Weight gain

My weight was always on the low side, but once I hit 45 it just ballooned. Thyroid checked out OK, but no help from doc for the 1st 4 stones despite pleas. Finally a referral to the weight clinic who were very dismissive - they do not think 14 stone is excessive enough to bother them. Lots of weight related medical issues later, I got a referral to Slimming world. Time that help was available before you hit obesity - would save a lot of NHS money.
The new drugs will only help those who overeat.

Tell her that if she is worried, she should consult her doc though, who will a) see if she is actually overweight, b) look for any medical reasons c) give better advice on help than I got

Another overweight Gran with low thyroid here. Try to eat fairly healthily and avoid UPFs. Three smallish meals and (nearly) no snacks. I do wear a fitbit but find it hard to exercise. Has anyone been given any advice/guidelines on losing weight in these circumstances? I don’t want to go on a fixed diet as DH. will revolt and don’t want to cook twice.

sarahr
I have been reading Ultra-Processed People by Chris van Tulleken. It gives a huge insight into why we are gaining weight. It is down to diet and not enough activity
I’m reading Chris Van Tulleken’s book at the moment and that’s not what he says(Chapter8).
He says that’s what a lot of people thought in the past, but recent studies have shown that people burn 2000 -2500 calories a day whether they sit & watch tv all day or go on a strenuous hike.
It’s the amount of food eaten that’s important, and people are simply eating more than they used to. Specifically more UPF which messes with our brains and feelings of satiety, making us eat more than we need.

Maybe what she means is "I know I'm overweight - and I should do something about it - but I've got a lot of other stuff on my plate right now - so getting back to correct weight has to take lower priority. I will get round to it when I can - ie when I've offloaded some other hassles/problems off my plate".

That I can understand.

I'm supposed to be size 14 personally (ie modern vanity size 10-12 clothes labels) and I think I'm vanity size 16/maybe even vanity size 18 at the moment. Not one person seems to realise I'm overweight - but I know I am and I have the 1970s clothes to prove it.

I will get round to focusing hard on it - but right now there's still other issues to deal with and I'm trying to focus on one or two that are even more important at a time. Maybe that's what she is really thinking? and she will get round to "Focus hard on the weight loss" when other even bigger problems stop demanding attention??

If you are settled with a man that neglects his own body (which maybe she is?) and/or you've got to an agegroup or part of the country where the men as men "arent worth dating" imo then it doesnt feel so urgent I guess....

Why ask how to react? Do you need advice on every interaction with a friend.
You sound as if you are obsessed with this issue.
You could always try talking about something else?