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* Candy* Thanks so much. Feel a bit silly now. I was pre-planning allsorts in my head! When Dr told me result I said Are you sure? Could the test be wrong? 😳
HVDY Re waking in night -strange isn't it when our minds go into overdrive. I wish I wasn't such a worrier. I'm still only on starting dose as I had some unwanted side effects that appear to have settled. If anyone deserves a lazy day you do HVDY. Not sure when mine will turn up but believe other son and fam joining us so it should be nice. Haven't seen them since New Year.

Sweetpeasue great news so pleased. Sorry don’t have time or energy to write more. DH collapsed yesterday and was really ill. He’s ok now but operation most likely to be cancelled for the time being until he recovers.
Love to all Doodle

Oh *Doodle Have just seen your post. I'm so sorry to hear your DH's op may have to be cancelled though I'm sure it will be for the best for now. You must have been and are so worried about him. I wonder if he has been stressed with the op coming up and the move back into hospital. Whatever it is I'm glad he's OK now and stable. Thankyou for letting us know -it was good of you under the circumstances- and sending you a great cuddle and thinking and praying for you both. Take care of yourself. Much love. X

Doodle What a worry for you both, and a bit of a setback. I hope your husband will soon feel better and be able to have his op. Take care, best wishes and love to you both x

SweetPeaSue- hope you,ve had a lovely day seeing your Son and family- it’s been quite a while. Today turned out fine- very simple day just a quiet family get together . Why do we worry about things so much- and then they are often not half as bad as anticipated.
I think your reaction to the outcome of the biopsy is just the way it is for us worryworts. Always thinking the Docs might have made a mistake or missed something. I think HVDY is right - see how you feel in a couple of weeks .
Nadateturbe- I,m so glad your Sister is doing well with her Cancer treatment - such a relief for you. I face timed with mine this morning and she never ceases to amaze me with her positivity. Today’s celebration passed well and was not upsetting as we thought it might be.
HVDY- your hair must be very resilient- I too have done so many things to mine when I was younger and now it’s thin and think it’s worn out!!
Lovely to see both Sons and families tomorrow- you are the most generous and kind Mum so have a lovely day.
I,m seeing my DD for afternoon tea - a real treat for us both.
EllieAnne - sorry your week hasn’t been the best. Must have been the last straw when your car broke down. However I,m sure your Husband will be cooperative - hope so anyway. Will you see your new friend ?
Doodle- oh dear I,m so sorry your DH was so ill yesterday and hope he will feel stronger as today goes on. Having the Operation cancelled must be such a disappointment but better for him to be as strong as possible for it. Sending love and comforting hugs - so want you both to be ok.
Thank you for letting us know- you are the kindest most thoughtful person.xxxx
Wyllow- sending love and thinking of you every day.
Candy,Nanny,Whiff,Allsorts, and any I have forgotten hope you have a peaceful sleep tonight.

Night night xx

Working backwards -
Scaredycat I'm sure you are having a lovely day with your DD.
And I'm glad the celebration was not as bad as you thought. We do worry so much sometimes.
Thanks. My sister is so positive, just like yours. It amazes me too. I would love to be like that, I try.
It takes a bit of adjusting when your hair feels "worn out". And remembering lovely thick shiny healthy hair. But it probably looks worse to us than others. I'm finding the Plantur helpful.

Oh Doodle I'm so sorry. Sending much love and prayers. I hope DH is well enough soon for the op.xx

Allsorts I smile or say hello to everyone I pass on my walk, and maybe a little comment about the weather. I think it's a lovely thing to do. You may brighten someone's day by that simple act.

Whiff I hope your brothers op goes well. He has made a great job of being in good shape for it.
I hope you are having a good day.

Candy thanks, nice to hear from you.
Are you still on holiday? Sorry, can't remember.
EllieAnne how is your day? Did you go to church?
Wyllow3 I hope you are looking after yourself and keeping OK, and maybe will feel a bit better with Spring coming.
Nanny2507 I hope you're enjoying time with the new baby. It's sad your son's family is moving. A difficult time for you. I think it's worth thinking about finding somewhere close. Perhaps you could visit when they move and see what you think.

I've had a lazy day, downloaded more photos from the PC. Still halfway through. And then we can get rid of it.
And hoping for some sleep tonight. I keep waking really early like 4am and can not get back to sleep.
Sweetpeasue I hope you're having a nice family day. How are you and DH?
Love to anyone else I haven't mentioned. Hope you are having a good or reasonable day.
Thinking of you Doodle.

ScaredyCat I'm glad the celebration of your friend's life went well. These things are sometimes quite nice, remembering someone as they were, in better days. Did you enjoy your tea with your daughter? It's nice going out for tea. DH and I have got a voucher to use (when the weather's better) at a place by the river.

Wyllow3 Do you still do your Quakers zoom meetings?

nadateturbe It's good to have a lazy day. It has rained every minute of today, here. Hope you sleep better later.

Nanny2507, SweetpeaSue, EllieAnne, Whiff and all BDers - hope you've all had a nice day.

Son2 came this morning, with a lovely handbag and a bouquet. , then Son1 and his girls have been, with a diffuser, truffles, and a bouquet. I am very lucky. Love to all x

Hope you have all had a nice day. Hvdy you’ve been well looked after.
I saw son 2 yesterday but no one today. Dd phoned and put a message on fb but no card.
A text this morning from son 1 . The boys have their own families.
I’m still sad though.

Nadateturbe- Lazy days are really enjoyable sometimes and you got a good job done with your computer. I expect like us all you have thousands of photos on it.
I really do hope you get a good nights sleep🤞
HVDY- I had a lovely tea thank you- we both felt stuffed afterwards. Spending time just the 2 of us is so precious and I know how lucky I am to have her so close. It,ll be lovely for you both to have tea by the river when the weather improves.
What thoughtful boys you have - lovely pressies . You deserve a Fab Mothers Day.
EllieAnne- I,m sorry you still feel sad - your children remembered you in their own way. Were you able to get to Church and see your friends.
Doodle- thinking of you and Mr.D. Sending love.
Wyllow- I hope you,ve been able to speak to your family today.
Thinking of you.
Love to allx

Thanks Scaredycat, I'm glad you had such a nice afternoon with your DD.. Those times are indeed precious. I think we all take too many photos now. I'm deleting some but I'm sure I'll use at least 3 memory sticks.
So many lovely gifts HVDY. You have a very loving family.
Son 2 came with chocs flowers and wine this morning. Daughter rang, sent me a Phillippa Gregory book. Card hasn't arrived. Son1 as usual forgot. No doubt he will be sending card today and telling me he posted it ages ago. But I know he loves me and is very caring.
Don't worry EllieAnne they are all different, I'm sure your children love you.
Hope you are OK Doodle.

Hope everyone has a peaceful night x

I don’t think they do really. And I don’t blame them. So tired of everything.

Night night and may things be as best they might BD's xx.

EllieAnne I'm sure your family love you, but sometimes they aren't demonstrative. A lot of sons are like that (mine have always been Mummy's boys, by their own admission).

Foxy arrived at 11.15 last night and managed to get some chicken drumsticks before the local cats scoffed it all. It's another wet day here (at least it's not snowing). Hope ALL BDers manage to have a decent day x

EllieAnne I think our children love us but are often just getting on with life and think we're doing the same. We have a lot more time on our hands.
I visited my mum often during the week. She was only 15 minutes away. I'm sure she was sick looking at me, but I do think times have changed and families aren't often as close, with extended families not being as common.
I wouldn't read too much into lack of contact. And you're a good mother, from what I've read in past posts.x

How's everyone doing so far? It's grey and cold here. Did aqua aerobics (35 of us there), then had brunch at the pub. So far, have managed to put off doing anything else.......... x

Well you've done the important fun things HVDY. .
I wonder is foxy annoyed at his supper being stolen.
I've been to art and a (cold) 20 min walk. Very happy with that.
Watching Tipping Point before salmon and pasta.
How are you and DH Doodle?.
How is everyone else?

nadateturbe My husband is meant to be doing the dinner, with chicken and veg in a "Maggi" cooking bag - he can't find the cooking bags, and has looked in every cupboard, all of the carrier bags (8) and the car. We'll have to have something else but he's still looking!

HVDY Very wet and dark foggy day here too. Oh dear, hope DH finds the bag. So funny. Might need to have something else. Glad you got to aqua-aerobics this morning .Sounds popular so you must have some fun.
Scaredycat I'm pleased the small family celebration of your friend's life turned out well. How lovely to have tea out with your daughter. I do miss that sort of thing. Lads don't usually want to do stuff like that. I had a good weekend though with son1 coming down with his wife and my GD. Son2 joined us for a pub lunch. Yesterday son2 invited us for Mother's Day and cooked us wonderful dinner.
Nadateturbe Glad you got out for your art class and had a walk. It really is horrible weather isn't it. We had a walk along a path on the sea front and the tide was right up to the edge with waves crashing over the path. Really dramatic stuff. Not seen it like that before. Both sons remembered this Mother's Day though I've often had the scenario you describe with 1 of them. 🤭
EllieAnne I' m so sorry you feel so hurt about yesterday .I'm sure both your DD and son really do care and love you but sometimes forget to show it. I've had some miserable birthdays when I've been forgotten by one of them completely and it does make you very sad. I've actually felt as you have-that it's somehow my fault. I think that's something we need to stop doing or thinking. Families go through many different things and there are struggles that we think others don't have. I've noticed that some people like to think their families are perfect but I know all have different ways of how they choose to communicate with each other. No one way is the right way for everyone. I know you are a good mother as you do so much for your son and DIL and their children. Your DIL likes you (which isn't the case in all families). You travel far to see your daughter and she chose to call you yesterday. I hate for you to feel so alone. You are a good person and I just want you to believe it. I hope your car can soon be on the road then you can feel more independent again. X
Doodle Do hope you are both OK and your husband has been well over the weekend. Thinking of you and praying things will be well.
Wyllow Thinking of you and hope you still have some contact with your family.

Ate too many M's Day chocs over the weekend so braved the dreadful weather this afternoon and it was an extreme effort to go out. The sea was fierce and crashing in at full tide so walked along a tarmac path (which reminds me not to make excuses when we can't walk on the beach). DH had dizzy spell when out, blasted headache again, but it didn't last long. Shouldn't be there though.

Hope everyone is OK and managed to have a decent weekend. Wishing all a peaceful night.

SweetpeaSue He found the Maggi thing - in a carrier bag (with some other things we bought from B&M last Fri), in the spare bedroom (where he left it), so we had the dinner ok, just a bit late at 7.30! Your weekend sounded special. Glad you saw your boys.

Hope Doodle and husband are ok.

Hope all BDers have a relaxing evening x

HVDY So funny about your Maggi bags. I must try them. I bet your tummy was rumbling. We had our usual salmon pasta and broccoli. And lovely chocolate cream roll from M&S.
Sweetpeasue quite bright here. Your walk sounds exciting. I love when the waves splash over the seawall on to the path. I deliberately walk close to be sprayed 😁. But obviously it was very cold and windy for you. I hope you're OK now, and your pains aren't bothering you too much. . It probably wasn't great weather for your OH to be walking. I hope his head pain has eased. And I do hope they find out the cause soon.