NellG, we bought our house when we were both in very busy jobs and lived in a house in a big town, where a quiet location had become noisy and busy as the local university and 24 hour economy developed.
Our house in Normandy is in a very quiet a rural area and it gave us an opportunity to disappear for three days every month where no one could reach us, (this was all before mobile phones). The house is neither an investment, nor a status symbol, nor an income source, as we do not let it out.
The journey to it is easy. We used to leave home after work, an hour to the ferry, a night on board and an hour to the house and we could be eating breakfast on the terrace (if it isn't raining by 8.00am). A journey like that in many ways makes our home more accessible than those on the west coast of Wales or in North Yorkshire, or Scotland. It is a 12 hour overnight journey, with 2 hours driving on uncrowded roads (even the UK side) and 6 hours sleeping,
DH spent his whole working life jumping on planes to fly here there and everywhere, most of them to places the wrong side of the tracks. The house enables us to visit another country and spend a lot of time in the same area, so that it is a home and we feel settled there when we visit. It is so nice going somewhere, where we know the neighbours, are recognised in the shops and have a restaurant where we are greeted as old friends and bars where, when we visit, we are likely to meet someone we know.. We have had wonderful family holidays there, which we could not have had elsewhere. We are also not in competition with local people for scarce housing.
We do visit other places in the UK and go abroad on holidays, but we are not beach bunnies and I am uncomfortable visiting countries with very different cultures which are much poorer than us. It seems to me that tourists visiting these countries are treating these countries and their people as if they were human zoos, while they see us just as rich people to be envied and exploited - that or tourists hole up in resorts, protected from local people so that tourists can buy into the sea and sunshine without having to worry about the country or its people.
We have not had any financial/caretaking problems. We visit our house in normal circumstances every 5-6 weeks and money to pay the bills, can and is transferred to our French bank account regularly and COVID hasn't affected that.
For the last 10 years we have paid someone to come and cut the grass. Our garden is large and 5 weeks growth of grass was becoming more than we could deal with. During COVID we are paying her an extra sum to check the house when she cuts the grass and make special visits through the winter. The visits she makes will end when we can start visiting again.
We worry very little about the house when not there. It has stone walls a metre thick, the floors are tile on concrete and it is electrically heated, we turn off the water and power when we are not there and, as the house is well insulated, the residual heat usually keeps temperatures above zero, although Dec-Feb we do sometimes leave two towel rails on. We are, both in UK and France, people who do not buy new, if it can be bought second-hand, so all the furniture is second hand, we do not have a tv or any electronic equipment in the house and we have good neighbours. In 30 years we have never had to make an insurance claim, nor have we had even an attempted break-in.
As for why some believe they should have a right to bend the rules in a pandemic to maintain what many see as a privilege and why others see it that in the grand scheme of things other people's lives are more important to some non essential bricks and mortar. Since we do not consider we do have the right to bend COVID rules and have put people above bricks and mortar, I cannot answer your query, but i would point out that there are a lot of selfish and self-centred people out in the world. We see examples daily, in different forms . They break rules on meeting up at home, park their cars on yellow lines and expect to be given special consideration in every aspect of their lives It is inevitable that some will have second homes and act similalry over those.
Sorry this post is so long NellG, but you did ask!