Help calm me. House buying and selling stress. Part 6

Evening all, I have such great news, the theatre company liked my daughter so much they applied for funding to employ her too! She has applied for so many jobs without any acknowledgement, I'm so pleased for her. It's only six months but it's the start of great things, I feel.

Franbern, I found that rural living inspires the siege food cupboards, I have them too. Being snowed in/flooded out of towns and no-one can get through so relying on deliveries is not an option. Bad weather starts here in September, I always ordered my oil early. 2010 was awful, we didn't have any oil for weeks, when the man finally came he wouldn't deliver because he thought he saw 'metal' under the snow. It was the silver liner we'd had under the laminate flooring. The icicles were huge and we lost all the guttering at the back of the house with the weight. I remember the bulls were getting out of the fields, the drifts were so high, they were just stepping over the fence. Power cuts too, I've got more candles here than the local church still, even though I've culled them, and three or four really powerful torches, as well as a head torch! I'm still a mile away from the nearest village shop here, and could walk it in bad snow, but it's a horrible walk when the snow plough has been as you have to jump onto the four/five foot piles on the side to get off the road. Even now I feel twitchy as I haven't got enough milk in this tiny freezer!

I'm tempted to light the fire tonight, it's very cool here.

Goodbye and good luck Oopsadaisy3, nice to have met you.

Craftyone - exactly why are you building up such a siege type food supplies? And, you do seem to have spent so many hours each days preparing foods for storage.
I am too lazy for that, prepare what I need for each meal and that is it.
I would never store too much - as I know I would end up throwing so much of it away. I keep a small amount of tins, etc. but just get what I need each week.
In my house I did have a large freezer, usually packed full - so much got thrown away. Glad I now just have a small under counter freezer able to keep a few frozen veg packets, ice cream a very small amount of chicken and meat and equally small amount of fish.
Do my weekly shop and have a Tesco Extra almost opposite the flats, so when I start to get low on something mid-week I pop over there.. Have never frozen milk, prefer to buy it as I need it.
I finally got round to stewing the apples I got earlier in the week. Lovely with cold custard (from a packet!!!).

kissngate, If I can add anything and that is to get every scrap of paperwork evidence together, every certificate, planning docs if you can get them, anything you have ever had done needs a certificate, chimney sweeping needs a certificate. The questions will come thick and fast later into the process, some of the solicitor language is quite difficult to read and understand. Quietly start to clear one shelf at a time, clean it and leave it and store boxes wherever you can, I used behind sofas, behind doors and eventually in one small room. It is never too early to start

So at 2 pm someone came and gave me 4 heavy bags of windfall apples and pears, arghhh, yes good but my freezer is groaning. I have used as much as I need and packed 20 small pots of apple puree and have ready a pan of pears poached in red wine. The compost bins are also well fed and smell like a cider press. This morning I bought 5 x 500 ml milk and put them in the freezer and then I made a large loaf, to freeze in slices later. Its going to be tricky

Wow what a thread/s. The trials and tribulations of Shandy is a novel in itself. Think I've got the gist - stress and more stress. It never bothered me moving in my 20s or 40s but now - eek! Anyhow thanks for enlightening me on what's to come, possibly. Finding a buyer isn't an issue ( near good schools etc) it's what a surveyor will come up with that does. Also worried about finding fully furnished rental that's dog friendly but that's for the future. Pleased to hear storage may not be as expensive as we anticipated. Will be back with more questions as we proceed.

Hi everyone , I have a thread on AIBU, so if I disappear from GN, I wish you all they very best with your searches and your happy ever after homes.
I’m still debating what to do though! Should I stay or should I go, my privacy is important to me.

Morning all, looks like autumn out there!

Great to read all your news.

I'm a bit achey after lifting lots of heavy boxes yesterday, now I'm looking at it all I can hardly believe I moved it all on my own, amazing what you can do under pressure.

Hope everyone has a good day

Craftyone, the problem is that a year out of our lives at our age is significant. We had so many things that we wanted to do this year after our lives being on hold for the previous 3 years waiting for the planning permit and then the sale of the property. Now, freed from that and with money to spend, we are stuck here with nothing to achieve. Oh well perhaps it will make us more appreciative of things when we can do them.
I guess the bonus is that we have got - hopefully - our medical issues out of the way.

It should be a lot better after the second wave, it means maybe spring 2021 for freedom. I am not the only one who feels as though a year out of life will be lost, For you spice, it is enforced relaxation, nothing you can do about the lockdown, so enjoy the rest after your ops

I am off to the supermarket shortly, for something to do, watermelon here I come. I have just taken 4 spelt pizza bases out of the oven, mixed in the panasonic. I do like a small hm no-fuss pizza, yesterday the topping was tomato paste, small tomatoes, shallot, courgette and anchovies

I am getting my energy back, hated waking so groggy, what a silly dream. I haven`t had one of those hither dither dreams for a long time, always getting no-where. Must have been my mind freeing me from something

Whiff I laughed at your comment re not being able to plaster when the temperature is over 25 degrees. They wouldn't get too many houses done here if that was the case. Maybe it is a different method used in the UK.

Ellianne what a horrible experience for you and your dog. I hate walking my dog in public areas and before we moved had no regular need to as we had acreage for her to run. I hope your dog has no lasting effects from the attack and hopefully you can report the owner of the attacking dog. Here the dog would probably be declared as a dangerous dog and they could be severe repercussions for the owner. It is almost impossible however, to get details from the owner if they will not give them. Not like a car where there is a registration plate to record.

Lockdown the second time around is much harder than the first. Mind you it is also far more restrictive.
Not allowed out between 8 pm and 5 am,
Only allowed to travel within a 5 kilometer radius of home and only for essential food shopping, medical and care, work if permitted and most are not and exercise for no more than 1 hour per day.
Must wear masks when out of the home.
Most retail businesses have been closed down and manufacturing and processing have had to reduce their output by at least two thirds.
Building and construction has been restricted to only having 5 workers on site and large (above 10 storys) construction only 25% of their workers on site.
All schools closed except for at risk children and those of essential workers. -
Many more restrictions, it is much more like the UK's was earlier. The number in Victoria has blown out hugely and where as we only had about 10,000 cases and 102 deaths in the whole of Australia in early July we now have over 16,000 cases and over 270 deaths in Victoria alone.

I'm very pleased that both our sons are still able to work. One in particular would be very badly affected if he had to close but as his business is largely online distribution he is able to continue with that but has had to close his showroom which is no big deal at this stage. Also it is only family members living in the same house that work with him.
We will be in this Stage 4 lockdown until at least 13th September and I'm tipping longer so no house hunting for us..

I was fortunate to be able to go to my physiotherapist on Tuesday in spite of it being outside the 5 km area but physios are only able treat patients whose condition is in significant danger of severely deteriorating if left untreated.

DH decided today that he was going to have a COVID19 test as he had had a cough for a while that is not getting any better. The doctor who did it said she thinks his asthma is playing up and suspects a chest infection so we have our fingers crossed that is the cause. Will be an anxious wait for the result.

This is sure not what we had planned for 2020.

Oh dear. I guess we are all going through a miserable patch at the moment. Even though it is all part of life, it doesn't make it any easier.
Whiff you did the right thing sending some gifts to your family. That also keeps the channels of communication open for your son. It is very hurtful and disrespectful of them not to reply.
Franbern, I hope you too can have a happier weekend, until the next round of results.
Your thread crafty is invaluable in many ways. It is a journal of woes and delights. And to think the moving theme is the underlying topic which bound us all!

I am reading and thinking and commiserating or being joyful in my head for each post. I am feeling awfully zonked this morning, had a poor night and spent my whole night in an exhausting dream of chasing all over , looking for a cooked meal for phil from the old vic. Stupid dream but it has taken it out of me

Our shy and quiet dog on lead was slashed down the stomach by a loose great dane with its male owner, who scarpered. She had umpteen stitches, was at ogmore in the dunes. Her flesh was wide apart

Ellianne sorry your dog was hurt after all. I hope he gets better soon. I am not an animal person never wanted a pet of any sort for myself. But do understand that they are people's family as much as humans. One of my friends has 4 cats . After having her extension built she was able to have them home from the cattery after being without for 4 weeks. She is happier now they are home. She lives on her own and hasn't any children.

My brother and sister in law should have had 3 rooms in there home plastered this week but the temperature was 31° to hot to plaster as it would dry before smoothing out. Apparently you can't plaster if the temperature is above 25°.

I wasn't going to say anything but if I am still being spied on here by members of my family I don't care anymore. I haven't done anything wrong. Anyway it was my son's and grandson's birthday yesterday. First time I couldn't wish them happy birthday. In our family if it's your birthday you sing happy birthday on the phone to them. My mom started it. So it's something we do. Got through the day without any tears. I posted a parcel to them on Monday which they got on Tuesday. I know my newest grandson would have been born as he was due July. So I sent him some presents and a card to my son and daughter in law. Plus birthday cards and a cheque. I enclosed a letter saying how the cheque was split up. I included extra to buy his brother's a toy. I always buy the older siblings in the family a gift so they don't feel left out when the baby has presents. In the letter told them I don't hate them for what they have done I can't love them all to much for that. But also pointed out that my husband never liked his parents and I hated the pair of them. But we never abandoned them. One of the promises I made my husband was to look out for his mom. Which I did even when she told people she had no son or grandchildren. I still phoned every week and visited every month . I even when with her to hospital appointments and was list as next of kin. So when she got taken to hospital I got there as soon I could.

I also said I would wait for years but it's my son I want to speak to in person in my home. Did ask if they would let me know my grandson's name , date of birth and weight. Of course I didn't hear anything. But didn't expect to. But we brought both the children up to have good manners which he has forgotten he's. My grandson's both theirs and my daughter's have lovely manners . They are polite and have lovely table manners.

The roofers came and found a couple of places had come unstuck . All repaired coming to do the crack in about a week.

Decided to have a greenhouse. There is a space behind the garage which is un usable for much as you can't see it from the bungalow. It's paved. As all the garden gets very sunny it's the ideal place for one. It will be protected on 2 sides by brick walls and a fence the other. Will measure up today as my daughter and grandson are coming over. Should be able to fit a 6'x4' one I think. I will not be having glass panels as with grandchildren it's not safe anyway I'm a klutz. My dad always had a greenhouse. Get me sounding like a gardener. Had another 6 x50 l of compost delivered and that should be enough to finish both the back and front. Looking forward planting bulbs in the autumn for the spring.

Have a good day everyone.

Evening all, I'm very late after a big packing day today.

Ellianne I'm sorry to read this - our beach was full of large unsupervised dogs yesterday, I was quite nervous. I hope if you do have a vet's bill you will ask the owner's to pay. Disgraceful lack of responsibility.

Congrats to your grandson Franbern.

Happy to answer any questions on renting kissingate. Found it very tricky uploading my bank statements, I must say. Ended up allowing the rental company to access my personal banking on line, I wasn't 100% happy about it but needs must at the time.

I'm watching Line of Duty, isn't it good!

I must try to find the interview to watch Franbern. I'm so pleased you still all went out for your meal to mark the occasion of his transition from school to uni.

I have just discovered the dog who attacked ours has bitten through his ear. I have bathed it with warm water and it bled a bit. It is upsetting to think owners just stand by and allow this sort of thing to happen. If it isn't better in the morning it will mean a trip to the vet.

I watched points west on iPlayer. You are justly proud of your grandson what a lovely young man. Very well spoken and spoke for all students who have been let down by the system. Hopefully the fight for all students will bear fruit. So this does not happen again. I wish him all the best for his future.

Yes, GrannySomerset, that was my g.son. We have just returned from a pleasant birthday meal. He is one of the fortunate ones as he was given an Unconditional Offer, so he has accepted his place at Southampton for September to do his four year Msc course in Chemical studies.. But so many very heart breaking stories around. He and his parents will be part of the fight for all students.
We have yet to know what sort of mess will come out next Thursday with GCSE results.

Think I may have just seen your grandson on Points West, Franbern. Whoever he was, he was clear and managed not to let his justifiable anger show. I don’t think the government will be forgiven for this shambles which was entirely predictable.

Whiff, absolutely, exams are ALWAYS taken in what we would now call a 'socially distanced' manner. No reason why they could not have gone ahead as normal.

Franbern sorry about your grandson's results being down graded. It is so unfair. But at least he can still go to the uni of his choice. The pressure children are put under doing all their exams is bad enough. But this year not even allowed to do them is awful. Surely there could have been a way they could have done them. All it needed was someone at the top with an ounce of common sense and quiet sure a solution could have been found.

My g.son, has found out that he has been given anunconditional offer for the Uni and course he wishes to attend. Evidently this just happened yesterday - obviously, the Uni's were aware of the debacle of A level results today.
So, he was downgraded one level for one subject from both is teachers projection and his Mock result and FOUR levels down for another subject (again on teachers projecions and mock results). All that subject results at that collegewere downgraded by at least four levels. As you can imagine, everyone is seething. My daughter and g.son have been invited to join the local BBC news programme regarding this.
Yes, his Uni place has been confirmed, but appeals will go ahead.

the operative word in the title of this thread is stressful!

Kissngate, I went on the market in august with an excellent EA and a professional photographer. Had some nosey parkers and 2 others who were not in a position to buy, I reduced the price twice, ended up 7% less than initial asking price on sale. Got a buyer and she told porkies, was not really a cash buyer as in money in the bank. Finally completed march 7 months later. It was utterly stressful

We all have different tales to tell and the common denominator is the stress of it all.

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That is so weird my post came up with my dog's name! I am Ellianne. Lillie was my name years ago on another computer I used for work! So does that mean I can now post as two different people? Interesting! They do contain 4 identical letters!

kissngate you are at the start of a lengthy process. There will be ups and downs along the way, but everyone here will support you and try to answer your questions.
We sold overnight last year with a relatively straightforward chain, but it still took 4 and a half months to get to completion. My daughter sold overnight too, with an even easier chain, just after lockdown and is due to complete in a couple of days. If you were get a buyer straightaway you would, at a pinch, be looking at just before Christmas to move.
We have rented on several occasions. The important things is to strike up a good relationship with the landlord. Our main worry was 2 dogs and 3 cats but there are ways round these problems. Shandy on this thread might be able to tell you more as she is currently renting.
I have no knowledge of storage. We did think we might need it last year so got a quote and were pleasantly surprised that it wasn't too expensive in the bigger picture.
Good luck and do come on with more questions.

Ellianne sorry about your dog. Thankfully he is ok. Hope all goes well with the move. It's a lot to organise and hope the weather holds. Don't want all that traveling in stormy weather.