I am sorry that Abbey is having such a lot of difficulties. I have lived in the country all of my life apart from 4 years (and the same part of the country for all but another 3) and I am unfamiliar with Abbey's idea that it should be OP's responsibility.
Having said that, most people I know would, in these circumstances, put up their own fence. They would grumble about it, loudly, in the pub, with a detailed account of how much they have spent; but they would not risk their own property or especially the welfare of their children (or animals) if initial approaches haven't worked.
I also find it unhelpful to say 'townie' attitudes'. We have all read in the newspapers about people who object to cocks crowing or something similar, but I've never come across that in real life (writing this as a tractor rumbles past, shedding straw bits onto my garden!)
Racist rapist of Sikh woman in Walsall
What do you find yourself avoiding more as you get older?
