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H1954 Mon 17-Dec-18 16:03:55

I may be over sensitive on this subject but it annoys me immensely...........of all the men I have worked with and the two that I have lived with not one of them has ever been able to open a kitchen cupboard and find anything! If it's not perched at the front of the shelf it's not in there according to the men! Come on guys, move things around a bit and look properly before closing said cupboard door and declaring defeat!

maryhoffman37 Tue 18-Dec-18 11:24:08

Why do so many of you have such hopeless husbands?

Jaycee5 Tue 18-Dec-18 11:25:14

What is particularly annoying is that I have never had kitchen cupboards placed for my height. Men have a better vantage point in the first place. They aren't usually standing on tippy toes to see.

nanahil Tue 18-Dec-18 11:44:49

I play golf, following two men who trudged up and down for ages looking for their lost golf ball in the long grass , the lady I was playing with said "I bet they don't take that long looking for their car keys"

lesley4357 Tue 18-Dec-18 11:50:28

Same with the fridge! When oh asks"where's..... " my answer is always" behind the cheese"?

HurdyGurdy Tue 18-Dec-18 11:54:47

My husband walks into a room to look for something, turns his head to the left, then to the right, before declaring "it's not in here"

He was going ballistic one time because he needed his passport to go on a business trip. He had looked "absolutely everywhere" and it was just gone. He was 98% towards accusing me of hiding it so he couldn't go (as if!).

I asked what bag he'd used last time he went away. It definitely wasn't there, because he'd looked there twice.

I went to the bag and found the passport. Which, of course, definitely wasn't there when he looked.

Tamayra Tue 18-Dec-18 11:58:42

Do men ever actually insert a new toilet roll when the old one runs out ?????
I don’t think it’s a skill they’ve mastered After all toilet roll holders are a very intricate piece of equipment !
Seems I’m the only one with the right skill to do it

M0nica Tue 18-Dec-18 12:04:18

DH always gets the new roll out and puts it in the holder. But otherwise, I refer to my email up thread.

jangeo44 Tue 18-Dec-18 12:09:23

Not going to add anything other than say all of the above comments refer to my husband - has to be a 'Man thing'

Aepgirl Tue 18-Dec-18 12:38:48

It’s a man thing!

Thorntrees Tue 18-Dec-18 12:57:07

This thread has really made me smile. It’s nice to know that me DH is ‘normal’ on the husband scale when it comes to not being able to find anything,leaving drawers etc open and never putting anything back where he got it from. He does change the toilet roll but invariably puts the new one on back to front! Reading this thread though has made me realise that I wouldn’t swop him for the world and I’m truly grateful he is around so I’ll gladly continue to locate missing objects, close cupboard doors etc hopefully for a while yet.

Daddima Tue 18-Dec-18 13:00:58

“ Where’s the thingummybob?”

“ In the kitchen drawer”

“ Whereabouts?”

Anyone recognise this conversation?

Sheilasue Tue 18-Dec-18 13:13:29

Yep if it’s not under his nose he can’t find it. Drives me nuts,

Willow500 Tue 18-Dec-18 13:15:09

This thread has just reminded me my other half can't find his pyjama bottoms - he swears they're not in the drawer I know I put them in. As he only puts them on at the weekend when he gets up (the rest of the time he's straight in the shower and dressed) he's taken to putting his jeans on under his dressing gown! I need to go and locate them. He also won't throw the empty toilet roll in the bin but leaves it on the window sill along with the can of air freshener which lives on the shelf below. I think he does this on purpose - some years ago he delighted in putting the tea, sugar and coffee canister lids on the wrong way round just to wind me up grin

sarahellenwhitney Tue 18-Dec-18 13:23:43

My late DH was ,unlike myself, organised. I was the one forever asking have you seen etc etc etc
Is it true opposites attract ?

Lilyflower Tue 18-Dec-18 16:08:04

These man points are all duly conceded but the one that really gets me is the way my DS will empty a container (cereal/loo rolls/coffee/milk/ham/biscuits/whatever) and then put the closed, EMPTY packet back from whence he got it even though the bin might be nearer to the point of use.

It does not matter how many times I say I am not bothered about the food or products being used up but that I need to know when to renew them so there will be some there when we all (including him, of course) need them.

Cabbie21 Tue 18-Dec-18 16:14:16

My DH is mostly pretty capable of finding things, but as I am out a lot, I do despair when I come home to find he has left work tops and the ceramic hob dirty, and any bits of hand washing that won’t go in the dishwasher still in the sink, I think he is afraid of getting his hands wet. Also the old toilet roll and kitchen roll middles are not put in the recycling, nor a new one fetched from the storage cupboard if he uses the last one. Just little things.
He seems to want to fill every inch of the worktops with gadgets, especially ones which don’t get used by me, eg coffee machine, electric tin opener, omelette maker ( really), knife sharpener..... I must sort out the cupboards and find room for them, then he won’t be able to find them.

leeds22 Tue 18-Dec-18 16:16:45

My DH is very well organised and tidy and closes drawers and cupboards behind me - sometimes when I'm still using them. But his specs have a habit of hiding just when he needs them.

Oldwoman70 Tue 18-Dec-18 16:45:48

My DH always "lost" things in the house but knew exactly where everything was in his shed, even though it looked a total mess to me.

Lazigirl Tue 18-Dec-18 16:53:39

Stop moaning you lot. My DH is ultra tidy, always finds things, puts things away, very organised, clears up the kitchen when I've been cooking and more. He was hard wired as a child by his mother. Sometimes it can be a tadge ANNOYING grin

Nanny123 Tue 18-Dec-18 17:03:01

I have a six year old grandson that is learning this trait already

Day6 Tue 18-Dec-18 17:06:18

I am quite lucky I think. I met my OH when we were in our 50s. For some years he had been keeping house alone, so he knows what has to be done. He not only knows when we are running out of toilet rolls, he goes out and buys them and puts them in bathroom cupboards too.

He can however look at things and not see them. I tend to be the one who organises places for things. I am not the tidiest person in the world but I have a place for everything and can find things quickly. OH has scattered packs of batteries in his shed, kitchen drawers, the garage, in the utility room, by his computer etc, etc, etc. Just a few days ago, needing batteries for Christmas presents before wrapping, etc, I went spare being able to locate AAAs, but not AAs. So we now have a battery drawer, and for good measure I showed it to him, pointed out its existence once I'd organised the batteries into little tupperware boxes.tchgrin

willa45 Tue 18-Dec-18 17:22:45

Leaves cabinet doors open, doesn't turn out the bathroom light, can't find things in his own closet let alone the fridge.

This is something that has to be gene related and primarily oriented towards the male of the species.

Last time he couldn't find the mustard, I told him how his X-ray vision was failing with age and he now needed to start moving things aside....tchgrin

Legs55 Tue 18-Dec-18 17:54:11

My late DH was a typical "man looker", if it didn't jump out he never looked behind other itemsthlhmm. I did make him put his clean/ironed clothes away he had no excuse for not being able to find them

As for map reading I was far more expert & have a very good sense of direction, also I don't panic if I've taken a wrong turn unlike DH did. My theory is sooner or later you will find a sign/signpost with a familiar name on it

Even my Boss admitted to "having had a man look" when he couldn't find something in the Office, he would come & ask one of the female staff where said item wasthlgrin

Saggi Tue 18-Dec-18 18:10:48

Conversation with my 11 year old grandson yesterday... “time you were out the door to school”...”ok nan”.... “ “ “have you got your door keys?” ...”no nan I can’t find them”...”are they with you mobile in pocket of school back- pack?” .... “no nan, I’ve looked, phones there but no keys”.... I go and look in pocket of back-pack and lo and behold there’s his keys!!! “Riley your keys are right here,!!! .. “ oh, sorry nan, I couldn’t see them” !!!!!!!!!!! Man in training indeedconfused

sroge Tue 18-Dec-18 18:58:05

My DH expects me to know the exact location of every item in the house! If he can't find something he accuses me of moving it! Men! What are they like wink