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Life in the Slow Lane

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cortina Sun 28-Apr-13 23:39:31

I grew up in a village where everybody knew everyone else. I met my future wife in a nearby town at the age of seventeen and married at nineteen. We bought our first house in the village, a brownstone cottage with spiders as big as small dogs. My new wife, by now a twenty year old childsnatcher, joined me in our new home. She did a two year probationary period where the locals would only speak to her if I was with her but after that she was accepted and respected.

Most of the village social life was in the pubs, one of which had a thatched roof with wet sacks over the beer barrels. The village elders would have their favourite seat. If you happened to be in their seat when they came in you gave up the seat, nothing needed to be said.

The village had a wide range of Characters. One lovely old chap would come into the pub, go up to the bar and order a pint costing 11d, thats 11d not 11p, go to his favourite seat,take a drink of beer and with a lovely smile would always say " You think you're alright when you Ain't ( = are not ). I thought then and still do what wise words they were, I just wish that I knew what they mean. He was by profession a Bookies Runner. This was before the days of Herge's Adventures of Tinternet.

When we started our family, a daughter and a son,we moved to the city.

Last year I lost my darlng wife after 57 years of hardly ever apart.

I now live in the city in an empty house.

How do you spell Cartharsis? - Is it good for you?

Is Nostalgia a thing of the past? ( Or how the Hell do you get through it )

Today my daughter took myself and my Great grandson to a Meet the Animals farm and lunch, laughter all the way.

Nil Desperandum

PRINTMISS Tue 07-May-13 15:36:43

sorry, I got that wrong, we did have a Matchless motor cycle and side-car, but we finished up with an Ariel Square four and side-car. I also got carried away, and only meant to mention that I was the owner of a Cortina Estate at one time, not that I ever enjoyed driving, it was just a convenience.

nanapug Tue 07-May-13 16:11:30

I love this thread. This is what GN is all about. If by just chatting we can be there for someone who is clearly very sad and needs some extra love and support, that is fantastic. Virtual it may be but it is clear to me that the messages and feelings are very real.
How you must have loved your beloved wife cortina. I am sure she knew what a lucky lady she was, and you too were lucky to share such love. Yes, they are right, you will have to go through all the different stages of grieving and no one knows how long that will take. You will never get over her loss, but in time you will learn to adapt and live with such sadness. Please come on here and chat to us when ever you feel you want to. We can be quite a supportive lot, but be warned, being on here is addictive ;)

Flowerofthewest Tue 07-May-13 17:06:19

Cardi story reminds me of when I was knitting a surprise tank top for my then husband, I knitted it under a blanket as it was a Christmas present. I knitted and knitted and knitted but couldn't ask to measure it against him as it was a - surprise!!!! - I wrapped it up and proudly presented it on Christmas morning, he promised to wear it to the pre Christmas drink down the local.

It was the most awful golden yellow colour and it came down to his knees. He never complained and wore it to the pub. I stayed at home a cooked the turkey! He did get a few strange looks and comments down the pub but didn't seem to mind.

Grannyknot Tue 07-May-13 18:07:18

flower smile for the vest.

Our neighbour restores classic motorbikes - I think I've posted about him before, and so he has a never ending stream of "mates" and attracts many interested males (always males) some who hang out with him in his workshop as he tinkers; and some who are just passing; others like my husband who want a daily update on the progress of the bikes. We see the bikes arriving in a sorry state and sometimes even in a box! And then some weeks later when they're gleaming and gorgeous and good as new he takes them for a spin. He's supposedly retired but what a nice life he has. Never without a project either.

Grannyknot Tue 07-May-13 18:07:52

Sorry flower I called your tank top creation a vest!

whenim64 Tue 07-May-13 18:57:51

What a lovely thread - I've only just started reading it. I'm enjoying your posts Cortina.

I have Stephen Fry on my SatNav. He's very funny. When I get where I'm going despite his help, he says 'well, you've reached your destination. Very good. I think I'm falling in love with you !' grin

cortina Tue 07-May-13 20:58:26

Flowerof the Vest

I've not heard of Piffy up a stick but I have heard of a Piffling Stick from a butcher and wish I hadn't.

I won't explain, you wouldn't like it.

annodomini Tue 07-May-13 21:51:58

I think my sat nav woman has emigrated to a different satellite. She has deserted me! sad

cortina Tue 07-May-13 22:07:14

Notso

Stanley is a shopfloor saying but it's a bit rude so I'll have to think it through.

You know when they put an advert in the Looking for Romance column
and are looking for a young piece along the lines of ' Must have S.O.H and big, er, ambitions'. Could I put in 'Must have S.O.H for an S.O.S ? (or is it a S.O.S - English teachers please advise)

Ref. sense of humour at one point I worked for a large engineering company and some of my colleagues were not too impressive. I would go into the workshop at the start of the working day, everywhere quiet, and loudly shout ' Meeting for the skilled men at 9 o'clock ' leave it a few seconds then ' In the phonebox ' leave it a few seconds and then ' Bring a chair ' . Silence.

When it came to redundancy I was the first one marched in but that may have been because I had an opinion at Union meetings. If on a nice sunny day the word went round ' Union meeting in the yard at 10 am ' I always took my coat, I knew we'd be down the road.

The Shop Steward had a penchant for wearing a blonde wig and a long ladies dress. He had been inside. Nobody asked why.

And then ( English teachers please advise can you begin a sentence with And ) there is the story about the daytrip to Skeggie.

Can you believe ( i before e except after c ) my wife put up with me for 57 years, question mark.

And then ( And is there again ) there's the story about the Doctors appointment.

Flowerofthewest Tue 07-May-13 22:38:02

cortina grin

cortina Tue 07-May-13 22:57:26

Janerowena

I went to Silverstone when Stirling was driving a Cooper with the brake light disconnected.Going home I would flick the steerwheel to make the backend step out.

More Donington now.

cortina Tue 07-May-13 23:02:53

Sel

Thank you for thinking of me, I'll have to watch what I say.

You'll have me putting up a smiley face with pink/red cheeks.

Sel Tue 07-May-13 23:51:51

Yes Cortina you'd better be careful, I have been known to make grown men blush.

Stop teasing us with all these hints about your past goings on and start telling smile

Tegan Wed 08-May-13 00:00:03

Writing is very cathartic, I find. And, if you continue to do so on here you may look back in time and realise that you have moved on [in some way at least]. I had a bust up with my daughter last year. All healed now, thank goodness, but for some reason got very interested in Morris Dancing. Went to Southwell when they had the folk festival and there was Morris Dancing all round the town. Got a garage full of motor bike bits [belonging to the ex husband]. He took the bikes [eventually]; Nortons and suchlike but not the bits. Yes; car journeys are strange these days with that woman in the car. She kept trying to make us go on the toll road last weekend and we had to keep telling her to shut up. She's a right nag. It's the S.O.s birthday tomorrow and I've got him a card that says on the front 'Mr Birthday Boy's satnav device; Go the wrong way, faster and more efficiently...' Will now have a quick blast of The Witchmen having thought about them due to this thread. Will do a link. May not work...

Tegan Wed 08-May-13 00:13:56

www.youtube.com/watch?v=klo-Mwp5-pA

Sel Wed 08-May-13 00:34:48

How wonderful the English are Tegan - loved it grin I've never heard of The Witchmen - a bit more masculine than the Morrismen with their ribbons and flowers. What's the origin, do you know?

Enviousamerican Wed 08-May-13 00:38:41

Dear me,what are you ladies going to show me next???grin

Tegan Wed 08-May-13 01:09:34

Oh there's more to Morris Dancing than hankie waving y'know wink.Can't beat the black faced Border Morris. I defy anyone to not want to tap their feet and clap their hands when the Witchmen get going...

Enviousamerican Wed 08-May-13 01:12:01

Yeah,I have to admit they made me want to join up! Men only right? Guess I could beat a drum!

Tegan Wed 08-May-13 01:40:38

Search instead for raving maes utubeWeb ResultsMay at the Orchard 2012 (09) Raving Maes - YouTube

www.youtube.com/watch?v=76xB1KocK5s

Tegan Wed 08-May-13 01:41:56

No Envious; all you need is a broomstick...

Enviousamerican Wed 08-May-13 01:47:17

One that can fly me over?

Enviousamerican Wed 08-May-13 01:52:39

Tegan,seriously that does look like fun.It reminds me of the folk dancing we learned in school.

Tegan Wed 08-May-13 01:58:19

We used to do Morris Dancing at school; I think that's why I've always loved it. They blacked their faces [this is in the past] because begging was illegal and, if people didn't give them money they'd cause a bit of grief and didn't want to be recognised. Bit like trick or treating I suppose. It's funny but, all the years I could have done that and didn't but now my knees have shot it I'd love to have a go. Although not sure about the bustier and fishnet tights blush. By the way, did your husband watch the Kentucky Derby on Saturday? Winner was related to Ruffian I believe. Couldn't get a live link but found a radio station so was able to listen to it.

Enviousamerican Wed 08-May-13 02:07:50

Oh,yes we watched it.Funny thing was I picked the winner out of two. They both had smaller backsides and I told my husband that's why they might win. some of them had noticeable larger ones! when I was grinning up I had a pleasure mare and she had a ample backside and thick legs and hoofs. she wasn't fast but could carry two easily.