When to resume sex after hip replacement

I have a struggle put to my tights on, if you can manage you go girl respect.
After three weeks I was still struggling to put my knickers on

MissAdventure

Has Keir Starmer had a hip replacment, then?

I can’t contribute because I’ve been celebrate over 30 years.
(never really liked it, all that huffing and puffing and strange noises emanating from various orifices)
I reckon I’m frigid but have had 4 children 🤷‍♀️

If you look online there is information about this - and also a book you can buy on the subject with suitable diagrams/cartoons. How do I know this? - my DD bought it for me after my hip replacement!!!

I think I will ditch out gracefully now. As for it being a public forum, the whole point is that it's not 'public' as everyone's anonymous?

Oh well, you live and learn.

Additionally, I never suggested anywhere that we we actually going to do it yet, just that we're planning ahead (so to speak).

Love this thread!

Oh Shinamae - love your description and honesty. Same here - celibate I mean. And I have 3 children….I reckon I did it 3 times 😂

Haha me too crazyH

Marydoll

Thank goodness I had the smelling salts handy
😂😂😂

Speak with the doctor who performed the operation. Revision surgery is painful, the recovery long, and can be downright depressing. Don’t do anything without medical advice.

ftm420

I think I will ditch out gracefully now. As for it being a public forum, the whole point is that it's not 'public' as everyone's anonymous?

Oh well, you live and learn.

Additionally, I never suggested anywhere that we we actually going to do it yet, just that we're planning ahead (so to speak).

But it is public. I remember at least two occasions, when posters have been recognised and been forced to change their user name.

Some of us have met in real life and therefore are not anonymous. Thank goodness you are not part the Glasgow Grans gang, I wouldn't be able to look you in the eye or elsewhere.
😉

Eek...I hope it was a genuine question as it took me 2 hours to pluck up the courage to post my response 😳

Shinamae I’m with you! I have three kids. The blooming horrible noises used to make me laugh. Haha!!!

I think you need to ask your consultant this,not us

The last thing I would be worrying about. A lovely excuse.

Woof?

Maybe invest in some sex toys along with massage oils and have a joint session without full blown sex. This might be the time for your husband to refine his foreplay and technique rather than expecting to go the whole hog.

It's slightly amusing in this day and age that anybody should consider this post as explicit.

What a lot of prudes there are on Gransnet! Did all the Disgusted, Tonbridge Wells, responders all have Immaculate Conceptions and Virgin Births? I remember having this issue after a hysterectomy and deciding "Side by Side by Sondheim" was the best initial strategy.

Of course it is.
It just makes people who feel uncomfortable about it feel better to insinuate otherwise.

I worked on a sexual health line for 10 years, the idea that caution on the internet = prudish is a bit tedious.

Farmor15

I'm pretty sure it's a genuine post- OP started another thread about having to get up to pee in the night often, and mentioned the hip replacement.

Why wouldn't someone ask this after all?

To me I'd just think "He's very overweight and I'm not = I don't fancy him anyway....so I'll just say No". But am guessing OP isn't as put off the thought by overweight as many of us would be - and it's a genuine question. After all - illness or no illness and many of us still expect to "have a life" - and that includes sex (if we do still fancy them).

Some people are obviously not having any sort of advice whatsoever on "living one's life" after a hip replacement - as I remember being shocked when my elderly mother had one that no-one seemed to be giving her advice or physiotherapy and cue for me just telling her to go to a suitable physiotherapist and the cost was covered by a suitable scheme I'm in myself (and carefully didn't mention that I'd be using up "my ration" from that scheme and there'd be none left for me and I'd have to pay for anything else I wanted for myself).

So yep....not at all surprised if people aren't told how to "continue with leading their lives" and wondering who they are supposed to ask about ensuring they still can.....

Should someone be worried that people might find out they're having sex with their husband
It's already established that op isn't new and has posted before.

I'm sorry that there are so many prudes who felt the need to comment ! For safetys sake and in the interests of good long term healing this is definitely a question for your surgeon In the meantime you both have two hands and a mouth each and could have very satisfying sex using them it's not all about penetration and orgasm is good for your general wellbeing

LucyAnna2

chocolatepeanuts

I think it's a fair question. I don't have an answer as I've never had a hip replacement, but if you aren't ready, then don't seems sensible. Maybe you could ask your doctor for advice?

Note to self: Never ask any sex questions.

No, most on GN think it’s wrong to talk about sex.

Certainly the impression I'm getting and most surprised by that.

If I could find a man I fancied I wouldn't expect to give up on having a sex life per se - but, in my early 70's and not recognising myself any longer (ie just who is that 2 stones overweight/white-haired woman I keep catching a glimpse of? Agh!) = that seems to have been that back in my 50's.

Darn it!!

But I'm certainly someone who thinks "How are things to get any better if we don't actually know what's what?" Thank goodness, for instance, that younger women are often telling it like it is as to what pregnancy, childbirth and the aftermath of having given birth can be like for a lot of women. As I do know that back in my era (born 1950s and so any children I had would have been born in the 1980s/my 30s) there was very little information around and all I knew was "Childbirth is painful - and then one's body presumably goes back to exactly the way it was before no problem". I'd have hated to have had children on the basis of so little information! ....and boy would any mums I knew be in for an earful for NOT telling me how it could be....cue for nicer new set of friends.

I think that if you still wish to have sex with each other and you've always had a healthy sex life, that you would know ways to satisfy each other.. but if you are worried about damaging your hip then I would speak to a nurse or GP at your surgery..