Black Dogs 29

Sorry- sentences got a bit mixed up thereHVDY - we're having jckt potatoes not urology tests!

Sweetpeasue it’s been 30 here most of the day. I’m very lethargic. For some reason the hot weather really brings me down. Sat here crying this afternoon just is hung this wasn’t how things are. I’ll be ok tomorrow I’m going to a party bit every now and then the emotions roll over me like one of those waves. Enjoy your jacket potatoes.
HVdY hope your DH’s urology tests are ok . Do you have nuts with your fruit? I read that you should have a few nuts when you eat fruit to stop the sugar spike. Don’t know if that’s true or not but as I like nuts I’m doing it. Only have 5 almonds 3 times a day.
It’s good your husband has taught you son things or is willing to help. He’s obviously very good with diy and mechanical things.
Wow Scaredycat that fog certainly is rolling in.
We loved walking on the beach. We’d go down by the water and listen to the waves coming in. We often went to a shingle beach and could hear the noise as the waves receded.
Hope you’re enjoying your stay and finding it relaxing.
HVDY what a lovely idea to give your friends an engraved vase for their wedding anniversary. Ruby is 40 years isn’t it.? That’s lovely.
It’s really hard for you to cut down in fluids. I’m the opposite. I don’t drink nearly enough. DH was always on at me to drink more. It was horrid in hospital when they only allowed him 1 litre in 24 hours due to fluid build up. He was so thirsty.
Sorry I won’t be able to share my picture. I belong to an art group and they publish all our work on Facebook so as it’s only me that has done this particular picture I’d be easy to identify and I like to keep my postings private. Otherwise I would share it.
Wyllow hope you managed gym and hope your locks have been sorted. Did you spend time in the garden?
So hot here. I’ve done very little today.
I’m going to a party tomorrow afternoon. Hope my food offerings don’t melt before I get there.

16 degrees here. Might get up to 20 later in the week

Doodle 30 must be unbearably hot ,thats horrid. I do feel for you - time to get the bowl of water out fir your feet? You sound so weary, I daresay with missing your dear husband as well as the heat. I'm so sorry youve had such a lousy afternoon. You must be relieved the party is tomorrow and not today. I know I often send hugs and I hope it doesnt 'devalue" them but please have an extra special hug tonight.🫂
We had coleslaw with the baked potatoes which rather defeats the healthy intention. X

Sweetpeasue hugs are always valued and I thank you so much.
It’s funny I plod on day by day and I enjoy things like the party tomorrow and meeting up with friends. I think of DH all the time no matter what I’m doing or how busy I am he’s always on my mind but sometimes the missing him is too much and I cry. I’m ok now though so thank you for caring.

I’m sorry your Aunt isn’t settling as well as you’d hoped. Sweetpeasue Hard when you know you cant do anything to “make things all right”. Sigh. Time will change things but we don’t know how. It’s painful for you but better for her that you keep going tho. But I do recall when you just used to be able to visit her at home. I love baked potatoes, but I don’t do them properly, I part microwave them. Well…it depends how much coleslaw you ate!

Lovely the beach is so very close, Scaredycat. Ah now….just what I like to do - walk end to end with feet in cooling water. ☺️
Yes it’s awful when “character changes” to disruptive for your friend. It hasn’t happened to me yet as in the “person I used to be close to”. And we can never know about ourselves - there is none in my family on record is all that I can say.
(Psst - it was exercise bike, I still really MUST get back on my bike but actually need to keep walking more exercise wise)
The fog - yes, natures wonders, may it be, we never tire: tho it has meant little on and off over the last 20 years, now its “on” maybe, the more meaningful?

Wow - what an excellent photo.

This hot weather - it’s time when lack of being able to be active means your sadness comes up, isn’t it Doodle. Poignant, the waves rolling, marking time and change as the tides come in and out, like tears. (hugs)
My, what have you in mind that may melt tomorrow?

It looks like they will go up but less as one goes north, EllieAnne iirc the weather map showed you as being in the early 20’s?

Yes! I had a really nice quaker Zoom, then went to the gym at leisure. I was thinking - how to explain that I enjoy weights? Its sort of pitching oneself against a challenge which feels good, its an adrenaline realise…got some bum shape back (a little)…

Got the last email off to the insurers for the keys -hope its smooth they have to approve the costs and arrange to come round re car keys..

It’s my blepharitis thats really troubling me: pus in eyes and the treatment makes my eyes bag and I hate that as have always had nice eyes. Its been months now and antics or anti virals don’t work and came through stress so…😡

But I have booked a holiday! 4 nights, midish September, hopefully 2 more if they can find a single room somewhere not as nice as the main booking, North Yorks and near the coast in the countryside.

Quiet, nice people, as long as I have wifi. Not expensive as stuff like no TV’s in rooms but that doesn’t bother me as long as I have my lap top.

I’ll have to explain my diet so will get something together well in time. Not eating onions is a problem and I just wouldn’t get through a 3 course evening meal so the cost is wasted, see if there is a pub nearby.

SweetpeaSue DH's blood test from a couple of weeks ago showed a PSA level of 11, which is high (it was 6, 10 years ago), that's why he needs a repeat test. He's got a prescription for the same bladder tablets I'm on. Jacket potatoes are tasty - did you do them in the microwave or oven?

Doodle You'll always miss your husband - there's no getting away from that. You do seem to keep yourself busy and have company most days, although living alone can't be easy. What are you taking to the party? I've probably had 4pts of fluids today (including milk on cereal). I occasionally eat nuts. I particularly like Brazils, although they're quite high in fat.

EllieAnne I think you're due to have 22 degrees by Wednesday. It'll be 30-32 here (too hot)

Wyllow3 I've had Blepharitis and it's unpleasant. The optician told me to wipe my eyelids with a flannel, using diluted baby shampoo. Mine cleared with that. Glad you've booked a holiday. It will do you good to get away for a little while. All of Yorkshire is lovely.

Hope everyone has a good rest tonight. LG here all day tomorrow - our day to have her has changed to Tuesday as DIL is starting a new job. x

No, a flannel doesn't hack it HVDY, I have a bad bout.

I have to use special heat pads warmed in the microwave on my eyes for 8 mins to melt the waxy pus, and massage my eyelids down for the top and up for the bottom in a particular way so the pus moves down to the eyelashes, then use a special product to remove the pus. So after months under my eyes the soft tissues are affected and swollen, and the pus collects in the inner corner of my eye within 4 hours, and means dark circles and itchy eyes.

Any product like soap is a big no no.

Wyllow3 That sounds horrible for you, and a lot of effort to treat your eyes. I hope it clears up soon.

I'm sorry for being a bit grumpy about it HVDY. I was very full on, on you, not fair x
But yes it's really bad sometimes wake with eyes stuck and there is no cure as such just hope it will go.

There was a bit of hoo-ha with QuakerD WhatsApp wise and that set me off as I went and said the wrong thing not so much unkind but possibly provoking yet more hoo/haa as didn't have my guard up enough so slept badly.
sigh.

Anyway, this morning at 10am I have a Zoom de-brief with Quaker HQ lady. We have an hour, and I must make the most of it. Its very special she has given me this time, indeed.

Wyllow I hope it goes well.
I’m stressed- what’s new- but yesterday dh had a blood test. He has them regularly since being on blood thinners. About half eight last night he had a phone call from the hospital to say his platelets were very low and I had to keep an eye on him. Tricky when you are in different rooms. Anyway he was to phone gp today and has app later. No symptoms.
Late last night gd1 sent me a what’s app. Worried about what happens when you die and feeling very low. She didn’t want to say anything to mum or dad as they are tired with tidying the house and work. We messaged for a while and this morning she seems better.she says she has told mum so I might try to have a word later.

Wyllow3 No big deal. Mine went almost as quickly as it started, so I hope yours won't last too long. Hope your Zoom thing went ok.

EllieAnne Hope your husband gets on ok at the doctor's. Does he drink much alcohol? That can cause platelets to be too low. I'm on Clopidogrel, an antiplatelet tablet, and bruise easily. I also get the occasional nosebleed. How old is your GD? She shouldn't be worrying about death. Is she depressed?

LG here at 8.30. We got some groceries, then went out for a picnic at a lovely park across town. Had an ice cream, too. It's too hot for our liking, so we've just got in. She fell asleep in the car - hope she rests for a while longer. x

Hvdy it’s still cold and rainy here.
Dh doesn’t drink alcohol maybe a glass or wine at Christmas.
So far today hes had a gp app a gp phone call and a phone call from the hospital dr who spoke to me and told me what to look out for . He should get a haematologist appointment. His platelets are 28 and should be much more.
Dgd is 15 and has felt suicidal before due to bullying in school.I’ve messaged mum today.one of the big problems is being very overweight . Her mum has put on weight too so I think they will tackle it together.
Depression is a family trait my dd being the most serious.

EllieAnne You must be fed-up about the weather. Hope it brightens up soon. Do you mean 28,000 for the platelets? Your poor GD. She sounds like mine - she's also 15 and overweight. She was being bullied, but that seems to have stopped - I hope so, although she never mentions it. At that age, kids just want to fit in and be like their classmates. I hope your GD's mum helps her. Mine lives with her dad (Son1). He sends her with healthy stuff in her lunchbox, and cooks decent meals from scratch. She buys junk food with her bank card. Depression does tend to run in families, and it's horrible for children to feel so low.

I had a message on my NHS app to say my prescription was ready to collect from Asda, so DH has been there just now, told that only ONE item is there - there should be 4 things. The line is just ringing for ages; no answer. I'll have to go tomorrow - got my pyjamas on, face cream on....... nobody would want to see that .

Wyllow the party was amazing. Wonderful place with beautiful garden by the river. We sat in the shade all afternoon with really nice food contributed by all. My contribution were two cheesecakes and a tub of cream. The top of the cheesecake threatened to slide off but we made it ok.
Lots of music and singing and a bit of dancing. Such a great group of friends. I stayed longer than I thought but sometimes I get a bit melancholy if I stay too long so made my way home and relaxing now.
So glad you’ve booked a holiday. It sounds ideal. You need. Bit of wind down time. Hope you find something that helps your eyes.
Hope the de brief session helps you
HVDY hope your Dh is ok. How often does he have a PSA.? It’s not just the count going up that matters but how quickly it’s going up. 10 years doesn’t sound too bad.
Yes I do try to keep busy and be with people most days. Distraction helps but the heat is making it hard for me to do things.
Ellie Anne whenever you say no one cares about you again, remember this. Your DGD needs you, the fact she WhatsApped you shows she knows you care. So good you were there for her. Bullying is awful. Poor girl. Perhaps you can help her work out a weight loss program if that’s what she wants. Hope your Dh gets his bloods sorted out ok.

I’m sorry it’s so chilly where you are. I wish I could gather up the sunshine here and send it to you. It’s most uncomfortable. Well over 30 and no breeze. I’m so very hot even with two fans on.

Sweetpeasue hope you’re ok today. Coleslaw and jacket potatoes sounds nice hope you enjoyed it. My diet went out the window today. I had sausage in a roll with three salads. Big piece of quiche and two puddings and some profiteroles. 😱
Scaredycat I hope it’s not too hot where you are and you’re enjoying your stay.

No Hvdy he says it’s 22.
Dgd also eats the wrong foods. She buys a lot of rubbish. If I’m cleaning her room I find wrappers everywhere.
Her dad gets annoyed with her but I’m sure it’s emotional eating. She’s got her period at the moment so feeling hormonal.

Read all your posts.
So extremely tired today so forgive me for v short post.
Hope your DH goes on alright EllieAnne
Glad your party was so good Doodle
Wishing you all a peaceful night. Back tomorrow. Xxx

Doodle What a lovely day you had. Glad you had such a nice time, with good food and company. It's good to get out in the sunshine (not for too long, as it gets too hot at times). My husband hasn't had a PSA blood test for years, but his is 11, and according to what I've read, that's quite high. When he had the ultrasound, the nurse said his prostate was very large.

EllieAnne My GD1 is the same; she eats when she's unhappy (much of that is to do with her mother). Son1 has had to resort to putting crisps and other snacks in a locked cupboard as she was eating 4 packets at once when she got in from school. To be honest, she's always been greedy. When she comes here, she helps herself to fruit without asking - I don't mind that, but she'll eat 2 or 3 or 4 items. We don't buy cakes, biscuits or crisps. 15 is a very difficult age to be. What is your GD's school doing about the bullying?

EllieAnne This, on a Google search -

Many factors can lead to a low platelet count – a condition known as thrombocytopenia.

A normal platelet count ranges from 150,000 to 450,000 per microliter of blood. A count lower than 150,000 is considered thrombocytopenia. A platelet count below 20,000 is severe thrombocytopenia.

Thanks Hvdy. He’s almost at severe. But has no symptoms.
My son has also got a locked box of treats.but there is a Tesco near her school and he has no control of that.
I don’t think the bullying is quite so bad now but the school has not been very helpful.
Doodle that sounds like a good party. And you have the weather for it.
I’ve just watched Djokovic s match. Wow!

Zoom went very well thank you all - helpful, tiring, ponder-worth. There may be a mini breakthrough with QuakerD, hmmmm, we’ll wait and see.

Then I went for long walks and coffee by the lovely river with shady tress in the park people watching. It was lovely once I got going from being very stiff.

and did a bit of key admin stuff at home before a snooze ad my regular Tues night Q Zoom.

What a relief not to have to “keep an eye” EllieAnne but I have to ask…can he not monitor himself? Not possible, or not willing?

GD1 has trusted you in a way few teenagers would, you know. That really, really says a lot about how she sees you that she would turn to you. *You have helped her in a crisis at the very age I needed to talk over my fears on it and there was no one*- but there YOU were for her today - a gift beyond price.
Sounds like Mum and daughter need to sort of go and do some exercise together?
Can you get them out for walks when you are there to nice places? It helps some with depression too (it did/does me mostly). I’m not sure what to suggest with the comfort eating as in long term habit as when I was the most very severely depressed I ate less and was for a time too thin.

It got hotter as the day went on, didn’t it, HVDY. Definitely called for ice cream.
Oh, go on, PJ’s are seen regularly these days out and about……maybe the face cream off….
Yes the best thing is not to have the foods in the house at all.

Oh I love that sort of outdoor “do” Doodle. I also love cheesecake. Straw hats and chats. But yes, there is a limit. My situation is not the same as yours at all, but after a time I tire of company. Need to withdraw. Even it doesn’t feel great. It’s like one has spent all the people energy one has in the jam jar.
Yes, you’ll be in for a tougher time heat wise. Is the hospice air conditioned to sit there with a cuppa?
Diets are bound to go to pot some days!

See you tomorrow Sweetpeasue.

Thoughts with nadateturbe and PurplePixie how are you. Scaredycat watch the heat it must be in France too.

EllieAnne I hope your husband gets to see a haematologist soon, but it's good that he hasn't got any symptoms, anyway. My GD is the same - she passes a Co-Op and Sainsbury's on the way to school. She takes a size 8 in shoes, so she's a big girl anyway. I bought her a lot of clothes but haven't seen her in any - they're probably too small, but she wouldn't say.

Wyllow3 People-watching is great. It got really warm yesterday - shade under a tree was most welcome. Being by the river must have been even better.

It's going to be very warm today (32 here, apparently). DH and I are going to see Son1's first ex - she's married with a son now - and take her birthday presents. She lives 22 miles away, and has kindly invited us to stay for lunch. Hope everyone has a decent day x