When to resume sex after hip replacement

I actually think that Galaxy is right, and I was wary initially because we do get the odd troll, but I have since joined in when I saw that the OP was probably genuine.

Yes but the person has posted here periodically for some time.
And a man? So what?
Unless they are asking for photos of people demonstrating positions...

I hadn’t seen previous posts, and…….it is half term!

I too would have found it unbelievable that people over sixty aren’t interested in sex until a friend who had menopausal problems told me in shocked tones that she had been asked if she still had an active sex life.
She was quite disgusted and said goodness me , that has been over for ages.
Then I was told it again by 2 neighbours in a group discussion when a few wines had been taken that their and their H’s sex life was nonexistent.
I cannot understand why it should be that both H and W decide this mutually unless it has never been good between them.

Teens could write something a whole lot more shocking.

Anyway, mission accomplished - the person has been put off posting any more.

ftm420

Sorry if this is too explicit but if you dont ask...

I'm now 3 weeks post total hip replacement and am starting to think about sex! Trouble is, my DH is (ahem) very overweight and I'm quite skinny, so the thought of missionary scares the life out of me! I also can't widen my hips much (physio has given me a 'clam shell' exercise as part of standard physio and my knees just will not part).

I can't kneel down and get back up and I can't comfortably lie on my side to just 'do him'.

Should we just wait a bit longer, given that he is feeling a bit frustrated. He has 2 hands after all! Or is there a position we could try?

TIA

Probably a lot of 'grans' have had the same operation and have wanted to ask that question! I'm so glad you have been so open about it. It's also a question one forgets to ask when you have the operation, as at that time, sex is probably the last thing on your mind. We'll done ftm420!

On the NHS website it says try to avoid sex for 6-8 weeks after your hip operation . Your doctor would be able to advise.

Well, I hope that the OP has benefited from the genuine suggestions here in answer to her perfectly reasonable question. I’m sure there are many of us who still have an enjoyable sex life, not to mention the sadly widowed who would like to be still having one.

Calll 111😂

Well, I'm one of those saddoes who has had a poor sex life and none in years, so if I ever need a hip op, sex will be the last thing on my mind. BUT, until now I imagined that most couples would still be "at it" till they were no longer able, and then would be terribly disappointed. Indeed, I do know several couples who are still "at it" in their 70s and 80s.

So despite having no words of wisdom to give the OP, I find it amazing, disgusting and disappointing that so many of you are having a laugh at her expense. Why on earth do you think she posted on here? It surely wasn't to shock or be ridiculed.

Even I know that sex is part of life, and vital to many couples for as long as possible.

Good luck to you OP and don't take a blind bit of those on here who are either shocked or finding it laughable. Long may you enjoy your sex life.

On a serious note there has been a big rise in STDs in over 65s particularly men, so it’s a pity if older people are too coy or embarrassed about sex, causing a reluctance to seek treatment if they have any symptoms.

Some attitudes on here show that there is still a bit of a taboo around sex, which is after all a normal bodily function.

Come on! Has no one got genuine advice for this woman?

kircubbin2000

I find it hard to believe that many over 60s are still interested in sex.

I find it very hard to believe how ignorant you sound.

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kircubbin2000

I find it hard to believe that many over 60s are still interested in sex.

I find it very hard to believe how ignorant you sound.

Quite so!

I would have thought more of us are thinking "Chance would be a fine thing" than are sitting there thinking disapproving thoughts.....

netflixfan I mentioned that on NHS website under “recovering from hip operation” there’s a list of do’s and don’t which says try to avoid sex for 6-8 weeks after operation.

netflixfan I gave this lady advice as an ex-professional.

Sorry Beeb and Charleygirl.

netflixfan

Come on! Has no one got genuine advice for this woman?

Haven’t you read the thread?

Fartooold, my son, who has Down’s Syndrome too, also asked me why I was laughing. I said that he wouldn’t understand, but he said, “ Try me. “ ! Needless to say , I didn’t.

There are books available but you will know when you are ready 3 weeks seems early last thing you need is to dislicate your new hip

Farzanah

On a serious note there has been a big rise in STDs in over 65s particularly men, so it’s a pity if older people are too coy or embarrassed about sex, causing a reluctance to seek treatment if they have any symptoms.

Some attitudes on here show that there is still a bit of a taboo around sex, which is after all a normal bodily function.

Unsurprising that there’s a rise in STDs , particularly in older men.
I’m not convinced some posts are about a taboo around sex. There was some genuine surprise that the OP was asking random grannies rather than her doctor/district nurse. Well that was my response, rather than shock horror

I assume she asked on here cos not everyone's doctor is elderly or has had a hip operation, whereas more of those on GN are likely to meet those criteria.

netflixfan

Come on! Has no one got genuine advice for this woman?

Of course we do.

Many have said ask your consultant, you're an adult, just ask. I ask all my many and varied questions after any procedure. Why not?

Sex is pleasurable, however also personal, not many want to discuss.

Remember how it was difficult for your mum to tell you? This is the same. Perhaps similar to the talks with our children. No thanks, done and dusted.

Yes you may be right Iam64 but someone up thread asked why the post wasn’t screened, intimating it was unsuitable.

Probably women are generally more matter of fact about sex because of childbirth experiences, but in my experience in the NHS men in general are reluctant to discuss anything below the waist, such as sex or prostate problems for example. Not many men on this site I assume 🤔

No posset, you are not the only one! I'm 73 and my husband is 76, and sex is a very important part of our relationship. I met him when he was 68 and he was far and away the most virile, sexually active man I have ever known (in the biblical sense!). Until then I thought 'all night long' was a myth! I think it is sad, and misleading, to think that older people aren't interested. Some are not, of course, but each to his own, I say (I still love a book and a mug of cocoa too! :-) )