I hate being 60

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I am 63 , my husband died after a short illness at 60, 5 months ago.
5 years ago we bought a house in spain and enjoyed 5 years of 90 days here, 90 in spain.When he died i decided to go back to Spain so now here I am, bittersweet some bad days but living my life and trying to enjoy it, have some lovely friends here and expanding my friendship circle. The worst has happened so I can only move onwards and upwards but the sun shines and I walk regularly every day in the sunshine and try to make the best of life as I hopefully have 20 + years left

60 is still very young, I wish I had appreciated that more at the time! I think I was the happiest I have ever been at 60.
I was widowed at 44 when my youngest child was only 3. It hadn't been a particularly happy marriage . Single parenthood was hard but rewarding. My career had never really taken off, I just fitted in whatever work I could around the children.
Now 76, I still work, 20 or so unsocial hours a week,as an office cleaner. The work is very tiring for me nowadays, but I need the money, never having made adequate plans for retirement. Time flew by I suppose and I was unprepared
for how expensive life would become! My workmates are great,though.
My oldest daughter lives with me having 'returned' several years ago. She works but had huge debts and mental health issues and was diagnosed with ADHD at 46. She's lovely but needs a lot of support. My other 2 children have families,I'm an active nan though wish I had more time and energy.
What has kept me young is my long distance partner that I've had for 16 years. He's 9 years my junior. We've certainly both had our shares of worry and difficulties but make each other really happy.
I don't feel very prepared for what is to come, my house needs serious attention and I am yet to make a will . My funeral plan company went bust leaving thousands out of pocket but mainly it was the thought that one thing I thought was organised, but wasn't, that was devastating.
Enjoy your 60s, OP, I'm sure you are sensible and sorted (unlike me) do what makes you happy.I hope your husband gets some of his joie de vivre back , things could be happier between you,who knows.

Tsm why on earth do you feel you have to carve out a life with ‘old people’ now you’re 60 …nothing changes, one of my best friends was 36 until she died this year, (she ll always have a place in my heart) I have the best ‘coffee conversations’ with two (individual) friends in their late 30 s and early 40 s but I also have a lovely laughs with my closest friend whose nearly 90

Kadinsky you sound depressed those are not normal feelings at 60/62 The best of everything is behind me, all I’ve got to look forward to is ill heath & death

Sewnsew that’s brilliant I admire your spirit .

My nearly 100 year old cousin is learning Spanish online in case she can get to Spain one day ! Now that’s enthusiasm for life and positive thinking what a lady

Emeraldforest my life sounded similar to yours bringing up 3 children alone fitting whatever work I could in I got my first career job, a brilliant one, at 55 and worked till I was 69 loving every minute of it Now I do voluntary work and live a simple but fairly contented life
Can I just say I arranged and paid for a very simple cremation through the Coop it’s all done and dusted it cost me £1750 or something around that and I got nearly £200 worth of Co op stamps so a bottle of wine or two before I go 🤣
Life is very much what you make it within the cards you’ve been given

Your life sounds really tough Emeraldforest. Sorry you have to worry about a funeral plan along with everything else.
How long distance is your partner? Can't you join forces and share your resources?

I haven't thought about my funeral. I hope my DC will do the honours.
They are all fairly comfortably off.

I have made a will which my DH
didn't so that made things a little complicated but I am coping at present.
I am trying to downsize and keep busy. I volunteer and belong to lots of groups. I let out part of my house to increase my income and to pay for help with the garden and heating bills.
I try not to worry!

Emeraldforest
Are you in the UK ?

I’m really pleased to have reach 76 not many do, I’m enjoying what life I have left I’m going to Tenerife very soon followed by a cruise next year, well you can’t take it with you, I’m very fortunate to have the resources to do these travels but then I’ve worked very hard since I was 15. I’m looking forward to jetting off again I look forward to sunny times and meeting up with old friends at the side of the pool where I’ll be lounging about drinking pina coladas.

musicgirl I agree wholeheartedly with you, life is so precious, I try to enjoy every day that’s left to me