Help calm me, house buying and selling stress part 2

That is what hurts most mosaics, that people can lie and play us innocents. we who have good honest values and take people at face value. Enjoy the duvet afternoon. Its the time of year and the weather, I have just eaten 4 strips of lindt hazelnut chocolate and am just about to light the fire and put a film on

Thanks Whiff. I've just got back from the beach and told my daughter, thanks for your kind words. I must remember to look to the future and try and be more upbeat, I think I am depressed. At least I've still got the other one and can get the right price for it The young couple played me rotten, saying how all three of their dogs would love it!

My daughter's just asked me to take her to the station, she's going to fly over to see her boyfriend for the night. Wish I could drive her to the airport, I don't know if I'll ever get over my fear of driving. Then onwards to the vets so my doggo can have his booster and the dreaded kennel cough vaccine.

Gardener has just cancelled as he's got a tummy bug, so I'm going to tidy the house and have a duvet afternoon I think. I'm going to watch 'Not in my name' on Netflix with a box of chocolates and the paracetomol ready for the toothache!

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yes, look forward mosaics, draw that line across. I have had to get rid of 100`s £s worth of things, always felt sick to my stomach for a while until I remember that day when I would have given my house away, just to get away. That sofa would not have fitted into many homes, you said that. Look on it as a ball and chain gone and one very big thing less to worry about. It may well have been for the best

Mosaicwarts please don't feel sick about your sofa. It's gone . It's in the past now. Look to the future. I know if I looked back to mistakes I've made in the past it would drive me mad. So I try not to. Not always easy but I do it. You have a lot to look forward to try and focus on that.

Argh I feel a bit sick, just looking on ebay and have found my sofa - advertised for £795! Definitely mine as I gave them a special cushion that wasn't part of the set. They have a warehouse full of them!

mosaics, that is uplifting at last. Have you googled the name and surveyor, maybe something will put the pieces together for you. Wouldn`t that be lovely if it was the same person

Hello everyone, viewing agent friend just rang, and said it was a very positive viewing. I'm convinced it is the person who surveyed the house ten years ago but have four huge boxes of paperwork, won't wade through it all to check. How strange if it is her, fate playing a hand in my destiny.

Nice to feel a happy feeling for fleeting moment, even if the news isn't positive when she gives her official feedback

Keeping my fingers crossed for everyone waiting for news, it has made me determined to focus in on my perfect 'forever' home so it's my last ever move and will be easy for my kids to sell when I've gone. Sad looking at some bungalows that need 'complete refurbishment', some people have spent their last years in really grotty surroundings.

Enjoy your afternoon x

boho43 - I can totally empathise with your post! We're a decade or so 'younger' than you, but still found it exhausting, both physically and mentally. But, like you, moved to be near our daughter and we love the friendly area we are in too! Stuff like putting up mirrors, pictures etc. take time as does ironing out all the little niggles. We're still waiting for a plumber to rectify some minor plumbing issues. Love the house and small garden and think we got it at a fair price, which will enable our daughter to get a bigger family house when they're ready - so a win/win situation. Things can only get better from now on. Enjoy your lovely new home.

Goodness Petra what a last minute nightmare! Glad you manage to sort it out with the council. Sometimes however strong we are as independent women a few tears does the trick! Are you now settled in your new home? I can imagine my buyers' solicitor doing something like that as he seems to take weeks to look at paperwork so could potentially have overlooked something. Crossing fingers that we might exchange this coming week but communication is poor so I expect I will be chasing everything once again. Your OH is correct but at the same time if chasing gets it done then that us what I will do.

Mosaic - any news from yesterday’s viewing?

Franbern - the 29th is my preferred date as well, so you and I are working towards the same date, hope everyone else involved in each of our sales/purchases fall into line. It feels very in limbo and I am nervous of doing too much taking things down etc but at the same time need to really if I might move in just over two weeks

Boho43 like Craftyone I love where I have moved to. I am very happy with my choice of home and the area. I thought long and hard about what I wanted and more importantly what I didn't want. I only looked at bungalows that met that criteria. Don't mention removals still in dispute with Pickfords about the delivery of my things. My daughter is sorting it out. She is beginning to lose patience with them. Should have all been settled by now had the delivery 22nd August.

Thank you for your good wishes I am slowly getting better. Won't be able to go to my sit fit or craft group this week. Had the kitchen fitter come yesterday. Nice man he was was recommended by my decorator. Can't remember if I said when I went to pay for my kitchen he told them to let me have the whole discount he would have got. He is also getting 20% off the tiles and flooring I want. Will know this week when he can do it.

Mosaicwarts hope you have some positive feed back.

Have a good day everyone.

ScaredyKatt
I can associate with project managing. That was me on our last move. I could deal with it but it caused terrible problems with myself and OH. His attitude was correct: why should I be sorting 'stuff' out when we're paying EA a lot of money.
My attitude was: well if I don't do it it's going to go on forever.

We were about a week away from exchange of contracts when the buyers solicitor wanted some paperwork relating to the conversion of the house into 5 flats ( I don't know how many years before. I asked how long this would take ( info from the council) 6 weeks!!!

I phoned the council ( Friday afternoon) in floods of tears and begged her for the info. She sent it to me electronically there and then??

boho, my area . love it here so much, am spreading my wings slowly and starting to take myself out to the theatre etc, solo yes but was not the only solo there. My saving grace boho was the garage, I was able to buy this house just a couple of weeks before I completed on the other one. It made a massive difference, the builder prepared the garage for me and `all` I had to do was lay a nice foam floor (halfords) and get the storage units set up. I was single minded and tenacious doing that exactly because of the box piling situation. Late 70s for you boho, yes that is very hard, it needs an awful lot of energy but well done and enjoy your forever home.

Hi everyone,

Some of you may remember our ‘ moving ‘ saga which started last June. Well, just over 3 weeks ago we actually made the move from Cornwall to South Somerset to a new house to be closer to family.

The reason for my writing is to say, please think very carefully about moving house when you are older. We are both in our late seventies, & this has completely knocked the stuffing out of us. It is shattering. We still have about 20 boxes to unpack, blinds, curtains etc, pictures, mirrors to put up. The garden - which we hadn’t realised is far too large for us , & is literally just a blank canvas of earth. We have had estimates which nearly gave my DH a heart attack. This house has no garage, unlike our old one, so consequently lots of ‘ things ‘ are under tarpaulins . It is a nightmare.

Beware of your removal company too. I had marked every box, piece of furniture etc as to which room things had to go in. I would say that 50% of everything was put in the wrong room, including one bed! They had disappeared by the time we noticed !

But, having said that, we love the house & area & the neighbours & locals are so friendly, we feel very much at home already.

Would we have moved had we known how traumatic it was going to be.?? Probably not!

Hope you are feeling a bit better today Whiff

Saturdays used to be so great when I was working, just another day now. Nice couple came at 10 am and collected their ebay purchase, I'm quids in again. Pension day soon thankfully, it hasn't stretched at all this month and I know there's nothing down the sofa! Made a curry out of all the left over veg, will stir the dodgy spinach in at the end!

I had my friend doing the viewing today - such a lovely woman, unfortunately her husband is poorly. She is hopeful the cash buyer may return, just bad timing. The viewer turned up just as we were leaving and I am sure she is the woman who came to survey our house when we remortgaged ten years ago. Wouldn't that be a twist of fate - it was valued at £330,000 ten years ago. Hope she doesn't offer that! I must try and find the paperwork to see if it was her - or shall I just have a cup of tea and a biscuit! No-one really knows the value as it's unique. I'm coming off the market on 1 December, I want a peaceful time over Christmas.

Trains are off again locally and had to drive my daughter to the nearest station operating, 15 miles away. She's getting the train back, then the bus link to our local station, picking her up shortly. I hope the garage find her a car soon, she's excited to be independent.

Have a nice evening, I'm looking forward to putting my new pjs on

Take care whiff, plenty of rest. It really isn`t a wonder that people get ill some time after a very stressful time. Onwards and upwards and no return of that dreadful moving stress, its gone, for good and I am sure your health will improve

Mosaics, thinking about you, fingers crossed and admire that you are trying to be detached about tomorrow.

ScaredyKatt, totally agree with your comment about Project Managing. That is how I feel. I am the one driving toward some sort of resolution. I am the one who has put forward MY preferred Completion date.
EA's are fine, everything still being delayed by Solicitors (who charge a fortune), my vendors solicitors take upto a month to reply to letters, and then do not read all the questions.
Still do not know if we will be able to make my preferred removal date of 29th October. Getting horribly close and nothing actually resolved.
Well done to Sazzl, at least you now have a date when you can move out.
I really could not manage moving out, without being able to move in on the same day. Think this would a stress too far for me.
Good Luck Mosaicwarts on your viewing this weekend.
Sorry, to learn of your hospital stay Whiff, hope you are recovering well.
It is good to hear of people of have gone through this dreadful process, survived and come out the other side.
Good Luck to you all

Mosaicwarts thank you for your good wishes. Don't know what happened but my neurological problems went into over drive on Tuesday 2 hours before I was my normal self. My new gp was wonderful and because he gave my a daughter a letter when we got to A&E we only waited a couple of mins before being seen. My body would not work. Walking was so difficult I've pulled muscles in my left leg. Couldn't talk very well , my memory was awful. Luckily I have always discussed all my health problems with the children so my daughter was able to talk for me. All the staff from consultants down to the cleaners were lovely at the Royal hospital. Going to back under the care of a neurologist again. I doubt they can do more for me but at least they are willing to try. In 31 yrs it has never been so bad. But I am luckier than a lot of people . There is no label for what is wrong with me as its a mis mash of different neurological diseases. I'm lucky it is not killing me or I would have died years ago. Can't do much at the moment but rest but I know I will get back to my normal self in time. To stubborn not too.

Hope the cleaning is going well and the viewing is with someone nice.

Best wishes for your recovery Whiff, didn't know you'd been in hospital. Pulled my hamstring reaching for something and can't bend down at the moment, feeling sorry for myself! Let us know about your Pickfords claim, I hope you can find a nice mirror that suits your new bungalow.

Great news sazzl, fingers crossed.

I cannot understand why solicitors cause such difficulties, I wonder if anyone has ever reported one for incompetence. Thanks to all who have shared their woes.

Cleaning cleaning cleaning today, I've got out of the habit since my daughter came home, I do hate it. I especially hate Henry the hoover but can't justify spending money on a cordless which would be so much easier. Haircut at 3 pm, so I'm aiming to be finished by then. Have to build my daughter's new desk too, she has to write a play for the course she's on. She's going in the smallest bedroom which is easiest to heat. Must find her a desk chair too.

Nice weather out there today so off to the beach in a minute, enjoy your day

Scaredykatt thank you for your good wishes. Unfortunately I can't do anything but take it easy so glad I live on one level and close to family. I moved 112 miles from the West Midlands to Crosby Liverpool. My solicitor and estate agent was brilliant but my buyers solicitor was a nightmare at one point she refused to communicate with my solicitor for 10 days. Should have been here in May because of her I got here in August. She was awful to my buyers buyers solicitor as well. Hope all goes well for you.

Sazzl thank you for your good wishes. Hope the sale of your house goes through quickly for you now. Having a builder in the family is very handy. Luckily I have used tradesmen who have been recommended to me and I am pleased to say they have been brilliant.

Finally heard from Pickfords about my claim. Got to get 2 quotes for the mattress to be professionally cleaned and price up a mirror and stand. Don't know as yet how much compensation I am getting for the disastrous delivery. Their in house joiner has got to come to measure up for a new central support bar for my bed. Don't know when yet.
I had my things delivered on 22nd August still isn't resolved.

Hope everyone has a good day and don't get to wet.

Whiff hope all is ok now and you are feeling better. Take it easy for a few days things will wait until you are better Hugs xxx

Some good news today as EA rang to say our buyers have got their mortgage, are arranging insurance and want to complete in 3 weeks time. Rang our solicitors who said she was still waiting for a reply from our new house solicitors about some queries she had on the property. Didn't sound happy that we want to press ahead anyway but OH is a retired builder so can sort out drains etc himself which I think it was about. So we've said prepare sale of our house asap and if you can't do purchase at the same time we will use storage. Could be living in the caravan or with daughter for a few weeks but as long as sale goes through we're happy.
Good luck with the viewing mosaic and everyone else.

Craftyone, my solicitor is very pleasant but the buyers' solicitor often doesn’t return her calls, even when she calls repeatedly. My EA only does anything if I continually harass them. I don't want to start to take things down etc until exchange so will be pleased when that happens and I can actually get on with preparations for moving. Though I did lots of clearing out and runs to the charity shop and the tip already of course.

Whiff, sorry to hear you had a couple of days in hospital- hope all is well now. I do like the new cottage and from I first saw it I could imagine myself there so it's not so much the house I am doubtful about, just moving to a new area and losing long term friends. Glad to hear your new bungalow feels like home. Can I ask did you move far?

Blimey end up in hospital for a couple of days and look at all I have to catch up with. Firstly welcome to Scaredykatt you are amongst friends. I was scared that I had made a mistake but I loved my bungalow the first time I saw it. It took a long time to get here but from the moment I got the keys it was home. It feels like I have always been here. One of the best decisions I have ever made.
Franbern and other don't forget as soon as you exchange the contracts you are liable for the insurance on your new property. If you have a mortgage it is included in your payments but if you are a cash buyer you need to sort it out yourself. Also you are not allowed to do anything in the property even if it is empty as you don't own it until you complete. As until then the money doesn't change hands.

Mosaicwarts hope all goes well with the viewing.

scaredykatt, I was extremely lucky, my EA did everything and my female solicitor was right on the ball. I cannot imagine the sheer stress if I had to rely solely on me. I never let on to my AC about any of this stress, my two neighbours were excellent but at the end of the day it was me, just me. I went through so many biscuits, must have been a pack a day, the only thing that relieved the craving was to be absolutely stuck into sorting and packing a room. What almost tipped me over the edge was the endless complicated questions from my buyer. There was a smidgen of relief when I had some removers booked but as always it was not definite until exchange. I get stressed even now thinking about it

Anyone else feel they are 'project managing' this whole process and if they don’t continually nag at EAs and solicitors no one does anything?
And ....calm.....calm....have another biscuit