House clearance

Feel for you.. My mum passed away 20 months ago
My sister and I still haven't sorted out her flat or sold it. We just keep paying the service charges and electric bill (keeping it ticking over). It almost too final, which we know it is.

Callistemon21

Will your Mum want to take some of her things into the nursing home with her, Gagajo?
Is she up to being able to choose some of her more precious things to take with her?

It's very strange. My mother isn't bothered about her stuff at all. It's as if she's past all that now. Lived there for over 40 years. Just says there is no way she can cope with living there (physically) now. I'm glad she feels that way. It would be awful if she was distressed.

It made it so hard though, going through her house, knowing she'll never set foot in there again, while it looks exactly as it did when I was last there with her.

To top it all, when I went to visit her yesterday, before making the mammoth journey home, I was stopped at the door. No visiting. Another covid case in the hospice.

I really am so sorry you are in this position. Being unable to see your Mum must have been very hard. At least your Mum isn’t distressed by leaving her home, which would have made things even worse. Thinking of you and wishing you happier days ahead.

Oh dear, I hope they can contain it.

It's sad but at least she's not upset about having to give up her home. We don't know how we'll react if the time may come when we have to give up our home.
My SisIL (with dementia) kept putting her coat on and wanting to go home again, but couldn't, of course.

That must have been terribly difficult Callistemon. ?

Still ongoing I think, GSM

That's very sad. Early in my career I worked in a local authority responsible for what were then called 'old people's homes'. I had to make applications to the Court of Protection to deal with their assets, including selling their homes, to fund their care when relatives were non-existent or unwilling to get involved. This included going to see the people concerned. I will never forget one old lady, thankfully not one I had dealings with, almost climbing up the window trying to get out when I drove off. Late 70s but the image is still in my mind. I contrast that with the lady I went to see who happily told me she had gone home that day to make jam with her Mum.

I think I recall that you are of the same mind as me - 'Never if I can possibly avoid it'.

I'm clearing my mum's place now. I feel just awful going through her things. I can't stop crying. It's making me feel like I don't ever want to buy anything again as it'll just be something for my kids to get rid of one day

Biscuitmuncher

I'm clearing my mum's place now. I feel just awful going through her things. I can't stop crying. It's making me feel like I don't ever want to buy anything again as it'll just be something for my kids to get rid of one day

It is, isn't it? My mum had also sorted out bits to give to us. There was a bag with my name on it and bits of jewellery in it. I cried for at least an hour of the journey home. That house felt worse than empty. Too full (of emotion).