Well…*Purplepixie*….so do you think having words with DH sort of got through? That it has helped you at all? After the confrontation I’m not surprised your body reacted with a headache. Always good to have a chat with a friend. What are you doing atm crafts wise?
But I do understand the Bank Holiday feeling. For those currently involved in crisis situations, and not having family nearby, or friends au fait with your situation, speaking for myself, the day extra when you cant reach out for help, and normal groups and so on stop, I find generally it a difficult time. (My MH people cannot be reached in my case).
Another early rising, HVDY. So..do you sleep longer and better in the winter when the dark lasts longer? Or maybe you are a natural “lark”, and go to bed earlier? And (this I dont know) - do cats also wake earlier in the light? With my first DH and DS (first DH is a major major cat fan, btw) it wasn’t an issue, becuase they were happy being confined to “downstairs” as they had each other, and never were allowed to sleep on beds. It’s good that being with LG can get DH out, and I hope it goes well again with Brother coming. You are the family glue and loving gatherer.
Oh I’d love to see the supermarket strut, Sweetpeasue. You probably wont manage what one of my fave singers did in a video, have a peep 😊 especially the “outake’ at the end 😂 at 4 mins..”you’ll have to leave the store”
www.youtube.com/watch?v=OUe3oVlxLSA&list=RDOUe3oVlxLSA&start_radio=1
I’m hoping that Rosuvastatin works out well for DH. Drugs do affect people differently.
What a lovely sunny day picture of Fluff ball and sticks in the sand and a loving bundle.
l always know that you care, Doodle, however little or much you write. I am so sorry how tough it is for you right now. A bitter sweet, but I hope a good chat with your cousin. She’s getting on, and of course that brings its own mixed emotions xx
Today has been extraordinary, both very painful but rewarding also. As BD’s know, despite all my day time efforts, I was traumatised by MrA coming to meeting: not just that, but I awoke from an appalling dream where Quaker D (the one who denied my experience and it in a powerful role in our little group) was putting me down in an awful situation, isolating me.
Nearly rung crisis, then thought, there is little point. I have to deal with this. Exhausted, but I spent a good chunk of the morning trying to restore access to Zoom.
I managed it with he help of finding out the Zoom phnoeline and “speaking” to an AI bot for 40 plus minutes who took me through re-enlisting after I’d cancelled the current set up.
Not only the Zoom with Safeguarding next week, but our online Quaker worship Zooms which work well for me - they are not only national, but some international attendees. Quietly sitting together. It restored a calm: I ministered with the poem “what is life so full of care, there is no time to stand and stare (nature based poem). At the end I felt safe enough to share. I could tell by facial expressions I was believed and the complexity of quakers encountering something not generally happening understood and was sent away with prayers.
That gave me the courage to contact Quaker HQ, to try and speak to the woman I did before who is a Safeguarding leader and who had intervened before and basically brought our own Safeguarding people into a clearer situation. Not easy to do - one feels “going behind backs”. But I want personal advice this time becuase there is no way, unless there is a change in MrA’s attitude, I can tolerate him returning. We fixed a zoom for the day before my local one.
Then - remember I had contacted nice bloke quaker R for feedback, and it had revealed much? He hadn’t replied (not surprising, as I had thrown a lot his way).
I rung him.
He was in and had time to talk.
It lasted over an hour. He knows a lot more about me now and how I had handled matters and why, and the communication gaps and a lot more. Basically he understands far more than I had thought - and he agrees totally about MrA’s inability to treat women as he should, the way he acts
he said for example many men of my generation think that women are there to “make things alright for them and their egos” “be there for them and not be able to give back the same” (and he claims a degree of autism!).
What I got out of it was not just feeling really understood, but that he also understands MrA, and most certainly does not approve. I told him a lot he didnt know, and had had no idea bout some stuff that had gone on.
I said, “MrA was acting on the basis of loneliness”, and R said “well he probably doesn’t even know he is lonely, he just “Acts out”. He shared some stuff too, it was all I could hope for.
He isn’t the kind of person to “do” much, but he sort of will have my back. And shared stuff about his own life that was really interesting. I realised by the end of the conversation:
it is no use at all me asking for a meeting with MrA and safeguarding, I would only get hurt, and its not my job to try and make him understand stuff
H knows that I am talking to HQ, and to Safeguarding. He also shared something extraordinary. MrA has a women and has had for 2 years whom he sees on and off: she isnt local, but he had assulted me and wanted a relationship although seeing this woman! R certainly didnt approve of that, and I’m blindsided how this man A can carry on as he does yet portray himself as Mr Good guy to the world yet conduct himself life that with women.
Then I slept, woke up of course “what have I done!!!!!!” But feel mostly very good about it. He is not a gossip.
So that was a whole day, mostly: but I had no choice. It had to be done.
Hoping this not in today are OK: nadateturbe how are you xx and of course all other BD’s past and present.
