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SweetpeaSue It's good that you feel better, mentally, than you did. The MH group sounds supportive. As you say, sometimes it is good to listen to others. Everyone is going through some problem or trauma. Your husband's pictures are brilliant! I especially love the one of the miner. The break away will do you both good.

Doodle Sketchers even do slippers! I hope taking your ADs a little earlier will help you to sleep better. I'm on the maximum dose of mine. Perhaps an increase in dosage would help you?

Nanny2507 Is the baby your daughter's? Does she let you help out with feeds, nappies, etc?

EllieAnne My husband doesn't sort things, I do and always have - home/car insurance, Direct Debits, etc. I hope your husband's hearing will improve after his ears are syringed.

Wyllow3 How lovely to be able to go to the botanical gardens. It's good that you feel so comfortable with your carer. Shame she's going to be off for a while. Could you write a list of things you want her to help you with?

LittleGirl has been here since 7.30, ok but screamed with pain when I changed her nappy - the blisters are so painful for her. Lots of Sudocrem applied. Just seen the Physiotherapist (I drove, 17 mile round trip). He's happy with my progress, gave me some different but simple exercises to do. Hope ALL BDers manage to have a decent day x

Afternoon all.
Doodle- nice words from Allsorts- I,m sure you felt encouraged from someone who understands how you feel.
Glad you had a better night- you must have been so very tired. Yes it might help to take the ADs a bit earlier- I take mine in the morning!!
The heather was 6 little plants of various shades of purple and pink - they look pretty.
Ah “you always think there will be more time” - what a very touching sentence- take care dear Doodle.
Wyllow- It sounds like you have the beginnings of a comfortable relationship with your new carer.
Walking and chatting with a kind,friendly person will hopefully bring you out of yourself a bit and the Old Wyllow will begin to surface. Baby steps.
May the sun shine on you more often- friendly hug.
EllieAnne- hope the removal of ear wax will help your Husband. If not he perhaps needs a hearing test and hearing aids. The NHS ones are brilliant - I have them now . Very good for hearing TV better in the evening. Don’t wear them as much as I should- don’t always want to hear too much!!!
It’s not moaning - it’s chatting to us because we listen and care.
HVDY- better get some Jaffaproof gloves- cats can be so uncooperative when you’re trying to help them can’t they.
My DD 2 cats have their claws cut - goodness knows how the lady manages that.
I,m another Skechers fan - they spoil you for any other shoes for comfort.
Poor Little Girl those blisters must be so painful now.
Glad the physio was happy with you- you,ve obviously been doing everything right to help yourself.
SweetPeaSue- thank you for the pictures. Your DH has a real talent - the Gorilla is wonderful. They have great character. So glad his headaches are less troublesome.
You,re not moaning- just telling it like it is. You cope so well with everything .
Look after yourself this week so you can enjoy the Lakes next week. How lovely it must be to live between the Moors and the Sea. It must be very beautiful. The heather must look wonderful when it’s all out.
Nanny2507x - it’s difficult to spread yourself around isn’t it.
I understand your wanting to be around for your DGD- how old is she?
Moving at any time is stressful so I think you are wise ,while still feeling so sad, to take your time and just see what happens .
Your family need you. Take care.
Love to all.

Wyllow Sounds like the walk in Botanical Gardens was lovely and enjoyable for you-makes a difference when the sun comes out. I'm glad you are getting along with your carer but what a shame she's not going to be there for 3 weeks. I wonder if you could possibly do a small walk alone as you've said the fresh air makes a difference. Just that 3 weeks is a long time to wait and it would be such an achievement for you.
Hope today there's been some light in it for you. We are here to share ,no matter.
HVDY Aw poor Littlegirl- you must feel so helpless but you are so caring and will be doing everything you can. It sounds such a horrid condition and I hope her blisters heal up fast. Hope you had a nice enough day and Littlegirl soon forgets after the nappy change.
You've a long way to travel for physio- hope the new exercises help.
Yes, I feel very much healed from my experience with the botched op cover up though I can't 'not know' how the system covers errors now and feel sceptical of way DH has been treated.
Scaredycat Hope you're feeling a little stronger today. I texted sis with covid and she's feeling better and said it felt quite like flu pains at the time.
DH glad you liked the pictures . Sorry was it yourself who mentioned your DGC liked Gorillas ?( I can't check before this page on mob as I lose message). You write such caring posts to all .
Doodle Hope your day has been OK. I understand your thinking about how short time is and it's easy for many of us to put things off till later. We are both trying to live in the present at the moment. Sending you live as always.

Took a top back to a shopping precinct to change it ( sleeves too long) then changed bed did wash and really persevered with some ironing. All pains in limbs now but taken painkillers. Fed up with it but determined not to get too down. Hope everyone has seen so.e sun today -- it's so welcome after all the rain.

Love to all and those reading.x


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Sweetpeasue sorry you’re still having aches and pains. Your right on top of MH issues it’s not much fun
My goodness your DH is very talented. Those pictures are amazing.
How lovely to have coast and moors. You must live in a beautiful place.
nanny yes you’re right my beloved man died in May. I am lost beyond words. I know you understand.
How lovely to have your little grandson with you. Hope your DGD gets on ok.
Ellie Anne has your DH had a hearing test? Maybe he needs hearing aids. Sorry you’re in pain following walk. What is it that hurts?im having problems with my right knee at the moment.
Wyllow so glad you seem to be getting on with your carer. Hopefully she will make a difference and help you to get out more.
HvDY how have you been today? Hope you’ve had a nice time with Little Girl. Is she feeling better?

Removing the wax has definitely helped and he is going for a hearing test soon. But if they recommend aids they say it will be around two thousand pounds or more. He does have nhs ones had them for years but he won’t wear them because they are uncomfortable.
My friend has private ones from boots and I know they were very expensive.
We will see what happens.

I’m glad you’ve made some progress HVDY, you’ve dealt with it very well, resting enough and doing the exercises. Poor LittleGril, hope the blisters go soon.

Lovely and thoughtful post as ever, Scaredycat!

There was some sun after the rain and good of recent days Sweetpeasue, you did good today in persevering and struggling with fedupness.

Loving thoughts to you Doodle. I hope your knee doesnt continue to trouble you for long.

Boots are very good Ellie Anne . You are right about costs, it depends what sort you go for however. Just hope it makes a difference in other ways for you.

Yes I must try to get out more alone not fester, but today has been a bad fester whats the point not get dressed day. Self hater busy/self punishing head on. Sometimes that comes after a better day. Thank you all for listening and I do understand the advice. Just hang in here with me xx

Wyllow Yes- always will 'hang in here' with you. Sorry for your bad fester day.Self hater and self punishing gets nowhere Wyllow - you know that anyway. For all you hate yourself , there must be so much you've done in life -activist for good causes- that you can see has been for the good. You are such a valuable human being. Wish you could channel that energy into your own self and activate Wyllow into your powerful self. It's there, waiting. I so hope for your healing heart and spirit.
Sorry if it all sounds a bit 'la la'.
I think you know what I mean.
You've been hurt so much and very damaged.
I send you love and hope and a hug.
From me to wherever you are, right now.xxx

Ellie Anne if your husband gets a referral from his GP and it's sent to Specsavers he can get the latest hearing aids free on the NHS. You don't have to pay to get hearing aids . I just asked my GP and she sent the referral via email and Specsavers got in touch with me with an appointment. Had to cancel and rebook as it was of a Sunday. They do a very thorough hearing exam and test . While my hearing isn't back enough for hearing aids yet. Nice to know I had good ears drums as they are shiny. Who knew earlier drums where shiny🤷.

Wyllow I can't believe how far you have come you are going from strength to strength it's wonderful to see you enjoying life again . Glad you have a good carer . Going to the botanical gardens sounds lovely. There is one near me but even though I have been here 5 years haven't got around to it yet.

I hope you feel very proud of yourself. Yes you still have bad days but you are posting longer and seem to be having more good days than bad. Still in touch with your son and talking about your problems not only helps you but him as even with his own family he must be very worried about you .

I know the winter months have been hard for you but hopefully this year there are things that you can do to lesson the impact on your feelings . Do you have any hobbies or is there something you would like to try ? I started cross stitch in 2016 when the stress of looking after my mom meant I never relaxed and found those little crosses absorbing and gave me some peace from the non stop demands on me . Even though in those days I still had the limb jerks and my needle ended up embedded in the sofa or my cross stitch went flying across the room . Since being on the Clonazepam all that has stopped . My hands have trembled for decades by when cross stitching my hands are still no idea why .

Kept on fighting to get through everyday as you are Wyllow and I hope you see what a strong woman you are because I and others see it . 😊

Sweetpeasue what a talented husband you have ,the gorilla was my favourite so much emotion in his face .
Glad the the mental health group are helping you . Listening to others is not only interesting but I have found it puts your own problems into perspective. Hope you have a lovely time away and come back refreshed . Where are you going ?

HVDY hand, foot and mouth has been around since I was a child along with head lice ,thread worms and impetigo. It is often mistaken for chicken pox. But thankfully children can have a jab against chicken pox . I know all my grandsons have had it but had to pay privately but it's better than the disease also prevents having shingles . As you can't get shingles unless you have had chicken pox.
The chicken pox virus stays dormant in our bodies and can reactivate and give you shingles which is very painful. My son had it when he was in his early 20's but was to late getting the antivirals as shingles normally appears in older people. I have had shingles but got the anti virals with 24 hours of the rash appearing and it helped me. Plus I was already on 2 sorts of painkillers one for nerve pain so I think that's why I wasn't in agony .

I only found this out yesterday. A friend of mine who is gluten free and can't have eggs . She got shingles and got the anti virals within a few hours but ended up in hospital for 2 weeks . A friend at craft group told me the anti virals contain egg. I already knew some vaccines have egg album in them but for people allergic to egg can get drugs and vaccines with being made without egg album .

I text my friend the news she is due for her flu and covid jabs next week and always feels very ill for days after having them . So now she will ask if they have egg album in them.

Funny when I go to a restaurant or cafe always asked if I have any food allergies but doctors and nurses never do before prescribing medication or giving jabs. They only ask about medication you are allergic to.

Hopefully she will be better soon HVDY.

As I am reading this then posting HVDY hope the new exercises help. I know the exercises I do everyday and my sit fit class help me with my mobility and balance . Mind you have pushed myself to far this week and my legs have decided not to work as well as normal but more about that later. Back to reading this page.

Sweetpeasue sorry missed the part about having pain in all your limbs . I know how that feels but eventually your body gets used to it and it reaches a level you tolerate takes months . But can have what I call pain flares when you need extra pain killers for a few days then can drop it back down to your usual dose. Hopefully your body will tolerate the pain soon . Our bodies are amazing and adapt all the time to differences in us physically and mentally or both.

Allsorts always writes such caring posts to people who need them as she has gone through a lot herself and very pleased to say she is a very dear friend of mine . But she is ready to defend anyone against attack on not this thread but on others she posts on . As this thread is nothing by helpful and caring people. A safe haven for all.

Doodle you are doing brilliantly it's hard when half of you dies . But you don't have to be brave all the time as grief is overwhelming. Glad you have the church group and hope opening up you help eachother cope. Making a new present and future is very hard but take it one day at a time . Grief never dies and my experience it gets worse over time as my husband has missed so much. But the love we feel for our other halves never fades . But as I have said often we are the lucky ones to have been so loved and love in return . Grief is the hard price we pay for that deep long lasting love. And it's the loss of the only person knowing the real you and you them. It's a feeling I will never have again but I have never wanted anyone else in the in the 20.5 years since my husband died.

Doodle with the darker nights your grief may feel worse but take it one day at a time but never fight the tears or what you need to feel better emotionally.

After that mammoth ramble had a busy week as my gel printing class put on an exhibition of our work at my local library. When out teacher suggested it I said I would ask as I know they let people have rooms for free for clubs . My craft group meet there. So Tuesday spent 10 to 3.30 helping put the exhibition up. Wednesday those that didn't come on Tuesday came to see it and then we all went out for a pub lunch . Spent 3 hours in the pub none of use drank alcohol .We laughed at lot on Tuesday putting the art work on the wall but if we laughed as much as we did on Wednesday we would never have gotten any work done during class. Not everyone wanted there work on display but 8 of us did. I think it's hilarious me in an art exhibition. 🤣. Here are a few pictures of the work not on par with Sweetpeasue's husband's work but we had fun.

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These are 4 I framed but didn't put the green one up as the others where my favourite. The rest is my group's work . Not very good taking pics as my hands tremble .

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The last . The hands are one of my friends . She stopped wearing her rings after this . We used washable acrylic paint which I got out of my clothes even though I wore and apron

We all have different disabilities. But we had fun .

ScaredyCat I'll wrap a bath sheet around him next time, see if that works. Yes, his claws need cutting (he's ignored the brand-new scratching post I bought for £40 but at least hasn't scratched anywhere else) Do you use the subtitles when you watch tv? I do, because of this Tinnitus I have all the time.

SweetpeaSue Have you had a blood test to rule out Arthritis? I wonder what's causing your limbs to ache like that. I hope your pains will not bother you today.

Doodle It was a busy day yesterday, with LittleGirl. She's not too bad in herself (laughs a lot and plays) but the blisters on her bottom are painful. DIL didn't want us taking her out, which was a shame. A bit of fresh air might have been good.
Did you go out yesterday?

EllieAnne Glad your husband's ears are a bit better. My dad had hearing aids from a private place and paid so much a month. Would your husband be able to do that?

Wyllow3 We're all hanging in with you and willing you to get back to your old self. You used to love your garden. The old Wyllow is there somewhere.

Whiff I think you're about my age - I'm 65. Hand, Foot and Mouth is caused by the coxsackie virus A16. It wasn't in the UK until 2001, but was first reported in Canada in 1957, then in parts of Asia. Not to be confused with Foot and Mouth, which affects livestock animals. I know about chickenpox, both my sons had the illness. My friend's son had the vaccine last year at a cost of £60.

Whiff I love all the paintings. You and your friends have got a real talent there. Great work, and doing something you enjoy as well. Well done.