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Doodle Fri 22-Dec-23 22:55:04

For the support, understanding and sharing of mental health issues.
All are welcome. We treat each other with kindness.

nadateturbe Thu 11-Jan-24 20:46:10

Sweetpeasue perhaps your husband should ask for an MRI scan. If he wakes with it, could it be arthritis in his neck. I've no idea, my knowledge is limited as to causes, but a scan would show any problems. Back to the doctor I think.

nadateturbe Thu 11-Jan-24 20:49:40

Sweetpeasue Just read HVDY 's post. Yes, could be BP too. Doctor needs to investigate.

nadateturbe Thu 11-Jan-24 21:01:57

Such a long time for care home to be closed HVDY. People must be really missing visitors.
I don't think crochet will be for me. Much too fiddly. And instructions might as well be in a foreign language.
I think this will be the last test you are offered. I would still go if offered except I would find it painful now.

Doodle sounds like the pain you had recently. I hope you're OK. Glad husband is stable at the minute. Love and hugs.xx

nadateturbe Thu 11-Jan-24 21:04:57

My daughter didn't answer phone, then texted to say sorry, she's gone to bed with a headache. She's alone. GC with dad tonight. It's so hard when your children aren't well and you can't be with them. You worry.

Sweetpeasue Thu 11-Jan-24 21:53:11

Doodle So sorry to hear about that back- all you need right now! Will anti-inflammatories help? Good your DH is stable. I really hope you feel a little better tomorrow. Don't worry about posting, though of course we care how things are going.x
Nadateturbe I don't think it's arthritis as its not neck pain. I've got him to take soluble aspirin tonight and he said head feels clearer. I can see the changes in him when this head blurriness comes over after the pain. He's slower. I feel so worried. This Giant Cell Arteritis that can come on with the Polymyalgia concerns me. If he's still not right at weekend I'll ring 111.
I looked at crochet stitches and it seems quite difficult to follow a pattern. I've still not finished my last jumper though I did do one.
HVDY I don't like pork either , excepting the odd bacon sandwich which is a rare treat. DH is in process of doing 3rd lot of BP readings. Ramporil has been replaced by another one(he was getting headaches long before that) BP seems to have come down a bit over last couple of days. Why do we worry so much?
Wyllow Night and hoping you sleep.
Scaredycat Hope you are OK

Wishing all a peaceful night. X

nadateturbe Thu 11-Jan-24 22:10:40

I feel so sorry for your husband Sweetpeasue, and you. xx Yes, do ring if you're worried. Must look up polymyalgia.

nadateturbe Thu 11-Jan-24 22:18:14

Having looked up polymalgia, I can understand your worry Sweetpeasue.
Perhaps tell the doctor your concerns about it.
Such a lot of worry. Hugs.xx

Sending loving thoughts to everyone. xx

Sweetpeasue Thu 11-Jan-24 22:37:09

Nadateturbe I told GP my concerns about the GCA. He said it affects one side . I googled GCA and it says it affects both sides of temporals . Don't worry I am going to be persistent with DH.
Hope you sleep well. I know good sleep is so important.

Wyllow3 Thu 11-Jan-24 23:46:00

Night night to all BD's xx

HowVeryDareYou2 Fri 12-Jan-24 11:27:04

Finished it. The person who devised the picture certainly liked colour! It's not at all neat but not bad for a 1st attempt

Whiff Fri 12-Jan-24 11:57:39

HVDY it's brilliant . There is a cross stitch chart of that . But have already decided on my projects for this year. Half way through an almost 19,000 chart.

Sweetpeasue Fri 12-Jan-24 12:07:09

HVDY That's lovely! It must have
taken a lot of patience. DH says it's in style of Louise Luton. The finished picture is so good, you need to frame it and hang it.
Whiff Didn't realise she had her work on cross stitch chart. 19,000 -is that the stitches it takes? Do let us see yours too when finished please.

Hoping everyone is OK. DH still has wooly ,foggy head but not as bad as yesterday. We are both in Costa and so appreciating the day so far.

HowVeryDareYou2 Fri 12-Jan-24 14:54:20

Whiff Thank you. You must have a lot of patience and good eyesight to be able yo do that. 19,000 is a lot of squares! I might have a look at doing something like that.

SweetpeaSue Thanks. Louise Luton (I had to Google the name) has got a lot of very nice pictures, mostly animals. I like her work. Glad you and your DH are better than yesterday. Hope you had some cake.

Scaredycat Fri 12-Jan-24 16:20:55

SweetPeaSue- what a pity you felt poorly whilst at your Sons- he must have been concerned for you both. I think sometimes our AC need to see that we are not always full of beans. It’s not easy to admit their parents are vulnerable as they get a bit older. Your poor DH - I do tend to think that BP problems can give you nasty headaches sometimes. Years ago after a terrible shock my BP went high and I had terrible headaches.
Glad you,re able to get out today- Coffee and Cake at Costas always cheers you up.
HVDY- love your picture - the colours are brilliant. Very good first try.
Does your DH enjoy his cooking as much as you enjoy eating it- I think it’s great that he makes such good meals.
I expect Chubby Chops can eat more varied stuff now especially with her new little teeth.
Hope your nephew continues to recover from his Op- your Brother must be missing his wife- it’s a long time for them to not see each other.
Doodle- so sorry you have hurt your back . It isn’t so long since
It happened before is it.
It sounds an improvement on DH foot if it is drier now- hope so .
Please rest when you can and hope there is better news for you today.
Nadateturbe- I don’t have the patience for crochet and I don’t get on too well with complicated instructions either. I,m thinking of making another photo book - haven’t done one for ages but there are good offers at the moment .
Hope you daughter feels better today- I bet you just want to cuddle her like when she was little. Try not to worry.
Wyllow - sending love- things will get better

Don’t want to leave anyone out so sending love to all BD friends old and new.

Whiff Fri 12-Jan-24 16:25:25

Sweetpeasue I have seen a chart of the multi coloured highland cow plus multiple coloured other animals. I have a subscription to The world of cross stitching and the highland cow is in an issue . It was done by Megan Caines who trades under Meloca designs .

I have posted some of my cross stitch on arts and craft forum . Under cross stitch. Some of my works can take 3 months . But I find it relaxing and keeps my mind active and fingers nimble . I needed something absorbing when the stress of looking after my mom got to much. Funny enough it's the only time my hands don't tremble.
I used to knit when the children where young but I couldn't co ordinate both hands together . HPX has taken some things from me but I have found ways to do what I want but my way. We all have to make our world to suit us not the other way round.

HVDY I usually work using 14 ct Aida . Which means it's 14 holes per inch. A friend does hers on evenweave which I can't do. To complex for me.

Sweetpeasue Fri 12-Jan-24 19:01:13

HVDY Oh I think my DH only remembered her name because son2 had seen a Lion painting he liked in a garden nursery and son wanted him to paint it for him. I wouldn't have known.
I wish my DH could cook roast dinners. There's a funny incident in our family -when I wasn't well DH cooked some oven chips for my school age sons. The look on their faces when they bit into underdone raw chips. He does great toast though.😂 .
WhiffYou have some lovely work on Arts and Crafts. I think you do your own design charts too. I have done a few small cross stitch kits in the past though I've found it's not as easy now to see the canvas. I tried to do one of a lion cub a Yr ago and I went terribly wrong in the counting. I don't know how to rectify the mistake as counting wrong squares in one part puts out of sync all the others. Funny how your hands don't tremble when sewing. It must be good for your co-ordination or something.
Scaredycat I think my son saw DH get up from the chair in his kitchen and hold onto table as his fuzzy head makes his balance 'iffy'. He saw me unwell too so I was a bit worried. I know what you mean about AC not wanting to see parents getting 'older and vulnerable. We shared a toastie and a Rolo choc muffin in Costa. Had a v light tea to try and compensate- don't want to weigh myself just yet.

Doodle Fri 12-Jan-24 21:15:00

Hello all. Feeling better tonight, last night I was in agony with my back. Stabbing pains in chest shoulder and arm (but on the right not left). I came to the conclusion today that I must have over stretched by arm when trying to get the ticket out of the ticket machine whilst driving into the hospital car park. It is such a difficult place to reach and I remember feeling a pain when I over stretched.
Sweetpeasue my DH is like yours, good toast but nothing much else. I used to do cross stitch too but gave up when I couldn’t see the holes in the linen any more.
Whiff that multicoloured highland cow was on the Christmas card our son sent us. My friend has also done one in diamond art, it looked amazing. I used to love cross stitch. In the past I did a large picture of a bird table and also a long bell pull hanger of musical instruments. They took me years to do (I’m not joking)
Scaredycat you’re quite right about my back. It was bad last time DH was in hospital. I think it’s a combination of spending all day sitting in the hard chairs and as I said above reaching the ticket machines in the way in and out of the car park. It’s better today though.
I hope you do your photo book, we have several DH has done over the years and it’s such a pleasure to get one out and remember the lovely places we’ve been or pictures of family.
HVdY as you might have guessed I’m working from the last post upwards and have just come across your fantastic picture, it’s amazing, You must be so pleased .
It’s wonderful.
Wyllow still thinking of you and wishing you well x
Ellie Anne and Candy hope you are both ok.
Sorry I can’t catch up with all the posts. I’m still very tired.
DH has bad chest infection but if the antibiotics start to work and he can get over it, then he can come home sometime next week. I so want him back. Take care all x

HowVeryDareYou2 Fri 12-Jan-24 21:48:25

Whiff 14 holes per inch must mean that it's very fine cross stitch? You have done some beautiful work, I've just had a look.
ScaredyCat BabyDoll is enjoying her food! I've bought a few jars to keep here, but when we've got her next Friday, I'll cook something (no salt, obviously) and blend it for her. My brother is going to see his wife tomorrow, as the home will be open then - he last saw her 3 weeks ago (not that she'll be aware of that).
SweetpeaSue My husband had to teach me to cook - I couldn't even do a boiled egg or beans on toast when we got together. His dad couldn't cook. Some men aren't interested.
Doodle Thank you. I'm glad your aches and pains are easier today. Fingers crossed for your husband getting better and being able to go home soon.

Hope ALL BDers have been ok today. We've just watched Mr Bates v The Post Office. I looked round and DH was crying at it. It's an astonishing story.

Hope everyone has a restful night x

Sweetpeasue Fri 12-Jan-24 22:32:49

Doodle Oh I'm so hoping your DH gets home next week. I'm sure he will fare extremely well at home with you.
I have such a problem extending my arm out to those tkt machines at hospitals. My arms are quite short and I always dread that bit of the car park. Glad your back is feeling better today.
HVDY I don't think my DH is interested in cooking but there again he's never had to be. We are a bit traditional in our 'roles'. I've always been at home and he's been the hunter--breadwinner----. I don't think I've managed to type that as I wanted.
Wyllow Hope you sleep well. Love x

Hoping all BDs. have a peaceful night. X

Sweetpeasue Fri 12-Jan-24 22:36:37

HVDY The drama about the post office was so powerful. It reminded us of how leading organisations can get away with such corruption .

Wyllow3 Sat 13-Jan-24 00:03:09

A warm goodnight wished for all BD's xx

nadateturbe Sat 13-Jan-24 01:22:24

Glad you're feeling better Doodle.
Sorry can't post much. Hope everyone is having a good night. You're probably all asleep. Hopefully. xx

HowVeryDareYou2 Sat 13-Jan-24 08:15:27

SweetpeaSue We've been traditional in our roles, too - I did everything indoors - washing, ironing, cooking, cleaning, kids, and he did everything outdoors - garden, cars). Huge organisations do get away with things - NHS being one of them, as we know.

nadateturbe You were up late. Is that usual for you? I went to bed at 11.30, about an hour late for me.

Hope ALL BDers manage to have a decent day x

Doodle Sat 13-Jan-24 12:52:48

Another setback. DH had attack of breathlessness last night, had 8 doctors and nurses all round him. He’s back being monitored by the cardiac unit now.
So stressed when I couldn’t get him to answer the phone.
HVDY hope your brother gets to see his wife. It’s a long time without a visit. My DH has been very upset by the post office scandal too. A dreadful thing.
Sweetpeasue thank you. We both want him home but these asthma attacks/ breathlessness are worrying. The doctors say his oxygen levels are ok but it’s frightening none the less.
Hope you are feeling ok.
Nadateturbe hope you get some energy back soon. Take care.
Have a good weekend all. Much love to all.x

nadateturbe Sat 13-Jan-24 13:08:50

Doodle thinking of you and DH. Hugs.xx

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