I hate being 60

You mention your son, your Mum and your husband.

What about you? Maybe you got lost in all this somehow.

The conventional advice will be to join things and/or get a dog.

It really is very hard to come to terms with being older and becoming old. OP obviously has not yet come to terms. It is a shock when reality hits, a little bit like grieving for the youth that is gone

Don`t dwell on it OP, do the best you can for yourself and realise that there are no second chances to amend perhaps poor diet and perhaps lifestyle, so that you go forward into old age with life and vigour

I have life and vigour and a happy nature, it did not happen by chance. I had that awakening call and decided what I should do. Fortunately I like my lifestyle very much and am in my 8th decade without illness or medications and can cycle, keep my balance etc

OP you will feel much better about being old if you can make yourself accept that you will never be younger than today and your life going forward is up to you. Wallowing now will do you no good at all

No, don't get a dog (much as I love dogs!).

Buy/hire a big yacht and sail round the world!

I have life and vigour and a happy nature, it did not happen by chance

I disagree, chance is a factor.
Genetics play a large part and having serious illnesses before that age makes you appreciate each day you survive thereafter.

I loved being 60. I was so happy to retire but soon got busy doing what I wanted when I wanted if I wanted.
Knee and hip replacements followed by COVID lockdown etc was restricting but now at 70 I feel my horizons have broadened again. I want to make the most of my health and wellbeing and enjoy my family.

60 is old sure, but it isn’t elderly, that’s around 80.We may all be on ‘the home straight’ now but can still enjoy life.Old age doesn’t come with a manual to help navigate it, but instead of thinking you’re a 60 year old senior just continue thinking that you’re you!

I only became a granny at 67 - Gdcs are now 10, 9 and 5. I did have more energy at 67 though!

60 is not old when you are around 80! I was still working at 60 and driving 70 miles to look after my GCs. I didn't feel old.
Take advantage of good health and enjoy your life. Focusing on your age is not helpful.

I live in a terrific independent living conmmunity for people 55 and over. Our homes are beautiful, and our lives (most of us) are very active. The people in their 60's and 70's are considered the "kids." People are still doing all sorts of things in their 80's and 90's! Tonight, for instance, there is a sign-making party for anyone planning to go to a political rally this weekend. There is nothing "old" about 60, for heaven's sake.
Take care of your health, and get out there and enjoy yourself!

One of my relatives would say: "What's the alternative....?"

Think being 60 is quite difficult as one is getting older in the work place ans socially but not yet pension age or freedom pass age.
Life is always a question of choices and plans.
Plan something fun if possible

Whitewavemark2

😄😄 wait until you are 80.

Actually life is full of surprises at 80.

Every morning I wake up, check everything is sort of working - think - I’m still here and off I go to enjoy my day.

FABULOUS! Whitewavemark2 😎

Yup! Variations on "I've got a great life/you aren't old/ join things"

Kandinsky
I’ve just turned 62 & feel so old. The best of everything is behind me, all I’ve got to look forward to is Ill heath & death

Only because you think it is.
You don’t say you are in poor health now so I assume you’re reasonably fit and healthy.
We do have some control over our own health - barring being diagnosed with a life-limiting condition, you can reduce your risk of cardiovascular disease, osteoarthritis & even some, though not all, cancers with a healthy diet, regular exercise & a good social life.
A good friend’s mother was fond of saying “enjoy every minute, it will never come again.” That’s my motto now and I’m grateful for every day I have.

Thanks Oreo!
I feel so much better now that you’ve confirmed that, at 80, I’m elderly, a word I loathe for the picture it conjures up!! ☠️

60? Flipping heck tsm 106, that is young.

I got to Everest Base Camp at 67, please make the most of your younger years while you can as one never knows what is around the corner.

60 seems so young to be having these feelings wait till you turn 80 and then you ll really know how it feels
I don’t feel 80 and often very often forget I am but in reality I don’t probably have that many years left where as you tsm have 20 or 30 years to go
Forget your age and live

Yes, your 60’s is a difficult age.
You’re not ‘old old’ but you’re also well past your prime.
Jobs are almost impossible to come by, even though we don’t get our state pensions until we’re 67. It’s a difficult age to ‘make new friends’ ( I actually can’t be bothered to put in the effort for that now anyway )
Plus I find most people quite boring & irritating - & whilst I might have put up with that when I was younger ( school mum friends etc ) I have no pressure to do that now.

Kandinsky

I know exactly how you feel.
I’ve just turned 62 & feel so old.
The best of everything is behind me, all I’ve got to look forward to is Ill heath & death.
I miss my kids being little. I miss striving for a better life, working hard to provide for them.
I miss the ‘hungry years’. ( as the song goes)
I actually think I’m depressed about it all tbh.

Truly, those feelings are "for the now". Life crisis feelings can happen at all sorts of ages and "this too, will pass". Yes, it does sound like depression, if it keeps on find a bit of help.

I turned 63 recently and tbh, the years since I turned 60 have been tough. My dad and my younger brother died within a few months of each other, my step-son's marriage broke up and I seemed to spend more time at the doctor's than I ever have in my life. I looked after my dad for 12 months, negotiating Social Services, the GP, community nursing etc. Then of course I was co-executor of his estate afterwards. I thought the stress would never end.

Through it all, my partner made sure we had things to feel positive about. We love music so we went to concerts, I met up with my friends as often as possible and we roped in other members of the family to keep an eye on my dad so we could have a couple of holidays.

I now have more optimism about the future. I'm grateful for every day and I'm focusing on sorting my own health out so I can travel and manage without painkillers.

If you can't figure out who you are or where you are, try writing your thoughts down in a journal. It helps to get all your feelings down on paper and you can put things into perspective. Having a sick parent is stressful and you need an outlet for your emotions. It only takes a few minutes a day to jot some thoughts down and you can use the time to figure out what you want to do with the next chapter of your life.

Good heavens! I can hardly remember being sixty. I’m 85 now, brain still very active, body not so much - but functioning. Make the most of being only 60.

Thank you Wyllow3
It’s actually really uplifting & inspiring to read posts from women 10/15/20 years older than me still really enjoying full & active lives.

And please, can any hint of you are wallowing in it be kept out of this?

People feel what they feeling.... you cannot just "switch" out of feelings just because someone else thinks you can or should

Lots of great encouraging oldie posts here, love it WWM and similar.

Off course, unless there is something compelling going on, and tbh, even if there is, living life in the moment is the fullest way we can life life

..its just that I'm still trying to learn how to do it!

(I'm 74 and just beginning to feel frustrated I cant do this or that like I used to, but OTOH...I think maybe I treasure family, and the little kindnesses of others that make life go round, more than I used to?

Kandinsky

Thank you Wyllow3
It’s actually really uplifting & inspiring to read posts from women 10/15/20 years older than me still really enjoying full & active lives.

I feel just the same Kandinsky

You'll get there x

Whitewavemark2 Same age as you and my thoughts exactly. 60!!!! My youth