So who does the most housework etc in your home

I do everything inside the house and also take care of huge garden. My husband will cook the evening meal and food shop but point blank refuses to do anything else - better than nothing I know but when asked what I'd like for any present I always say "please just clean the bathrooms for a month" but he never does.

Living alone I do everything - except gas and electrics. On the very rare occasion that I have to get a 'man' in, it fills me with dread. I've never forgotten the time when I had someone in to look at the gas boiler and when I said his estimate was too much and I couldn't afford it, his reply (with a leer) was 'Well, there's more than one way of paying for things you know!' I still get the creeps just thinking about it.

The worst of it was, he'd been recommended to me by a lady I worked with - his lovely wife.

I do:
Shopping
Hoovering
Dusting
Gardening
Getting in workmen
Supervising workmen
Make tea for workmen
Decorating
Car cleaning
Window cleaning
Cooking(all of)
Bathrooms
Kitchen
Cooker cleaning
Present buying
Grandchild minding/fetching
Washing
Ironing

My husband does:

Eating
Watching tv
Eating
Watching more tv
Eating
Then more tv
Goes to bed.

He says it's a good trade off!!!

Sorry - I brought the tone down there for a minute. I'm happy to do everything I can and even tackled a bit of plastering for the first time last week. (A blind man on a galloping horse would be happy to see it anyway!)

We also have a cleaner once a week so not much cleaning to do apart from that - DH does a lot of cooking, he enjoys it more than me! When we have a lot of people over for meals (family or friends) we do it together and both enjoy that.
He does most of the clearing up.
I tend to take care of laundry, putting the machine on, folding etc. The cleaner does the little ironing we need.
DH does most of the food shopping.
We both work in our own company but I work almost full time and he works a couple of hours a day so this division of labour works well for us.
DH was always a very involved / active father and partner, even when the kids were little back in the 80s he did a lot more than most of his peers.

I do all of it and I have just asked what he does and he said
"I correct all the errors" !!!!!

Split down the middle I think. He does his own ironing and often puts the washing on. We tend to do what ever we feel like doing. He makes his own breakfast and lunch and I do the evening meal. He also makes the bread and I make the yogurt and he will wash up and I will clean the work surfaces and floor. It works well, today for instance he changed the bedding and put it on to wash and then hung it out while I was out. I will now go upstairs and give it a dust and vacuum and make up the bed. I tend to go around every day just doing a quick tidy up, putting stuff away and plumping up cushions. We both feel that life is to short to worry about keeping the house in pristine order. He also does all the bills as I have my daughters finances to worry about.

My husband was well-trained before I got him, so has always done the heavier work inside and out, hoovering and digging respectively. I used to do more than I can now, but apart from the heavy work, jobs are shared. We prepare and cook the main meal together, he even cooks for himself sometimes. I do the accounts, he then gets them to balance when I've made a mistake! I do Christmas cards and decide on any decorations we may decide to put up, he puts them up! When he worked full time, I saw it as my part of the deal to be in charge of household stuff whilst he went out to work. Now he's more or less retired, we share. Seems fair.

ME !!!!
Sorry for shouting, but I want everyone to know, I live on my own, no partner, no maid.......my dear pal B comes once a fortnight to help me with the beds (I hate that job) ...and for those tut-tutters, I have a shower most nights, so my bed linen is fairly clean

That made me smile ditzyme sound like your husband has been to training classes.
There doesn't seem to be a fair division of labour there Saggi have you suggested swapping roles for a week or so ?
For most of us we fall into the roles where we are most comfortable I think. Areas of conflict for us include the garden as neither of us likes gardening, my husband won't agree to pay someone to do it grrrrr

KatyK
You seem to do most of the actual work and your DH merely has to change suppliers when your tariffs end ie: once a year or 18 months, a sitting down job taking up very little time. Mowing the grass is, at most, a weekly chore, not in bad or winter weather. You seem to have drawn the short straw

I do the washing and most of the gardening. We share the cooking and cleaning and DH does all the repairs to house, boat , bikes etc. We can both sew and iron.

They are MY cats when they need the vet, otherwise they are OUR cats.

I pay the bills from our joint account, DH deals with insurance claims and banking if we are talking large sums such as buying our house, arranging mortgages etc.

I keep up with the family -both his side and mine.

I do everything, though son, who has learning difficulties, sometimes empties the dishwasher, puts his own washing in the machine and occasionally puts out the recycling. He can strip his bed and help me mow the lawn.

I do washing and ironing and DH does cooking. Everything else we do between us. We have a gardener so we just potter out there.

Maybe a stupid question Anniebach but why don’t you have to cook?

I do, but not very often. If I didn't, nothing would happen as there's only me now. I also do the garden, wash the car, put out the bins, stack the logs etc, etc .....Keeps me fit and healthy apparently, although my stiff
joints after a day digging up bamboo roots tell me otherwise

The person who organises the domestic chores controls the house. So we squabble and fight for it. I guess we shouldn’t have read the Machiavelli.

We've been retired for 12 years. Before that, we both worked full-time and I did absolutely everything. Now he cooks a meal two or three times a week. He also likes to empty and refill the dishwasher (a job I hate!), but he never wipes the worktops down. Other than that he sits on his bum all day. And I really resent it!

But the thing I resent even more, is the bloody assumption that it's all my work, anyway. Like he has a habit of saying things like, "I've emptied your dishwasher for you." My dishwasher ... for me ...?

We've had loads of rows about this, but it doesn't make any difference. All of the housework, the decorating, the garden, handling the money, booking holidays, etc. is my work. (Presumably, because I don't have a plonker!)

And I see a version of this attitude still continuing within my daughters' lives. There is no way that their husbands contribute as much to the general running of things as they do. (And both work full-time.)

I read somewhere, years ago - 'Measure the leisure.' A brilliant way to see who's doing what, and how much!

I do. DH plays golf.

We have a cleaner once a week and the place is immaculate on Thursday after she has been. She also cleans the windows and changes the bed. We keep the place tidy during the week like sweeping the kitchen and lounge because the dogs bring the dead plumbago flowers and dead foliage in on their fur. So yesterday they went to be clipped so no garden bits indoors today. I generally do the cooking although thats not much as we are dieting at the moment. Either of us will put the washing in the machine and hang it out. Shopping is a joint venture and he does most of the gardening. What litttle ironing there is I do unless he has worn dressy trousers then they are done by him. Ex military so out comes the brown paper. I put on the dishwasher at night after rearranging it to get everything in and he usually empties it in in the morning while making the coffee.
Banking and insurances I do plus booking flights and holidays. After he booked a holiday to Malta from Gatwick and then the flight back was to Stansted at 11.30pm in November and our car was parked at Gatwick he has not been allowed to to book them. He does do the car hire usually.
All in all it is quite even really.

Do you fancy a husband-swap, Daisyboots?

oh does financial bits housework whoever sees what needs doing first tends to do it in respect of putting washing on washing up hoovering and mopping floor. putting washing away tends to be or we would never find anything but we are often lazy and just take it out the drier and wear straight away. we have been together nearly 3 years and its one thing we dont argue about if it needs doing do it!

I do all the housework and cleaning, ironing etc. OH services the cars and does all the DIY. Would I want him to help? No, because it wouldn’t be up to my standard ?. I like my house clean, uncluttered and actually enjoy doing it. Well, the result anyway. We do have a chap though who does our (very) small garden once a fortnight, as neither of us likes gardening. OH does, however, deals with all the paperwork with regard to utility bills i.e. shops around for the best deals etc. I do the food shopping. Works for us.

I became the Family Chief Executive very early in our marriage because DH had a job that often took him a way at a few hours notice for indefinite periods of time, that meant as well as looking after house, garden and children, being the financial manager and everything else.

However I am cack handed and DH is very practical and loves doing repairing and improving jobs. Over the years he has mended toys, appliances and cars, fitted many fitted kitchens, replaced and enlarged windows, done loft conversions and currently has recently designed an extension to our current house, which, if it goes ahead, he will project manage.

All in all I reckon it has worked out that our contributions to the family firm are about equal. We certainly wouldn't have the house we have now if we hadn't several times bought 'project' houses that DH modernised and improved.