The right to choose to die

I am so relieved that he is now at peace and all the family have been freed from this dreadful burden of watching him suffer. I am sorry that he had to die in that way.

Gentle thoughts to all the family Franbern xx

He is at peace now Franbern.

My thoughts are with you. Franbern. Please look after yourself now? You have been through the mill, too.

Some doctors here do do it but for obvious reason’s don’t draw attention to it. I have come across this personally. It is a very difficult thing and so,so sad but the patients do die with some dignity.

Thank you for telling us about his death Franbern. Do take care of yourself x

Thinking of you in your loss, Franbern.

Thinking of you too Franbern,

After 3 weeks in hospital and 3 days in a nursing home, my husband passed away in the early hours of this morning. His death was expected and I'm glad he's no longer suffering, but I'm in shock. Can't think about how to carry on without him.

I’m so very sorry, and the only consolation is that his suffering is over. You will be in shock even though you knew this would happen. One day at a time. I hope you have support from family and friends. I will continue to remember you in my prayers.

Franbern and Adrisco

I’m so sorry franbern and adrisco. Go gently both of you.

Franbern and Adrisco. I’m so sorry but also relieved for you both.

I am so sorry, Adrisco. Such sadness.

Franbern
Adrisco

Franbern it’s so difficult to understand your situation and unless you’re going through it how can you understand? I so feel for some people’s situation. When I first had the stroke I was asked on the same day by the consultant did I want a DNR and of course I said yes but a year later I wanted to live so I rescinded the DNR and I believe it might be against the law to ask such a question now when one is so debilitated, All to their own, huge sympathies and love to people suffering dreadfully ❤️ sorry I don’t have the answer.

Mind you I prayed to God to take my husband when he was suffering dreadfully from cancer which was throughout his body and I’m pleased he’s no longer in pain. I’m trying to live without him after 53 years of being married I can only thank God for the wonderful life we had together.. Please think kindly of me this first Christmas without him.

adrisco go to the beavrement forum . And read some of the threads . You are not alone . It's been nearly 20 years since my husband died time helps you cope. But for me the grief has gotten worse as the years go by.
I would say talk out loud to your husband everyday it helps I promise. Don't hold your grief in I did that and hurt myself move but I was 45 and thought I had to be brave for everyone else. I was a fool.

Cry ,scream ,shout hit a pillow whatever makes you feel better do it. When the rage and anger hits use it . It's still gets me through each day without my husband.

I had to tell me husband to stop fighting as he couldn't breath on full oxygen and in agony I said we would be ok. He died few minutes later. But there is never an ok . Just take it a day at a time. First few weeks lots of things to sort out. Then a wait until the funeral . Then another wait with legal things.

Make sure you eat and drink. You may find you loss weight even though you are eating I call this grief weight loss. I put the 2 st I lost on but my mom never put back on the 3 st she lost after my dad died.

Sorry for your loss and yours Franbern .

Bonnybanko I hope you have put your tree up as you would have done with your husband. I know it's hard. Christmas was my husband's favourite time of the year. His last Christmas in 2003 we talked about his funeral and it was the last full meal he eat. He died 4 days after his 47th birthday 2004 as at Christmas he said he wanted to make it to then. So I promised I would get him there. We always knew he wouldn't live 5 years when he had his diagnosis of grade 4 malignant melanoma in January 2001.

Grief like love never dies this is my experience. But over time you learn to cope. But we are lucky to have loved and loved in return some people live their whole lives and never find the other half of themselves. The only person in whole who knows the real you and us them. Loving someone comes at a cost. But I gladly paid it we had 29 years together married 22. I was 16 he was 18 when we started courting.

Adrisco, sincere condolences. I understand you feel in shock, even though your husband’s death was expected. Be gentle with yourself x

Diana Rigg's daughter has issued a recording her mother made shortly before she died where she talks about her cancer and the right to die.

I think The Observer is the paper printing it today.