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Why are some people sniffy about living in a semi detached house?

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mantaray Sat 17-Jun-23 12:27:28

I live in the South East in a 4 bed semi in a lovely area. We tried to move to a bigger detached house when the kids were small and were gazumped twice. This put us off and we built on another bedroom and bathroom. Eventually moving was put on the back burner what with our children's after school and weekend sports and then their GCSEs and A levels .Our road is very wide and the houses have very large gardens, but I've been amazed by people who have said wouldn't you like to be detached even if that just means living in a box that is no bigger than our present house. There are several people in our road who own two or three houses so it's not as if people were poor around here and we could afford to move easily but are happy here. Another of my neighbours (they own three houses) said that people are incredulous that they don't move. A friend of mine who has relocated from the south East to the Midlands says its the curse of the South East. Has anybody else experienced this kind of snobbery?

Kate1949 Sat 17-Jun-23 12:29:15

No.

tanith Sat 17-Jun-23 12:35:11

No.

FannyCornforth Sat 17-Jun-23 12:40:07

No

Georgesgran Sat 17-Jun-23 12:41:32

What an odd post from OP.

It’s a no from me too.

As the average cost of moving is £20K and often a lot more, if you’re happy where you are, surely it makes sense to extend rather than move?

Galaxy Sat 17-Jun-23 12:42:34

No. I want to detach my house from my new neighbours but that's not the same thing.
Week 14 of building....

Doodledog Sat 17-Jun-23 12:54:01

Week 14 of building....

Condolences 😳

I've never experienced that snobbery either, and we live in a terrace grin. To me, the location is the important thing, and where we live has exactly what I want (apart from a sea view, but as we are miles from the sea it would take a natural disaster to achieve that). We are on the flat, near to amenities and transport, have gardens and a garage (the latter not always being available in older houses), plenty of space and we are very happy here.

We do hear neighbours' children in their garden, but unless a detached house has its own grounds that would also be the case.

dogsmother Sat 17-Jun-23 12:59:56

Location!
If I moved from my terrace. I could live in a fabulous property with huge gardens masses of parking but the price to pay is location. I am content (ish). In fact my terraced house is a semi but so small nobody notices the fact and it is addressed as a terrace!

pascal30 Sat 17-Jun-23 13:00:47

I live in a small terraced house, with a sea view, and love my hilly neighbourhood. I don't think people are bothered about size of house, we just enjoy being close to everything on offer..
strange post

mantaray Sat 17-Jun-23 13:01:09

I know it might seem an odd post to some people, but I've twice in the last month been asked if we ever wanted to be detached. I'm glad that no-one else has experienced this kind of snobbery. I think it's as my friend said, a curse of the South East.

Freya5 Sat 17-Jun-23 13:04:29

I've only ever lived in one detached house, during service life. Since then semi, or my last two, old terrace,now new terrace. Never had any problems until 6 months ago, new neighbours either side think it's OK to bang and clatter around their house at early hours, continously disturbing my sleep. So yes can now see why detached is preferable. If I could pick my house up and move it to be detached I would.

NotSpaghetti Sat 17-Jun-23 13:07:25

I want to be detached... I would never buy an "attached" house again.

This is not snobbery - it's the PTSD-like after-effects of having one set of truly dreadful neighbours.
I kid you not.
The worst few years! I wouldn't wish them on anyone.

Riverwalk Sat 17-Jun-23 13:11:37

I don't know what you mean by a 'curse of the South East'.

I live in London and would be flabbergasted if anyone I know bought a detached house these days, unless it was in the outer suburbs.

Lathyrus Sat 17-Jun-23 13:16:15

I lived in a 1930s semi. The sound proofing was not good. We both knew everything the other was doing.

After one particularly frantic day with three under-fours I said to my husband

“I’m so glad we don’t live next door to us!”

Kate1949 Sat 17-Jun-23 13:16:49

We've been in our three bedroomed semi detached house (no garage shock horror) for 42 years. No one has ever asked if we would like to be 'detached'. I've never thought about it. I do sympathise NotSpaghetti as in our last house (also a semi) we had terrible neighbours but no problems here 🤞. I have a friend who moved from here to the coast. She lives in a large detached house and her neighbours are horrendous so it's not always a solution.

eazybee Sat 17-Jun-23 13:18:40

It depends on the neighbours and being detached does offer a part sound barrier, although not in the garden.

Grannynannywanny Sat 17-Jun-23 13:19:28

I remember 20 odd years ago when my daughter and Sil were buying their first home together, a new build, they were undecided between semi and detached. Then they looked at the floor plans for both houses next door to each other. Every room including the bathroom was considerably smaller in the detached for £45k more. They decided on the semi as they could see no advantage in paying extra with smaller rooms just to be detached.

AreWeThereYet Sat 17-Jun-23 13:19:31

Some people are just snobby 'Hyacinth Bucket' types.

We don't want to live in a semi again, for the same reasons already stated by others - the noise from next door nearly drove us crazy. They were lovely people in general, our lifestyles just clashed. We were 'up early to commute to work' people, they were 'partying late into the night and working shifts' people. Nothing wrong with a semi or terrace if you can guarantee the neighbours are people you can live happily alongside. My DM won't live anywhere but a terrace, she likes people all around her.

Lathyrus Sat 17-Jun-23 13:19:41

Actually the boom boom of the bass beat from a neighbour two roads over is bad enough. I don’t know what I’d do if I lived next door to it. At least I can shut my windows.

Granmarderby10 Sat 17-Jun-23 13:22:48

mantaray there are so very many things for people to be “sniffy” about though aren’t there?
Whether you drive or not if yes what car
Did you go to University if so which one
Where you holiday/ if you holiday,
Do you own your home or rent it and if you rent is it private or “social” and so on and so forth.
Where do you shop for your clothing/ food and groceries/what phone and how old it is.
The very important thing to bear in mind is are you happy 😊

I haven’t actually got a sea view either except in my head if you know what I mean 😉

ronib Sat 17-Jun-23 13:27:33

It’s good if you have the budget to buy a detached house or any house. The jump in the south east from a two bed flat to an average family house is fast becoming a dream for many young families.
Greece is offering mortgages which are interest free!
So no snobbery here just outrage at the economic crisis we have created.

Blondiescot Sat 17-Jun-23 13:33:58

Granmarderby10

mantaray there are so very many things for people to be “sniffy” about though aren’t there?
Whether you drive or not if yes what car
Did you go to University if so which one
Where you holiday/ if you holiday,
Do you own your home or rent it and if you rent is it private or “social” and so on and so forth.
Where do you shop for your clothing/ food and groceries/what phone and how old it is.
The very important thing to bear in mind is are you happy 😊

I haven’t actually got a sea view either except in my head if you know what I mean 😉

Oh, so true! Some people will find any excuse just to look down their nose at others. As long as you are content in yourself, that's all that matters.

Kate1949 Sat 17-Jun-23 13:40:33

I've never given two hoots about material things. They mean absolutely nothing to me. I have had far more serious things to deal with.

mokryna Sat 17-Jun-23 13:41:24

I think British people in general tend to look down on flat dwellers.

Sara1954 Sat 17-Jun-23 13:53:01

I’m not bothered. But my husband always wants detached, it’s not snobbery, he was raised on a farm. and likes space around him.