Our house is in need of some repairs.
Some of it major. Some not.
It will still likely fully function as it is, for say the next 5 years, if nothing is done. So eg plumbing and electrics all fine.
My question really is, we dont know if we would move from here in 5 years time[family circumstances], 10 years[one of us my die?[but we are both early 60s], 20 years[likely one of us will have died], or live here until past 90.
We obviously do not know what is coming.
How would people deal with this situation please?
As regards house repairs.
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(45 Posts)Perhaps should add, budget is ok but not fantastic.
It is also a bit flexible, for reasons I wont go into.
What an odd post!
If your house needs repairs, get them done. Not doing so will let the problems get worse and, if you decide to sell, will lower the sale price.
As for whether or not you should move, I do wonder why you are asking us Gransnetters. We can’t possiblyknow and could you even further as the replies will be very disparate.
That said, my advice is, take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. Mark one side ‘move’ and the other side ‘stay’ and list the pros and cons in the relevant columns..
People will say I am being unsympathetic and harsh, but honestly, we cannot decide this for you. Good luck.
Could confuse you even more
I would sort out the repairs in order of severity.
If you put them off they could and probably will increase in severity and along with the cost of materials and wages going up cost you more the longer you defer.
Probably best to do what you can as soon as you can.
(My builders have started today, they will probably be here for a couple of months at least, so I am making friends with them and plying them with tea, coffee and biscuits)
I agree withCrossstichfan keep up with repairs. In time minor repairs become major repairs.
Only you know whether or not it's the time to move on. Bear in mind the high cost of moving house.
Since my early sixties I have moved five times and am about to move for the sixth time. I could not have predicted any of the moves. Life happened and I dealt with it as circumstances dictated.
All my moves have been successful, though some have been in sad circumstances.
My forthcoming move is a happy move. It's to a house I love as much as my current home and to an area I know and love. A town I lived in for many years but never expected to
live there again.
So listen to what life is telling you and act on it if necessary. 
I’m glad you are moving to the house of your dreams and I hope you will be really happy and contented there.
It has taken me 60 years to get into the apartment block I have always loved! Family reasons prevented it before (children cooped up in a flat with no garden is a situation best avoided where possible!) Then, when they left to make homes of their own, my husband wasn’t keen on leaving the garden. Gardening was one of his main hobbies and he loved it. I couldn’t take that away from him, although he made it clear he would have no hesitation in moving if it made me happy, and I just had to say the word and we would move. As I wasn’t unhappy, just a bit sad that an apartment wasn’t a good idea, I said nothing and we stayed put.
When he died, my daughters persuaded me to follow my dream and live where I wanted to live. By this time I was in my mid 70s, but with the family’s help, managed it. The relief I felt on that first day as we sat looking out over the harbour was indescribable. I had come home!
I got there in the end but would give it up in a heartbeat if it would bring my husband back. The family thinks moving has kept me alive and I think they are right.
For reasons I wont go in to, the place would probably be gutted anyway.
It is on a site of a previous mansion type place.
The type of place where, almost whatever the state of a house, a millionaire type would buy, knock down and build big.
Thanks for the replies.
I do need to bear in mind, " In time minor repairs become major repairs".
Are you asking if you should consider moving now before any repairs are done….,,,,.or get the repairs done and sell in several years time at which point you surmise the place will be knocked down and redeveloped?
Fancythat have a look at the long running thread on House and Home.
Read the heartbreaking story of Shandy's experience with a large old building that became a money pit.
From what you describe I would sell now.
Money spent on it is as good as tipping it down the drain.
The thread is called Help Calm me The stress of buying and selling a home. It was started by Craftyone.
Aldom
The thread is called Help Calm me The stress of buying and selling a home. It was started by Craftyone.
I don’t know how Shandy kept going. Very sad tale 😥
petra
From what you describe I would sell now.
Money spent on it is as good as tipping it down the drain.
I see where you are coming from.
Food for thought.
Aldom
The thread is called Help Calm me The stress of buying and selling a home. It was started by Craftyone.
I have been on this site a while now and never noticed that thread.
I will take a look.
fancythat
Thanks for the replies.
I do need to bear in mind, " In time minor repairs become major repairs".
Any builder would tell you that the most important repairs in terms of damage to the structure of the building, apart from wet rot, are to the exterior of your house, so I would make sure that your roof, drains, guttering and damp coursing are in good order, don’t neglect them.
Why are you so woolly? This is the only life you'll get.
Nobody knows what's coming. I learned that in a chaotic childhood.
Home chaos taught me to pay close attention, because knowledge is power. Any advance warning/ tip-off of trouble brewing ahead, gives time to devise a "what-if" plan.
What do you see ahead?
Paying close attention also taught me to spot an opportunity and make the most of it because that chance might not come again.
Open your eyes and look.
Fancythat. If you are unable to locate the Help Calm me thread, just put the title, including Gransnet on Google. It will come up.
I think it depends how much you love your house!
We, and all our family, love our house (a converted Board School) and will do whatever it takes to stay
here. We think we've done all the major stuff and are lucky to be able to afford ongoing repairs.
Aldom
*Fancythat*. If you are unable to locate the Help Calm me thread, just put the title, including Gransnet on Google. It will come up.
Thanks. Did do that, but found a thread that had reached 1000 replies in 2022.
I am short on time[as nearly always!], so will try to find a newer thread, if there is one, later.
Casdon
fancythat
Thanks for the replies.
I do need to bear in mind, " In time minor repairs become major repairs".Any builder would tell you that the most important repairs in terms of damage to the structure of the building, apart from wet rot, are to the exterior of your house, so I would make sure that your roof, drains, guttering and damp coursing are in good order, don’t neglect them.
All those 4 are ok.
Things like doors and windows, facia boards, patio, garden wall, are not great. Liveable with at present[probably not facia boards], but probably after 5 years will not be.
I may come back to other posts when I have more time.
Fancythat - all the things you list that need doing don't sound too disruptive - windows & fascia are done quickly & not too messy, garden things are outside.
If you can afford to have it done & you're happy with the location & size of your house, I think I would.
Mine was getting to the stage where I had "House shame" & didn't want to host anything or people coming round because I felt it look so dated & uncared for. I wouldn't just grin & bear it because you might at some point have to move and then it would've been a waste of effort. From your post, you might be there another 25 years?
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