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Doodle Sorry if I've missed something, but what operation was your husband meant to have been having? Sometimes these chest infections are hard to get rid of (or has he caught another one in hospital?). I hope the next couple of days will be better for him (and you). Please look after yourself.

SweetpeaSue Did you have any luck with getting through to the GP?

Baby is ok now, after the Lactulose . Hope ALL BDers have been ok today, and have kept warm. x

Doodle It's seems one disappointment after another for you both. All the change of decision making must be very confusing. I must have missed something but hadn't realised he was having an op. I expect the Drs will want DH to be in better condition before op . I think you will know what's best for your DH ,in the meantime and if you can get help with oxygen at home he may feel better there. It places such a responsibility on you too. I'm so sorry you're having to go through all this. Sending love and good vibes to you both. Please rest when you can and do anything that helps to distract you from whatifferies and worry. X
PM appt Feb 1st thanks.
EllieAnne Hope you are OK today. I seem to be able to hear certain noises that DH can't. It's strange. He doesn't hear hight pitched sounds that I do.
HVDY Your poor chubby chops cutting teeth. Her little cheeks will be burning red. Not sure if there's a baby strength Calpol that can be used . Not sure, these days but a teething gel was used too. Thinking out loud ,really, though I know you will be doing this stuff. Teeth are such a worry all our lives aren't they.
Nadateturbe Thankyou. My sons text more than phone which isn't the same but I know they're so busy. Our GP surgery doesn't do pre-bookables though I count ourselves lucky to both get an appt today. He was so nice and is referring me to a different Urologist. He seemed to smile and remembered other one said he was from the 'old school' (fixed in his ways and understanding of bladder pain syndrome). Anyway I've nothing to lose getting a second opinion.
I told him pain worse now. He listened well to DH about the bad headaches he's getting every day. I'd been concerned about Giant Cell Arteritis (he has Polymyalgia) but doesn't believe it's that. Thinks tension headaches -given him low dose Amitriptyline. I'm still concerned though.
Hope your day has been OK.

V tired awake early hrs . Then pain again at 9. Taken 3 doses painkillers . Quite low but keeping strong for DH. Seems we hold each other up and pull each other down , if that makes sense. He still uses humour about everything at times. It's what you do isn't it?
Take care all. Might come in later
Wyllow You don't have to say anything , don't worry. Night night from you is lovely. You will get better. Might be a slow process. 💐

HVDY Glad the lactulose worked for baby.
Yes the psychologist appt went well . He is excellent in understanding and picking up exactly my meanings and listens. So fortunate. Hope you're OK.

Candy nice posts to Doodle. I'm glad you managed a good sleep and enjoyed meeting your friend.
I didn't know you could get magnesium cream. I think it really is helpful.
I think a lot of people found working at home much preferable. My daughter enjoyed splitting her week between home and office. I hope you get to do it soon.
There's nothing more frustrating and tiring than people not wearing their hearing aid, is there?
Good luck with your menu tomorrow for the visitors. It's difficult catering for different diets.
I hope you're not too tired from childminding duties..

HVDY You have a telephone friend? Like a penpal, only a phone pal? That's so unusual.
This friend of 70 years is like a sister, I've known her so long. My other best friend who died four years ago, I knew for 30 years. She was more "chosen". But they are both special.
I'm glad baby is alright. Poor little thing. I too had never heard of baby lactulose. We could have done with that when ours were babies.
Your husband is a wonderful cook!

Sweetpeasue still haven't done the phone calls. Too tired after art today. In bed now.
It's worse when all 3ring the same day. I could actually have to go to bed afterwards, and wouldn't have recovered next day. Ridiculous I know.
Like you, we usually text back and forward much easier.
Isn't it also ridiculous that a GP knows you need to be seen and yet you have to be "lucky" to do so. But it does sound like he listened to you. I hope you get your urology appointment soon. Did he mark it urgent?
The amitriptyline might help. Did he say for your husband to take them regularly? I think this works best for head pain.
It's good your husband can still use humour. Sometimes if you didn't laugh you would cry.
I hope the psychologist is helping you to cope.

Doodle I can't add much to what Sweetpeasue said so well.
Know that we are all thinking of you both and sending love.
Keeping you in my prayers. x

Wyllow3 thinking of you and hoping you feel a little better soon. I hope you are eating well and managing a walk. Sending love.x

SweetpeaSue Baby Doll seems unbothered by the teething at the moment (she's such a happy child all the time). Two teeth are visible today, apparently. I've got Calpol, and so have the parents. A 2nd opinion about your bladder pain can't harm, and hopefully this new doctor might be of use. Sorry that you and your husband are having all these problems. I hope the Amitriptyline will help him.

nadateturbe My 'phone friend is a woman I went to school with from the age of 11. She had her 1st child at 16, we went our separate ways then met up a couple of times when we were about 28 - I had 2 small boys, she had 3 sons. I moved house, and we lost touch. She found me via Facebook about a year or so ago, and we swapped numbers. I suggested meeting, but she didn't want to. We chat on the 'phone once a fortnight or so. Shame about your friend dying. You must miss her. My husband IS a great cook but doesn't usually do roasts now, as it's a lot of effort for just the 2 of us. He made spag bol tonight.

I've almost finished my painting by numbers picture. It's not bad, and I've enjoyed doing it. Back to the day centre tomorrow. Hope ALL BDers have a restful sleep. x

Doodle- i didn’t realise DH has to have an Operation- poor soul. Once the antibiotics do their work perhaps he would be able to go home with portable oxygen. He must be exhausted and longing for his own bed. There is very little rest in a hospital day is there. Please look after yourself x
HVDY- Ah poor little ChubbyChops- She is going to look sweet with 2 new teeth. Her little chops must be like rosy apples at the moment.
Glad the Lactulose did the trick she,ll be more comfortable now.
Stayed in today and kept warm - glad I did cos my Son FaceTimed so we had a good chat.
SweetPeaSue- So glad you both got your appts today.The GP sounds nice and it hopefully gave you a bit of confidence . Hope the meds help your DH - he sounds someone who makes you both laugh even in adversity.
Also good news your psychologist is on your wave length- you at last have someone who understands you.
Wyllow- always happy to see your night nightxx

Spoke to my friend this afternoon - her memory is getting so much worse since her DH was hospitalised with his Alzheimer’s. I think her heart is broken . Going to see her next week. Hope you’re all keeping warm - it’s been so cold today even though the sun has been out all day.
Wishing a peaceful night for all.

* Nadateturbe* You explain the exhausting effect your illness inflicts so well. Not ridiculous at all. It's so hard to explain things to your AC isn't it? I find it hard when I can't pre-arrange to see my DGS and to fully tell my son why seems like burdening him with my pain. We try to protect our AC but if they don't understand our situation properly how can they see why we make those decisions. Not easy to discuss things here and I'm not sure I've explained properly. My son1 goes back offshore tomorrow. I'm not sure he fully understands my predicament. I really see how hard it must be for you and your predicament too. So glad you got to art class. You need that precious time for yourself , even when you only have a small amount of energy.

Wishing all a peaceful night's rest.

Sorry all don’t want to discuss op on GN. I mentioned it by mistake. It is to help his foot heal but not without serious possible outcomes.

Podiatrist came today at last to look at DHs foot and it’s no worse and is dry which is good apparently.

Love to all x

Just seen extra posts. Sorry I missed them.
Doodle Quite understandable -youre under so much pressure.
Pleased DH's foot is dry. Hope you can rest tonight.x
Scaredycat So v sorry about your friend. How sad you will be for her. Whiff once mentioned about the' price we pay for loving'. It seems so high doesn't it. Sure she will appreciate your visit next week. It is turning cold! I saw a postman in shorts today! Brrr.
HVDY Glad baby isn't suffering too much with the teething. Your DH's roast sounded amazing. My favourite meal.
Hope you enjoyed your painting. Might we get a photo? Sleep well (my DH snores too.)

Sweetpeasue -I get what you're saying, same problem. Will answer everyone tomorrow.
Doodle Understandable that you don't wish to discuss op.x

Wishing a peaceful night for all on BD. xx

Night night all BD's xx

ScaredyCat It was very cold yesterday. Nice that you had a chat with your son. I love chatting with my 2. Is it possible that your friend's memory lapses are caused by lack of sleep/anxiety or depression?

Doodle Understandable. Whatever it is, I hope all goes ahead soon. The fact that the Podiatrist thinks your husband's foot is no worse sounds hopeful.

SweetpeaSue One of the postmen round here wears shorts! My painting will probably be finished by tonight, so I'll take a photo tomorrow. It's not great, but I like doing it.

Day centre today - nice to get back into a routine. Hope everyone manages to have a decent day x

HVDY it's nice to be in touch like that. I keep in similar contact with a boy (man) who lived next door.
I miss my friend very much, especially as my mum is dead too.
It's great having a husband who cooks. Mine cooks, but more basic stuff.
Hope you enjoyed the day centre, I like things getting back to normal.
Is baby OK today. Its very painful for babies cutting teeth.
Any sign of care home reopening?

Scaredycat it's sad about your friend. She is obviously missing her husband as he was. Poor lady. I'm sure she appreciates your visits.
Nice having a facetime with your son. For some reason we aren't comfortable with it, which is a shame.
It's extremely cold here, we went for a walk though. Its easy to become more unfit in winter.

Sweetpeasue you've explained it very well.
It's difficult isn't it. We want them to understand but we don't want to worry them. Also when an illness isn't visible they might think you're exaggerating. Even with others, you only see them when you're feeling good. So how are they to know how bad you get? There's no easy answer. Just have to live with it.
I hope you're OK today. And your husband. Is the amitriptyline helping at all?

I have spent the last hour looking at YouTube videos of crochet for beginners.
I got a beginners set for Christmas which I requested.
I think it will take me until next Christmas to learn. All I have achieved so far is eight stitches and eye strain. I have great admiration for you crocheting ladies.

HVDY I regularly see men in shorts. Used to be just a summer thing.
Look forward to your painting.

Doodle and Wyllow3 thinking about you. xx

HVDY You can get some good results from the painting by numbers. My DH did one for my son, it was a Buddha I think, and he has it on his kitchen wall.Something absorbing can be very relaxing and therapeutic. Think Doodle has said she does painting this way too( think that's right). Did the day centre do a nice lunch today? Hope it was good.
Nadateturbe You absolutely hit the nail on the head in your post. I called in on my son today at 12 and not long after we arrived my pain came on suddenly. Had my tablets with me so took them swiftly but had to leave. I felt awful , especially as he saw my DH very tired and we'd already explained why. These headaches and he'd had a dizzy spell when we were out. No one realises because, as you say, they only see you when you're OK. Hope you've been well today. I quite fancy being able to crotchet properly,being able to follow a pattern. I used to do basic crotchet stitches going round and round in a square shape, at school. It seemed the trend then. Couldn't see it taking off with teenage girls now!
Doodle Do hope your DH is stable or there's been some improvement and you have better news today.

DH woke up with the dull headache and it got worse. He seems unable to think as clearly and I really don't think it's a tension headache as GP thinks.Hes been having it for a couple of mths and it's now there every day. He may need GP again. I'll have to keep on (make myself a nuisance) .
Hope everyone has had a decent day.

Nadateturbe Not sure yet when the care home will open. Bbay has been fine today, apparently, thanks. I bought myself a children's crochet set last year, couldn't make any sense of the instructions so gave it away. Hope you manage better. Not quite finished the painting. Just a few very small bits to do (I'll finish it tomorrow).

SweetpeaSue It was a roast pork lunch, but I had chicken kiev as I don't like pork. The roast potatoes were good. Lemon cheesecake for afters. You husband doesn't sound right at all. I don't think tension headaches would be every day like that. I think it's more to do with his BP and/or BP meds. Keep on at the doctor.

Doodle Hope things are a bit better for your husband today.

I had a letter today, inviting me to go for a cervical screening (smear test), which is "for women aged 25 - 64 and *people with a cervix*" . Madness. I'm nearly 65 anyway, so I'm not bothering.

Sorry, pulled muscle in back..Hurts to type or move. DH ok back tomorrow. Love to all xx