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Downsizing to smaller bungalow

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Marriedalongtime Fri 29-Nov-24 15:35:59

My husband and me are in the process of downsizing from a large three bedroom detached house to a two bedroom bungalow. It’s a beautiful bungalow that has only recently been renovated so we can move straight in without having to do anything at all.

However, I am having sleepless nights worrying about all the furniture that won’t fit and the space we are giving up. We have been in this house for over 35 years so we have loads of ‘stuff’

Do any of you have any hints or tips on how to cope with this please? I know I am going to have to be ruthless but it’s so very hard with all the memories we have here. Thank you.

Allsorts Fri 29-Nov-24 15:42:12

You have been lucky in life to have had a lovely big house and now a bungalow just what you need at your age. You have had your use out of everything and you cant take with you, so give it away, to the Salvation Army or The homeless, pass you luck on. I have done that all my life, I enjoyed the things when I had them.

crazyH Fri 29-Nov-24 15:48:08

Be ruthless - just ring the charity shops and they will probably collect the furniture . ‘Emmaus’ and Dr Barnardo’s come to mind. I downsized from a 5 bed detached house with 1/3 acre garden to a smaller detached house with a very small garden. I am so glad I did it . My only regret is not moving to a bungalow. Well, I can always put a stairlift I suppose.
Go for it! I don’t know how old you both are, but the sooner you do it, the better. Good luck !

Astitchintime Fri 29-Nov-24 15:56:09

Are you able to advertise items on Freecycle? People are always in need of good quality furniture.
And this is a perfect opportunity to declutter too.
Wishing you well in your new home.

LaCrepescule Fri 29-Nov-24 15:58:03

Sounds like a good move to me. We had to clear my mother’s large house recently and it was full of stuff accumulated over 60 years of raising a family and a long marriage.
My brothers and I shared a few of the most precious items but sadly had to let most of the lovely mid-century furniture go.
Keep some of your most treasured things and find good homes for the rest. See it as a fresh start, it sounds like a perfect property.

Grandmabatty Fri 29-Nov-24 16:15:32

Your memories are still in your mind. Firstly clear out your garage of stuff you don't use. Then choose the bedroom that won't be in your new bungalow and get rid of everything in it. I mean everything! That should help you get started. Decide what furniture you are taking with you and get rid of everything else. If you can, use a floor plan to work out the space you will have. Look at dishes you don't use and get rid of them. Same with books. Go through your clothes and be ruthless with anything which doesn't fit or you haven't worn in two years. I split photos between my two children. Recently I gave my daughter jewellery I don't wear. Put stuff in boxes and store them in your garage or the redundant bedroom . As others have said, be ruthless. Get rid of ornaments! Do not sit and nope over the memories that a china bull brings you. Think of the memories others will have. Anything belonging to a family member who no longer lives with you, give it to them. Aim to do something every day, tip, keep, give away or charity. Good luck

Whethertomorrow Fri 29-Nov-24 16:28:24

I, too moved from a large 4 bed house to a 1 and half bedroom bungalow after my husband died. My sons and I filled six skips and at least a hundred trips to the recycling centre and at least the same again to charity shops.

I’m now currently following the Swedish death clearance system to further reduce my clutter as I don’t want my sons to have to sort through it all when I’m gone. It’s actually been quite enlightening to realise how little I need to live on a daily basis.

I have actually found that I didn’t need to keep all my things to remember my love and to keep memories. They are in your heart and they will stay with you.

If you have items that will be a wrench to lose then take photos of them and you will have a memory aid. I have found it best to look to the present and future times instead of looking into the past and doing the ‘remember when’.

I have tried not to be maudlin because I know I would drown in the what could have beens. I know you are not dealing with a death but the dwelling on the past could easily drag you down.

I’m sure you will enjoy the excitement of a new house when the time arrives.

Woollywoman Fri 29-Nov-24 17:53:45

Well done - you won’t regret this. We did this a year or so ago. It’s hard work getting rid of stuff - try to do a bit each day, that way you will feel you’re achieving something.
Make lots of lists! It clears your head a bit.
Get rid of big items of furniture you don’t want to keep first - British Heart Foundation and others take stuff.
I am afraid this is part of the stress of moving but you’re doing the right thing. Good luck! X
PS Collect boxes from the supermarket - for the charity shop stuff etc.
PPS. You’ll take the memories with you, as others have said

Margomar Fri 29-Nov-24 18:05:39

I can imagine how hard this is, but I happened to talk a few days ago with two couples, mid 70’s who had downsized from large Victorian terraced houses, full of “stuff” as you can imagine. They both had moved into modern flats- and absolutely loved it, no regrets. I’m not sure I could be as ruthless getting rid of all my treasures and memories but I guess it can be really liberating!

V3ra Fri 29-Nov-24 18:09:03

We moved my Dad from a 4-bed detached house to a 1-bed flat.

Trying to think "how can we fit everything in" didn't work, obviously.

We started at the other end, ie "what will he actually need," and that made it a lot easier to decide.

Some possessions simply run their course.
They've served their purpose, you've had the enjoyment of them, now someone else can benefit.

NotSpaghetti Fri 29-Nov-24 18:20:07

If you have been there a long time I'd take some photos of the rooms as you live in them now. It's lovely to look back over old homes but we don't take photos of them just as they are.

When uou are forced to part with things take photos of those things too.

I must do some clearing here and have found that by taking a photo of the stuff I don't want (but struggle to part with - but MUST) it does make it easier.

I have parted with lovely items and also with broken things like this - my dear father's favourite but cracked mug for example.

If I think my family might be interested I write a note and include it in the photo. I wrote something like "My dad's mug - always chose this one in the morning for his tea. Given to him by Pat and Herbert."

I confess I tend to save sentimental stuff of no real use to most people.

I think necessity will drive you forward.

Just keep thinking of you settled in your cosy new home!
flowers

ferry23 Fri 29-Nov-24 18:38:25

I've also recently downsized. I had to be quite ruthless before and after the move. I brought things with me that I thought would fit, but they didn't.

The trouble is, is what is of seemingly financial or sentimental value to you just isn't to anyone else.

I got rid of some on Fb marketplace or just putting them on the local Fb groups. Emmaus took some of the furniture. I've used what is left of a very lovely set of bedroom furniture as storage in the garage.

Lots of bits and pieces to charity shops. I realised I didn't actually need my Mum's 24 place dinner set! I don't do swanky dinner parties or charity afternoon buffets any more.

I realise my memories are in my heart and my mind. Yes, there's a couple of things I wish I could have kept but I'm not losing any sleep over them.

One chapter finishes and another one starts. Embrace it - I bet you won't regret it. Good luck.

M0nica Fri 29-Nov-24 19:39:31

Draw a large plan of the new bungalow and plan what furniture will fit in and where. Let the plan settle for a week while you chop and change and decide on the final arrangement.

Get a house clearancee company in show them what you will be taking and what leaving, posssibly put stickers on the furniture, then get removal men in to remove the stuff you want, then walk out of the door, not looking behind you and leave the rest to the house clearance company.

Casdon Fri 29-Nov-24 19:47:23

I haven’t done this myself, but I saw online that somebody had drawn a plan of their new house on graph paper, and measured their furniture, made it into little pieces so they could move the furniture round the plan to decide what would fit best where, and what was too big to fit in. It sounded like a faff, but meant they only took what would fit in, and could tell the removal men exactly where to put each item.

midgey Fri 29-Nov-24 19:55:16

Another way to sort out things is to say to yourself….what would my family/heirs do with this? Surprising how little anyone else values your favourite things!

Smileless2012 Fri 29-Nov-24 20:05:46

Hello Marriedalongtime 3 months ago we moved into a 2 bedroom Lodge (we also have a furnished 1 bedroom flat) from a large 4 bed, 2 bath, 2 living room, large kitchen/diner plus separate utility room and study.

We got rid of 90% of what we owned including furniture and white goods as the lodge new and fully furnished. We gave some to the brother of friend who was setting up home with nothing; advertised locally and sold other items; gave a lot of small items to various charity shops and arranged for a local auctioneer/removal firm to take what was left to sell at auction.

The final pieces were sold at auction last week.

Being ruthless is the only way and it's surprising how much easier it becomes once you get started. I can honestly say I don't regret parting with any of the things we got rid of, and as the house gradually emptied it was simply a house, no longer our home.

Caleo Fri 29-Nov-24 20:37:27

If there is a garage with the bungalow you can use it to store stuff that doesn't fit.

Once you have settled in you can have another think about the unwanted stuff

Skydancer Fri 29-Nov-24 21:44:39

The bungalow sounds ideal. Be ruthless as others have said. I hope you have many happy years in your new home.

Redrobin51 Fri 29-Nov-24 22:17:29

Our move was just from a 3 bedroomed semi to a bungalow. Apart from the beds and thr small suite we took there as a temporary measure we got rid of most things. All thr good furniture was collected by The British Heart Foundation and it was lovely to he's a couple of months later how much they had raised. It is the opportunity of making a nee beginning with furniture which will suit the bungalow bungalow your new life. I wish you every happiness with your move.x

NotSpaghetti Fri 29-Nov-24 23:51:02

Casdon

I haven’t done this myself, but I saw online that somebody had drawn a plan of their new house on graph paper, and measured their furniture, made it into little pieces so they could move the furniture round the plan to decide what would fit best where, and what was too big to fit in. It sounded like a faff, but meant they only took what would fit in, and could tell the removal men exactly where to put each item.

This is exactly what we did when we moved here, Casdon

Mt61 Sat 30-Nov-24 00:22:51

Beautiful bungalows are few & far between, believe me I looked at a good few for my parents. All out of the ark (70s), crazy money to buy & do up- So if you have bought one all done up, I would not hesitate to get rid of a few big items.
I am convinced that when you have settled into your lovely, little bungalow you won’t even give your other house a seconds thought.
Enjoy your remaining years in what’s going to be less of an upkeep😊

Mt61 Sat 30-Nov-24 00:51:31

Mt61

Beautiful bungalows are few & far between, believe me I looked at a good few for my parents. All out of the ark (70s), crazy money to buy & do up- So if you have bought one all done up, I would not hesitate to get rid of a few big items.
I am convinced that when you have settled into your lovely, little bungalow you won’t even give your other house a seconds thought.
Enjoy your remaining years in what’s going to be less of an upkeep😊

Go through your solicitor & ask if the people buying your place want any items cheap or free of charge!
We panicked when selling mums 4 bed because the buyers solicitor asked if the house would be clear of all items? When In fact mums buyer needed all sorts, as he had just parted from his wife. It would have saved me umpteen trips to the charity shops & tip🙄

V3ra Sat 30-Nov-24 15:45:24

Mt61 the people who bought Dad's house were quite happy to keep his nice leather sofa and chairs, the modern oak extending dining table and chairs (my daughter had the big sideboard/wall unit!) plus the bedroom furniture.
We didn't charge them for any of it.
I think they were planning to let the house, either way it saved us a lot of trouble.

V3ra Sat 30-Nov-24 15:47:45

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cornergran Sat 30-Nov-24 18:55:47

Mr C used graph paper to make an accurate plan (we measured the rooms, the reality was quite different to the printed details). Furniture we thought we wanted was cut to accurate scale and moved around. We discovered some just didn’t fit, these items were ‘re-homed’. Some to family, some to friends, some sold and a lot to charity. I’d already emptied the loft (it took two years!), we took lots of photos of rooms and items we decided to let go of. It more or less worked.

Once our home was empty of furniture it was easy to let go of. I was very sad to leave a garden we had created from scratch, the house once empty was just a house.

Once moved we found there was still too much in boxes, not having a garage we moved it out to self store and took our time reassessing. Eleven years on we are both relieved and delighted to live in a bungalow and twice a year focus on letting go of ‘stuff’ we no longer love or use. Clothes reduction happens constantly as lifestyle changes.

Try not to over-worry marriedalongtime. It’s a new beginning, they are usually both scary and exciting. Be as realistic as you can, I went with a mix of head and heart with decisions over the little things. I took loads of photos and have never looked at them since. Your bungalow sounds ideal. All good wishes for your new home