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Why are some people sniffy about living in a semi detached house?

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mantaray Sat 17-Jun-23 12:27:28

I live in the South East in a 4 bed semi in a lovely area. We tried to move to a bigger detached house when the kids were small and were gazumped twice. This put us off and we built on another bedroom and bathroom. Eventually moving was put on the back burner what with our children's after school and weekend sports and then their GCSEs and A levels .Our road is very wide and the houses have very large gardens, but I've been amazed by people who have said wouldn't you like to be detached even if that just means living in a box that is no bigger than our present house. There are several people in our road who own two or three houses so it's not as if people were poor around here and we could afford to move easily but are happy here. Another of my neighbours (they own three houses) said that people are incredulous that they don't move. A friend of mine who has relocated from the south East to the Midlands says its the curse of the South East. Has anybody else experienced this kind of snobbery?

HappyLife Sat 17-Jun-23 16:29:26

I am from the south east and left there 3 years ago to Northumberland. I never once encountered anyone who suggested I might like to live in a detached. (Our previous house was a three bed semi). I never encountered snobbery.

SporeRB Sat 17-Jun-23 16:33:22

Only a snobbish person who already lives in a detached house will say ‘ Wont you like to be detached’ as a one-upmanship.

Judy54 Sat 17-Jun-23 16:42:41

It's not something that I would let bother me mantaray. We all live different lives in varying accommodation, as long as we are happy with what we have that's all that matters. Other peoples opinions are just that and would not influence my decision on whether to live in a detached house or not.

Norah Sat 17-Jun-23 16:42:45

mantaray Has anybody else experienced this kind of snobbery?

Of course. Move far out from any town, into a very old farm home, people are very snobby to a farm home, detached is the least complaint. grin

Rosiecat Sat 17-Jun-23 16:44:29

Not snobbery at all. We loved happily in our semi for 42 years and brought our children up there. A very noisy family eventually moved next door into the non attached house. Very loud parties throughout the summer but we lived with it because we still loved the area. Then a young couple moved into the joining house. We could hear their conversations and swearing though the walls. The weekends brought noisy parties even through lockdown.
After a few months we moved into a detached house with a lovely garden

Grandma70s Sat 17-Jun-23 17:01:01

For a long time we lived in a large 4 bedroom semi in the north west. It was fine, because the two consecutive sets of neighbours we experienced were considerate and quiet. One set had three children, so inevitably there was some noise, but it wasn’t troublesome.

There is some snobbery about detached houses. They are preferable, I think, and certainly more expensive. Perhaps snobbery is the wrong word. It’s just that most people prefer them, and neighbours are much less likely to be a problem.

Calendargirl Sat 17-Jun-23 18:19:31

My sister lives in a ‘link detached’ bungalow.

A ‘semi’ then.

smile

Doodledog Sat 17-Jun-23 18:23:48

I think there are huge differences between some terraces and some detached, though. It really isn't a case of one is better than the other.

165 Eaton Place (Upstairs Downstairs) and 10 Downing Street are both terraced houses, and some of the little boxes on Brookside were detached.

Blondiescot Sat 17-Jun-23 18:38:08

Doodledog

I think there are huge differences between some terraces and some detached, though. It really isn't a case of one is better than the other.

165 Eaton Place (Upstairs Downstairs) and 10 Downing Street are both terraced houses, and some of the little boxes on Brookside were detached.

Absolutely, Doodledog - there are some very sought-after 'terraced' houses in Edinburgh, for instance, which will cost you upwards of £1m, while the many housing estates which are being thrown up around the city are full of little white 'detached' boxes.

Lauren59 Sat 17-Jun-23 18:39:08

Just because many if you haven’t had the same experience as the OP doesn’t make this a “strange post”. We have snifiness right here on this thread.

Cabbie21 Sat 17-Jun-23 18:39:21

I live in a ‘ link detached’, meaning that a garage is between the houses. We hear nothing of our neighbours, unless they are having workmen in.
I have lived in semis and experienced no snobbery. The neighbours only complained once when our son was doing his flute practice! ( at least it wasn’t a trumpet).
I lived in a terrace in London once. I bet that house would cost a fortune now, nothing to turn one’s nose up at.
Very rude to comment.

Grandma70s Sat 17-Jun-23 18:44:01

Doodledog

I think there are huge differences between some terraces and some detached, though. It really isn't a case of one is better than the other.

165 Eaton Place (Upstairs Downstairs) and 10 Downing Street are both terraced houses, and some of the little boxes on Brookside were detached.

When I was a child I saw 10 Downing Street (you could walk along Downing Street then) and was really shocked. Not only was it terraced, it didn’t even have a front garden! I didn’t think it looked at all suitable for a Prime Minister.

Sorchame Sat 17-Jun-23 18:45:33

I've lived in flats, as well as terraced, semi and detached houses.
From my point of view it's not snobbery that I prefer a detached home.
The noises that travel through the walls and floors/ceilings can be horrendous.
Sound insulation can be virtually non existent ...
If you have considerate attached neighbours, all's good. Otherwise be prepared to hear all and everything shock

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 17-Jun-23 18:45:50

Lauren59

Just because many if you haven’t had the same experience as the OP doesn’t make this a “strange post”. We have snifiness right here on this thread.

Do we? It’s not sniffy to say you prefer a detached home, and why. I haven’t noticed anyone being sniffy. We’re all different in our preferences. That doesn’t mean looking down on people who make other choices.

BlueBelle Sat 17-Jun-23 19:07:14

I live in a very large, very old semi, it has thick Victorian walls and I hear nothing from the three kids next door ( I used to have 8 next door at one time)
I ve lived in semis, terraced, council, a prefab and flats and on forces bases, all are fine you get used to where you are

wildswan16 Sat 17-Jun-23 19:19:44

Well, if someone appeared to look down on me because I lived in a semi, a flat, a terrace, or a tent, I'm afraid I wouldn't give them the time of day.

I've lived in a detached (old and damp), a terrace (convenient and cheap to run and never heard the neighbours), and a flat (absolutely wonderful).

TerriT Sat 17-Jun-23 19:23:20

The word sniffy brings back memories of my long dead mother in law. She used it a lot but I haven’t heard it for years.. it never occurs to me people are being snobby about anything. Must be because what others do passes over my head! My father in law explained to me once that people moved to big houses to show off!! When I asked him who they would be showing off to he couldn’t give me an answer…..there will always be a smattering of snobs about something or other but I think most have the same take on life as I do ‘couldn’t care less’…

LOUISA1523 Sat 17-Jun-23 19:23:58

No 🙄

kittylester Sat 17-Jun-23 19:52:54

We lived in a 3 storey, 6 bdroom Edwardian semi when DS1 was having drum lessons and had a drum kit in his bedroom. Was constantly asking the elderly couple next door is the could hear him and they swore they couldn't.

Surely, it depends on how much you love your house as to whether you feel looked down on.

MerylStreep Sat 17-Jun-23 19:59:16

You can imagine the looks we got every time we said we lived on a boat. There was almost a look of, oh, poor you.

They were generally surprised when we said, yes, this one.

Doodledog Sat 17-Jun-23 20:00:55

That looks like a great place to live, MS. Where was it moored?

Redhead56 Sat 17-Jun-23 21:01:15

I have lived in two semi detached houses they were nice the same area I live now. I remarried and we both had our own properties so we sold up and bought a detached because we could.
The only snobbery I ever encountered was from sisters who said I should move to a different area. I like it where we are it’s half a mile from where we were brought up I’m happy here.

Theexwife Sat 17-Jun-23 21:04:09

I prefer a detached but don't see it as anything to be snobby about.

MerylStreep Sat 17-Jun-23 21:09:50

Doodledog
Our permanent mooring was at Tollesbury in Essex.
We were there to scrub off and paint.
That’s on the River Blackwater.

Callistemon21 Sat 17-Jun-23 21:10:43

MerylStreep

You can imagine the looks we got every time we said we lived on a boat. There was almost a look of, oh, poor you.

They were generally surprised when we said, yes, this one.

😁

I knew people who lived on houseboats on the Thames, very nice they were too but not as large as yours, MerylStreep!

I do remember thinking, when I was about 11, that when I grew up, I wanted a detached house, a car and a telephone.
What ambition! 😁
Not necessarily in that order but I knew I had to work hard to get them.