Undecided to keep Christmas gift from husband

Garnet is my birthstone too and I love them - send them to me

Just say nothing and let it pass.i bought my gf a 42 inch flat screen tv for xmas she always wanted one.her eyes lit up and very happy

I think your husband bought them with love and wanted to see you in the set, I hope you will consider keeping them. I always, always regretted rejecting a watch my late husband bought me. He was obviously upset, and I couldn't take my words back.

I had always said for years to my late DH that I would really love some diamond stud ear-rings. Well be did buy me diamond ear-rings, but they were not studs but a completely different shape, and I just did not like them. If I had kept them it would have been a complete waste of money as I would never had worn them.
Glad to say he had no issue with us both going back to the jeweller and exchanging them for a simple pair of studs, which I love, and he did too.

When we were young and hadn’t got any spare money I asked my husband to buy me a pair of earrings that I could wear all the time.
Readers he bought me ? ?, they ding when I move my head.???
They are still in a box and I wear them every Christmas.

maybe you can put them in a drawer and wear them on special occaisons..after all christmas is a time for giving .not receiving .keep them ,they may grow on you,. because maybe one day you will say i wish i had kept them.

Thank you so much for all your replies, you are a romantic lot. I have decided to go with the majority and keep the gift. As many of you said I should be grateful that my husband went to great lengths to choose them for me.

Be glad ypu have such a nice husband

This year I received jackets from Debenhams bought online. One was too big! so I returned it and the other has started exuding fluff from the inside so took that back as well which is a pity as it was lovely and warm but was a lot of fluff! I usually like to buy these kind of things in shops and try on so will have to hit the shops tomorrow for a replacement. Jewellery I would probably keep though I think DH would ask me first.

Ahh I can understand that greengran

BlueBelle many a true word spoken in jest! My DH bought me some jewellery that I really disliked, but I pretended that I loved it. He was so pleased that he had found a gift that I really liked that he bought similar items for me several times after that.
The funny thing is that I find that I don’t want to part with them now, even though he died four years ago, and I never wear them.

I think it would be very unkind to change the gift. Just wear it occasionally.

I’d keep them also....a lot off love and thought went into buying them.
Your very lucky my DH bought me 5 pairs off leggings one year all wrapped up separate.
I really thought it was a joke and he give me something special after the presents we’re all unwrapped, but no?
I went upstairs and cried.

It was the other way round with us. I bought an 'experience' for my OH and put a lot of thought into it. However, as soon as he had it he was on the site looking to see what he could swap it for! Yes, I am offended ( especially when I think of the unsuitable things I've kept that he bought), but on balance I just want him to have something he will enjoy.

If my husband bought me jewellery I'd just have to tell him I'll keep them in my trinket box to admire from time to time. I can't wear jewellery not even a wedding ring it gives me something a bit like claustrophobia to have stuff cluttering me up.

Grateful.... my excuse for a husband of 47 years had never ‘gone out and brought me a present ‘ ....47 years!!!! Wear your present occasionally , and count your lucky stars , he knows you exist!

If the OP was April born, she might have got a diamond necklace, Tigertooth!

Garnet is the birthstone for us January babies.

I would be extremely tactful but ask if he would be offended if you exchanged it. Otherwise you are not going to wear it are you? Such a waste.

Slightly different story...but there are similarities. When I was a student, a friend of a flatmate became my ardent admirer. He brought me liquorice allsorts on a regular basis, after I graciously accepted them once. I have always loathed them, but didn't tell him first off because I didn't want to hurt his feelings. Hence he persisted with the gift and the longer it went on the harder it got to tell him. It all ended well as I moved student lodgings and the contact was lost. But he could have spent his student grant better on himself....food..fags...booze...drugs... whatever!!

If I asked for money for Christmas and Mr R bought me jewellery you can bet that he looked in a jewellers and saw the set was 50% off !!
After nearly 50 years I know how his mind works. So I would definitely tell him that I wanted to change it .
But I am sure this doesn't apply to your husband so I would keep it and wear it just for him!!

Keep them and think of the love that went into choosing them

If people comment on them when you wear them you can always say they were a gift from your husband or even: "My husband chose them", smiling sweetly all the time ?

Depending who dies first, the day may come when he’s not there to buy you something with love and you’ll cherish that gift you now don’t like. FGS just be a grown up and count your blessings. How damn hard is it to sometimes wear jewellery you’re not keen on? It’s not like he bought you annual membership of a swingers club.

Keep them - I do hope you are April born!

Only you know your husband, OP. How hurt would he be if you told him you love and appreciate the fact that he went to a lot of trouble to choose jewellery for you- you’re just not keen on the jewellery?

Personally, I wouldn’t be at all hurt by it, and I’d sooner my loved one told me the truth and ended up with something they really could treasure and enjoy wearing. Surely it’s patronising and more hurtful to let someone think you love something you dislike, then have them make the same mistake over and over...?

I also think most people are nowhere near as fragile about these things as we think they are. As I said, only you know your husband, but in your shoes I’d be inclined to tell him now - in the nicest possible way - before the rot sets in.