Feeling sad about moving

I know, if we move, the new owners will rip out the kitchen, remodel it all which is what I would do if I was younger.
However, the thought of someone tearing up my garden fills me with horror!

I moved to this house about 2 years ago, having lived in my other house for 40 years. I moved for all the right, sensible and practical reasons but my heart was, and still is, at "my" old house. I still cannot bring myself to drive past, just in case they haven't looked after it. It's getting easier as time goes on but my old house is still where I think of as home.

I think there are mixed feelings with every move - you're leaving behind friends and neighbours, maybe a garden which you've created and having to start again is a wrench.

You can only move forward with optimism, hope it all works out for you flaxseed - I downsized a few years back and it was ultimately for the best.

I went through similar feelings when trying to sell my house to move to a flat. Very ambivalent.........every time all seemed to be well on course, I could only think about everything I was giving up and leavkng behind. Each time it all went pear shaped and stopped, all I could think about was how wonderful if would be living in a flat.

So difficult......Even had one very real nightmare one night, when I dreamed I have moved and woke up the first day in absolute depair thinking 'What have I done???'

When it did all go through and I moved to my flat, I never looked back. All doubts and fears just disappeared, so happy it all happened.

Good luck with your move Flaxseed - I’m sure once you are settled in your new home you will soon be busy making it as nice as your current one.

Where are you moving to flaxseed? What is the house like? The area?

Trouble is that at the moment all you have is the upheaval, work and sadness of leaving your familiar home and none of the excitement of being in your new home.

When you're in you'll have the joy of a fresh start, the pleasure of making it homely, new neighbours to meet and a whole new future ahead of you in your lovely new house.

It doesn't help that the legal process is so tortuous and slow...you are a afraid to start being excited and happy about the new house until the job is complete.

I go through the same feelings every time I've moved. The last time was particularly bad and now I'm in my cosy new place I am in love with it.

Happy moving Flaxseed. All will be well I'm sure.

Losts of memories made in that house - I would say it is totally normal

Flaxseed, once you've moved - it really won't matter any more. I loved my last house but forgot it as soon as I arrived here.

I loved my job, too, and felt the same, simply couldn't imagine being retired, yet I soon lost all interest in teaching and education. So, I've done my bit and moved on so easily.

Flaxseed are you moving on your own and are you moving somewhere far away from where you live now?

I was finally free to move after my mom died. My husband died 17 years ago. Still had parents and mother in law who needed me. My children had both moved to the north west for uni. So I had been living in a large house I rattled round for 15 years apart from my mom's last 18 months when she lived with me. We had lived in the same village since we brought our 1st house in 1980 a year before we married . We only moved a couple of streets away and I been in that house for 34 years when I moved.

Once I decided to sell I started to detach my feelings from the house. Once I found my bungalow I mentally detached myself completely . I rattled round that house.

A word of warning until contracts are exchanged the sale of your house is not certain. My 1st buyer pulled out the day of contract exchange. My 2nd buyer was at my house measuring up on the Sunday . Next day she pulled out 4 days before exchange. Luckily I found another buyer the same week. Their solicitor was a nightmare. But it went through.

Luckily every time the sale fell through the vendors where willing to sell me the bungalow. I moved to the north west to live near my children. Next month will be my 2nd year here. I have no regrets moving I love it here.

Flaxseed you say you have no regrets selling . Be happy you are moving to somewhere new and if all goes well the young couple will make it into a family home and breathe new life into the house. But remember until contracts are exchanged it's not a done deal.

I hope everything goes well and be happy you have an exciting new life somewhere new. New experiences and new people to met. Embrace it .

You're homesick.
You will recover. Throw yourself into your new home and spend your energies into creating your perfect space without trying to replicate and hint of your old home.
It will pass, but it will always be with you. Do resist the temptation to visit this nice couple to see what they've done to your old home - it will break your heart.

Yes, I think these feelings are normal, perhaps especially after 30 years in the same place.

I broke down in tears when DH first suggested moving after a similar length of time. However, I soon saw the advantages and am happy in our new home.

I hope and feel sure you will be too.

It is all right to have these private moments and you obviously have managed to wish the young couple you are selling to all the best in their new home, so pat yourself on the back.

Once you move away, resist the temptation to go back to your old area on a visit. Eight years after moving I still don't want to visit my old neighbourhood.

A word of advice: you may find yourself dreaming at night that you are back in your old home, either living there or sneaking in to look. I do, and have decided that these dreams are just part of having been attached to the place and nothing to bother about.

We should downsize if only we could find somewhere suitable.
However, I'm sure I will be upset when or if we do.

Best wishes, Flaxseed, it's a normal reaction if you've been happy somewhere. I hope you'll settle in well in your new home.

It's just a normal blip in the process.
I would find it very difficult to leave here after 30 plus years.

I think your doing well, let the moods come and go.

It will all feel better when you have the move to concentrate on.

Keep posting when you feel like it.
It might help to talk.
Good luck

Absolutely normal I would think. Although your move is for the right reasons, if you have been happy there, of course you will feel sad.

I wish you well in your new home.

I felt sad when we left our first home to move here, if you’ve been happy somewhere I think that’s natural. You’ll feel differently once you can look forward to doing those things in your new home.