Help calm me. House buying and selling stress

Franbern they do what I do and fill out the paper application form and post it off. Mine is also due for renewal in January.

Whiff, there does not seem to be that facility here. I managed to do that three years ago, back in Waltham Forest, but even then it was being discouraged. And, the form I have been completing on-line is much, much longer than anything I completed previously.
Last time, it caused me great stress. I did not have any current letters, etc to support my claim, so was told I would have to attend an assessment - which was fine by me. However, the only person who did those assessments for the borough left her job and they took three months to fill that post. Took me past the date for renewal, even though I had started it with loads of time to spare. Got myself very upset and worked up - particularly as in the first instance I could not get any reply as to what was happening. When they did appoint someone, I got my assessment and my badge arrived within 48 hours of that.
Hope it will all be reasonably straight forward this time, although at present the only time I use it is for my weekly supermarket shop. Do not go anywhere else in a car these days.
I have my daughter popping over to me tomorrow to check my on-line application - often helps to have someone else to cast an eye over these sort of things. Sometimes, we get so used to physical problems we have, we forget that they are actually there.

Whiff, sorry to go back to your comments to oopsadaisy but I think you are entirely missing the point.

I know where she is coming from, it's not a question of a lovely home, a good area, it's that she doesn't feel 'right' and not living where her roots are.

I can empathise, I feel exactly the same and apart from a different timescale could have written her post myself.

oopsadaisy for you, it's hard to explain to others unless you have been, or are in, the same situation.

shandy57, how is your little dog today?

Franbern the local libraries here have allsorts of forms to claim for various things. That's where I got mine. Where I used to live had to go the place and do it all in person .

my last village, there were 4 houses for sale when I left in early 2019. They were all still for sale a few weeks ago and today they are all sold. I think this is the covid effect. A rural village in a rural sw county. I shall find out in time

Thanks Shandi I know there are others who are far worse off than me,but when I go back home I can exhale, sounds daft, but I feel lighter and happier. When we come back it feels like a weight is back on me.
Crazy but there you go, I’ve not lived in this house for 40 years just the county, so the house is fine, it’s just me.

that oopsadaisy is sad really, it means that you are not a content soul. I understand about roots, the roots that we develop from where we lived when young and where our family lived. It sounds to me as though you could do with changing the energy flow in your home, it sounds very static. Moving a few bits of furniture, changing a few simple colours eg cushions and rugs. Taking old plants out and adding new ones perhaps. Ambient lighting. Try a few tweaks to one room and see if you can fall in love with where you live now

I love my house, it’s when I go outside that I have a problem, this won’t go away with a few tweaks.
But thanks anyway, it is what it is.

oh dear oopsadaisy, you sound very restless

Not really restless, I haven’t enjoyed living up here at all, but the deal was that we would go home and that’s what I’ve been looking forward too, now that we aren’t it’s making me want to go back even more!
Anyway this conversation is done to death, we aren’t moving and I’m normally ok, now we are in lockdown again there is no chance of going anywhere at all.
Some are worse off than me.

Evening all, just back from a hair raising 'halloween night' dog walk. Huge groups of people knocking at doors - ? I can't understand it, and a lot of people obviously don't want to open their doors as a lot are in complete darkness tonight.

Thanks for asking about my dog craftyone - blood again today, will be back at the vets on Monday The tube of pro kolin ran out this morning. He is in his twilight years, I will be very careful with him. Talking of that I was told the golf club car park is to be labelled as private. I wrote to the club secretary and asked if I could buy a visitor pass - he said he doesn't have a problem with me parking there. Glad to hear it, I still feel angry they wouldn't refund my late husband's unused annual membership, it was £650. Didn't mention that, of course!

I've just caught up with you Oopsadaisy4, and know where you are coming from. Ever heard of the hoopoe bird that occasionally goes off course and ends up here? That's us. I've tried to 'bloom where I'm planted' but also yearn for that feeling when I walked down my local High Street in Whitton, in Middlesex. I can never go back either. I'm going to move into the new bungalow, make sure it's bomb proof, and when there is a proven vaccine, go off round the world in the most ethical, non polluting way I can.

Shandy never heard you so positive before. Hope your dog gets better. How old is he?

Hi Whiff he's just 12 today He's aged a lot since my daughter left home, he misses her terribly. I don't play with him like she did, I do make an effort every night when we get back from his last walk.

Shandy you’ll have to pedal your way around the world then!

ha ha Oopsadaisy4, more like piddle! this cold does get to me. Joking apart I do like trains, even though I need help getting on them. I am going to New Zealand first, going to see how far I can get on land

Start planning now and by the time you can go you will be ready, DH wants to go to Canada, he wanted to go this year but we left it too late to plan, this was in January, thank goodness we didn’t try to book hotels for next year.

Got to look forward and hope for the best.

I will, I've just found my map. My chiropodist stayed in Singapore for a few nights when she went, I'll probably do that too.

My daughter went to Uni in Canada the year my husband died, I was like a zombie then and only managed a five day visit where she was staying in the Ontario area. I really liked it. I do recommend Riviera Travel, expensive but worth every single penny, we had a fantastic, unforgettable time in India.

Shandy you must really look after your dog to get to 12 . Is he your first dog or have you always had dogs? I am not a pet person . When the children were young we had goldfish and hamsters. Until my son had their dogs I was frightened of them. Got attacked twice as a child. Not bitten but the first time I was about 4 and it pinned me against railing until my mom hit it and it ran off. Second time I was at junior school there was a large playing field behind the school and I was with friends 2 Alsatians ran at us. My friends were quicker they knocked me down and won't let me up. My friends got help but the owner was never found. After that I was scared. My husband had a dog and cat as a child but never wanted one as an adult. Tried not to show any fear when we had the children as I didn't want to pass my fear to them. When my son and daughter in law had their dogs they used to put them in their cages when I visited. But I decided I had to get over my fear. So we worked out a plan and I conquered my fear in a day. This was years ago now. I have no fear of dogs of any size now.
I was always fine with cats.

Since Covid it is sad to see how many dogs and cats that have been abandoned. But some of the rehoming centres have said there has been an increase in single people re homing a dog or cat. With so much closing they want the company. I know my friends 4 cats give her a reason to keep going everyday. And keeps her in a routine.

We all have to find a way to cope with this new way of life. Was going out this week but not going to. Got a Sainsbury's delivery coming next week so don't need to really go to the shops. Plenty of Christmas crafting to do. And will still be able to see my daughter and family as we are each others bubble.

Have a good day everyone

Oopsadaisy, Canada is wonderful. We went several years ago. We decided to do a tour which combined road/rail (12 days) and sea (7 days). Vancouver was our start and finish point and we went as far east as Banff and Jasper where we travelled on the Rocky Mountaineer back to Vancouver then joined the cruise ship for a week of cruising Alaska and the Inside Passage. It was amazing and well worth the cost. I would love to go back and explore the east coast but I’m not sure I could manage the travel involved now.

Shandy
Over land on your way to New Zealand that would be Malaysia.
This site has lots of info.
www.women-on-the-road.com/best-travel-forums.html
It can be done but it takes a lot of planning ( under statement ?) Something to think and dream about this winter.

All this talk about holidays. Reminds me I had promised myself a holiday when I have finished the bungalow. Nowhere so far afield as New Zealand or Canada. Just to west coast of Ireland. Last holiday I had was in 2005 and that was only because my husband made me promise to go on holiday next year. I went to York for 4 days. It was the first time I had ever gone on holiday by myself and first time going into a pub on my own. I was 46. Had many more firsts since.

Morning all, pinch and a punch for the first of the month!

I didn't wake up until 10.20, I don't know what's happened to my sleep pattern it's all over the place.

Thanks for that link petra. I'm not sure I'm physically able to do it on my own and might join a group. I'm scared of getting on trains on my own because of my vertigo, it's so limiting. I was in Kent house hunting and had to walk across a very high metal see through railway bridge. I only managed to get across by clinging onto the railings and singing 'half a pound of tuppeny rice'. Ha ha, got me through my 'labour' and 27 years later over a bridge!

Rushed the dog out (still bad) and now watching tv about lock down. I wonder what effect it will have on my purchase. My son is going to have my sofa and chair, I hope to get a 'man with a van' to take it over to him, but I can't organise my removals until I've exchanged. I'm just going to be patient, hopefully in a month I'll know.

The wind is bending the trees here, glad I'm not in the station waiting for the putty to be blown off the bedroom window!

Enjoy your day

we turned down a trip to canada to see DD when she had an army posting there, we had an old dog that no-one else could look after, her dog in fact. The one that she thrust at me when she was doing work experience at the vets. A lovely pup, a sheepdog cross, the litter had been dumped, I let her take it home and had to work out how to tell her dad. That was dog number 3 at the time. At the elderly stage she was dribbling wee and needed tlc

I was talking to some young neighbours today, we are becoming a nice mixed community, some young people, a policewoman, another retired couple have moved in and one house was just bought as a bolt hole by a couple who live in the richest, most expensive area in the uk

It had to be a pottering morning, driving licence online, monthly cash flow balancing, a few bits to file. I have decided to add some extra money to the pre-christmas season next year, I needed to make up the digital difference today.

So far so good, gift boxes for AC have either been sent or given and I popped into aldi on the way home, was good in there and I bought some cherry liqueurs. Lidl was a different matter, felt very unsafe, it was rammed and a few not wearing masks. I have a haircut booked wednesday at 10.15, am very glad that I have been lucky

Thankyou everyone for the info on Canada, DH wants to see several places, but when you look at the map and see how far away from each other it made us realise that we need to break it down into several trips over the next few years,

DH loves to drive and wants to do it in Canada, me? Not so much, however I doubt it will be next year either, so it will occupy him to plan a trip over the Winter so that when all this is back to whatever normal we get we will be clearer on where to go.