Bit background
Son & I lived together when I get divorced from his dad, together 11 yrs.
I met dp and I sold house and we bought new house together.
Later (8 yrs) i suffered bad anxiety From perimenopause( which I didn’t realise it was at the time)
which lead to depression. I was under mht for 18 mths
Things pick Up with me, then I found out dp was having an affair, as you can imagine all hell let loose.
We worked through it and it’s now been 4 yrs, I honestly can’t I I’ll ever forgive him and it goes through my mind still. But most of the time we’re ok
But he’s always been jealous of bond between son and myself, well there’s no stronger than your kids
He doesn’t have a good opinion of him, just the things he’s said previously
Also because he goes out drinking,
Dp, as never gone clubbing, isn’t a big drinker 2 glasses wine(that’s fine) never come home at like 2am
So too now
So today adult son(who works) as just text me that he wants to talk to me in private when he gets home.
I went all funny, just text back and said tell me now
Turns out he’s in debt to 4k ?
I felt physically sick to my stomach
Ask what for, catalogue, betting and football game you buy( for money) on PlayStation console
I’m livid to say the least
I won’t discuss this with dp(because of his opinion of son, I’ll only get “I knew it, he needs chucking out etc)
I told son he as let me done, he should know better( 2 off his friends were in debt)
I’ve told him loads of times, if he hasn’t got cash for it, he can’t have it
I was brought up by single parent of 8 children back in 50’s my dad died when I was 18 mths old. So I know what it’s like
Club men knocking at door and hiding
Or saying will pay next week
I hated it, but mum had no option, hard times and only widows pension
I have little savings and could pay it off
Take his bank card and help him finance properly?
But I want him to learn a massive learning curb from it ?
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