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Why are some people sniffy about living in a semi detached house?

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mantaray Sat 17-Jun-23 12:27:28

I live in the South East in a 4 bed semi in a lovely area. We tried to move to a bigger detached house when the kids were small and were gazumped twice. This put us off and we built on another bedroom and bathroom. Eventually moving was put on the back burner what with our children's after school and weekend sports and then their GCSEs and A levels .Our road is very wide and the houses have very large gardens, but I've been amazed by people who have said wouldn't you like to be detached even if that just means living in a box that is no bigger than our present house. There are several people in our road who own two or three houses so it's not as if people were poor around here and we could afford to move easily but are happy here. Another of my neighbours (they own three houses) said that people are incredulous that they don't move. A friend of mine who has relocated from the south East to the Midlands says its the curse of the South East. Has anybody else experienced this kind of snobbery?

jeanie99 Tue 20-Jun-23 23:39:24

I have lived in flats you can hear everything from up side and above. A
After marrying our home was a rented terraced house and the reason I wanted a detached was purely because of the noise from neighbours and the guy in our yard who used to pee out of the upstairs window during the day.
I said to my husband I would rather live in a box than have to put up with anymore of this.
We have only ever come across one person who lived next door who you could say was a snob and she was nasty with it.
Most people I find in life are nice friendly folk.

Eloethan Wed 21-Jun-23 09:57:26

I'm past caring what people think and have no time for petty snobbery. I am thankful that I have a decent home to live in - so many people these days don't.

Granmarderby10 Wed 21-Jun-23 12:53:31

Hear Hear! Eloethan

pollynana Thu 22-Jun-23 12:02:14

I live in a semi in a little close, there are detached and semi’s in our neighbourhood. My friend lives in a detached and I’m very conscious of the fact that she thinks she’s better than me. I couldn’t care less, love my home and it feels like home and a mini mansion!

keepcalmandcavachon Thu 22-Jun-23 14:18:43

I'm afraid I am always dreadfully sniffy regarding anyone to would actually say ' wouldn't you prefer to live blah blah blah'. Would assume their intent was to be 'innocently' insulting.

mantaray Fri 23-Jun-23 12:40:15

thanks L. Ravenscroft. I began to think that I was imagining 'house snobbery', judging from other posts. I grew up on a farm in rural Shropshire in a rambling old shabby farmhouse and had never heard of terraced, semi detaches and detached until we bought our first house. Even then I didn't realise the social implications until friends who moved house nearly always bought a detached house even if it was smaller than a semi. When we moved to our present large semi it got back to us on the grapevine that a lot of people were surprised that we hadn't bought a detached house. This was also because they knew what my husband did and knew we could afford it. I was very surprised at this and still am as even after 40 years people still allude to it.

M0nica Fri 23-Jun-23 20:20:27

Now we have always put floor area over whether a house is semied or not.

As a result both our last house and our current one, have been/are large roomy homes, with character and style. Much larger than we could afford if being detached had been an obsession. As I have said elsewhere, we have had no problems with noise transference in either, because the way we were semied meant this cannot happen.

Norah Sat 24-Jun-23 14:04:36

I think people can be sniffy about lots of things. Oh well.

biglouis Thu 29-Jun-23 01:07:23

There is a lot of snobbery that goes along with homes.

When I first moved to this area I rented. I had always lived in flats since leaving school so we were all renters. No problems.

However when I had a problem with my neighbour sending tradespeople onto the property without notice or permission I had to establish boundaries. I told her I would not withold permission for essential future work but she must speak to me first. She said "I dont need your permission, your only a tenant." Needless to say I lashed back pretty hard to tell her that I has exactly the same rights as she did as to who came onto the property. I threatened to call the police if I found strangers trespassing on my property again without leave and would certainly have done so.

I live in a small detached house (2 beds and a boxroom) and later purchased it from the landlord. I can say that makes all the difference when you have nasty neighbours. The distance between our homes may only be about 15 feet but it could be a thousand for all the interest I have in my neighbours. With a dividing wall between properties you can hear when your neighbours are home. So if you have a whiny/snitchy/needy neighbour it can be that bit more difficult to ignore them.

Because it was a private transaction with no "for sale" signs up it was two years before my horrid neighbour found out I was now the owner. She had some issues she wanted to sort out with the owner and was asking me did I know the LL's new phone number as she could not contact her. She has a face like a smacked a**e when I told her the LL had gone to live abroad and I was now the owner.

Love it!