Doodle- you,re right about going downhill! It’s impossible to avoid inclines here but I,m doing my best. I,m very good at sitting and watching now though.🙂 Are you and DH managing to do some small walks now?
Nadateturbe- I do hope you feel better soon but sounds like you have a lovely understanding Son and DiL. You can hear all about their day over dinner. Hope the sickness pills kick in soon- that’s a horrible feelin isn’t it. Enjoy the time with your Son.
EllieAnne- sounds like you have more than one beach- heaven.
I expect you are dreading your friends funeral - I,m so sorry a good friend has died. You will all miss her butvInexpect you have happy memories of when you all worked together.
Hymnbook- so pleased for you that you are going to your GD graduation. Such a day to celebrate. Does she live close by?
Lovely to have 4 Grandaughters + your GN.
HVDY - you must have nice views from the top of your street. I would have a job at the moment if I lived there!!
How nice to get an after swimming visit- I expect Baby liked watching them all.
Did you have a good Aqua Aerobics this morning? It’s a big class isn’t it.I can see the local ladies from this window when they go for their early morning dip in the sea Brrrrr.
Wyllow- how are you today? I too hope you are looking after yourself and managing to eat a bit. Take care dear friend.
Candy,Whiff,Allsorts,SweetPeaSue,and anyone else I have forgotten hope you have a peaceful night.

nadateturbe I hope the tablets take effect soon and that you start to feel better quickly. Nice that your son and his wife are visiting. Enjoy your family tea/dinner.

ScaredyCat It doesn't matter what the weather's doing when you're away, does it? Better to be somewhere different, on holiday, than being at home. The views here are very nice - we can see fields with cows or sometimes horses. To walk there takes about 10 minutes for a fit person, longer for such as me .

I put a letter through the door of our GP's surgery this morning, to ask if someone would please take notice and help my husband. I listed all the various appointments/tests he's had (he first went in January) but yet nobody has done anything to diagnose or treat him. I enclosed all the information about the condition I think he might have. The senior GP just rang my husband, he's got an appointment with her this Thursday - I'll be attending .

Hope everyone has been ok today x