What Age do you consider moving?

NanaPlenty ask your husband how he expects the future to pan out and what are his objections to what you want to do.
Then you'll have a basis for discussion.

Does he also want to travel abroad, btw?

We moved from a five bedroom house in North Yorkshire to a bungalow on North East Coast. Been here 18 months and love it.
I was 73 and DH was 74 when we moved. It was hard work, however we are so happy we made the "jump".
The Bungalow is easy to care for- so when one of us dies the other should be able to manage on there own.
The move has also released some more spending money for us- for holidays etc.
Though its so beautiful here we dont go abroad as much as we expected to. We live in a village near Embleton Bay. Dont leave it too late Nana Plenty.!

To me your plan sounds eminently sensible, so I hope you can persuade your husband to discuss it.

He may have valid reasons for not liking your plan, after all, but to me it sounds as if he just doesn't want to have to decide anything.

Who does the gardening and is it a delight or a chore?
Getting rid of a big garden would be at the top of my list and travelling while you are able to comes a good second.

I will add that FIL should have downsized (he had been a widower for several years) would not hear of it and then after several more years and much pleading from us to no avail came the crisis......enough to say we had to take his house on board, de clutter, sell and settle him somewhere better BUT he was physically and mentally not up to it so every choice had to be imposed upon him. Its far far better to make these future proofing plans together when everyone is still able to make informed choices and not just be a passive and reluctant 'victim'.

I found downsizing from a very large property, 5 years ago, when I was 58 very liberating. Friends of ours who live opposite that property intended to downsize years ago, but never quite did it and they regret it.
They are in their 80's and with reduced mobility, they feel trapped as they are not physically up to the upset of moving
and life is a struggle.
We didn't move nearer to children/Grandchildren- simply a small property close to original home in an area we have lived for 40 years. For us it was a great decision, and I love the small space.

Well I will be 80 in August bet am moving from a 3 bed to a 2 bed bungalow not too far away. It has been a nightmare as I have lived here since 1961 with Mum Dad and brother but I have spent the past year getting rid of stuff.

The bungalow is 15 minutes away from where I live now near a train and bus station. It was built in 2004 for over 55's. I will have some change from the sale to spend on small new furniture. It is stressful especially as I have been having hospital treatment re polyps which I have had Colonoscopies for 4 times and they cannot reach the polyp. I am looking forward to the move though just hope my little dog is happy.

I am almost 66 and have lived in my current house for 30 years. During that time there has been some very difficult periods and bringing up children and working full time I feel as though I haven't been able to enjoy it enough. I retired over three years ago and since then have been looking after elderly parents who live quite a long way from me. Sadly I lost my Dad earlier this year so now just Mom who is not far off 100. Children live at other ends of the country. My husband also has ill health which brings a lot of restrictions on what we can do. I know that one day we will have to consider moving but first I want to enjoy my home with all its space and two acres of garden and meadow, I can still manage the garden.

Think you need to work on your DH get him on board.

Why not look at properties in the area you are considering? He might be persuaded.

We have decided to move and I have been looking at what property is about. We live in a little village and decided we wanted to live somewhere with more amenities. Having just been in hospital it was brought home to me as I struggled to walk across the ward that a bungalow would make life easier something I never thought I would say. Coming home and trying to get upstairs made my mind up for me. I was told the time to move is when you don’t think you need to as most people leave it too late.

We were living an hours drive away from DD and were not enjoying the ride around the m25. One day we had a conversation about what we would do if the other died and we both said move closer to DD. So why wait? We downsized to somewhere more expensive, but was a good investment and it works well. Within walking distance of DD, shop, doctors, underground etc.
Perhaps sell it to DH that you would have more money to visit and help his family. And make his life easier. He is 70 and going to want to move less and less. Go for it now . Perhaps take him to view a good choice and he might be able to visualise it. Well that's what I did with my OH. And he came round.

I expected I’d think about moving in a couple of years now I’m on my own, not wanting to far but either a bungalow (probably beyond my means here in West London, or a garden flat.
My daughter rents a lovely flat in a small block of four and unexpectedly the next door flat has come up for sale and I’m thinking about taking a look. It’s in good condition probably a new bathroom needed, it’s in a perfect position near shops,tube,buses and family and my favourite place to walk in woods and lake. The one drawback is the communal garden at the end of which is parking for residents cars, so although I would have a patio onto the garden of my own everyone would walk across the garden to reach their door. I think it would be a deal breaker such a shame,but I will take a look.