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Caught speeding

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crazyH Sun 02-Nov-25 21:39:13

My young adult grandson, who I adore, was caught speeding last week. He was driving my car at the time, so the Penalty Notice came to me. I am supposed to complete this form.
I will inform them that it wasn’t me and that it was my grandson.
When I told my friend, she was very shocked that I did not cover up for him and take the blame myself. I just do not like telling lies. She said 3 points on my licence wouldn’t matter too much , but he is a young man looking for jobs etc.
Anyway, now I feel bad that I didn’t help my grandson, even though it’s actually fraudulent. And my grandson is also a bit disappointed. He said lots of people take on other people’s penalty points. I really don’t understand how they can do that.
I think he expected me to take on his points.
I feel so guilty now.
What would you have done? x

Magenta8 Fri 07-Nov-25 07:24:28

All I can say is that it was true in my case, which was a few years ago. Please don't imply that I am a liar NotSpaghetti.

silverlining48 Fri 07-Nov-25 11:10:18

My dh made an appointment online for the nearest centre to us which he attended and found the course unexpectedly interesting than he had expected.
He was doing 36 mph in an unmarked 30 area which adjoined a marked 40 mph area. It wasn’t clear.

Allira Fri 07-Nov-25 12:03:09

AmberGran

welbeck

I wouldn't lend my car to anyone.
especially not a boy racer.
Speed kills.
Kill your speed.

Lots of people get fined for driving only a few mph over the speed limit - they're not necessarily reckless drivers.

The trouble is if they get away with a few mph it may steadily increase. People in my neck of the woods drive like maniacs, pulling all sorts of crazy stunts.

There was a case recently of a woman who was losing her licence and pleaded that as she was disabled she needed her car to get around. Well, as far as I am concerned, if you really need your car you take care to not lose your licence. Life is full of things we have no control over but driving lawfully is not one of those things.

Yes, they do.

The speed limits here go down and up like a fiddler's elbow so it's often difficult to keep IP (or down).

Many people got caught because a new 30mph limit was made on a main road but there were no warning signs at first from the approach roads to it so people were unaware.

There's a 50mph limit on stretches of motorway here - yet the rather narrow country roads around the area have a 60mph limit!

Allira Fri 07-Nov-25 12:03:29

up not IP!

Beechnut Fri 07-Nov-25 12:14:24

Magenta8

All I can say is that it was true in my case, which was a few years ago. Please don't imply that I am a liar NotSpaghetti.

👍🏻
My husband was caught speeding 100 hundred miles from where we live. To be able to do the course and avoid points and fine he had to attend an awareness course in the county he was caught, which he did.

NotSpaghetti Fri 07-Nov-25 13:07:38

I'm sorry Magenta, I was not implying you are a liar!

I was saying I believe what you said was just incorrect.

I wouldn't say you were a liar and am truly sorry if that us what you thought I was saying.
Apologies.

NotSpaghetti Fri 07-Nov-25 13:17:25

I have just checked my assertion that you can go anywhere (or online)

The NDORS Offer Portal explicitly states you can take a course anywhere in the UK

you can use this site to find a course provider where you can then book and pay for your course

You can choose to take an available course anywhere in the UK.

Physical classroom courses will require you to travel to the course venue/location so you need to book a venue you are able to travel to and from on the day of your course.

Virtual (online) courses can be booked with any course provider as you attend from home.

It says that if you don't put your postcode into the mapping you can actually see and select courses all over the country.
I do hope this helps someone.

NotSpaghetti Fri 07-Nov-25 13:19:23

Sorry forgot the link:
offer.ndors.org.uk/?hl=en-GB#/home

knspol Fri 07-Nov-25 13:41:15

I would have done exactly the same as you. What if you'd lied and for some reason were found out? What if your grandson continued to drive at speed and had an accident - you would be blaming yourself for enabling him to not learn a lesson. It's not a pleasant thing to do but I think it was the only thing to do.

readsalot Fri 07-Nov-25 17:57:51

I can’t believe he asked you to lie and say that you were driving. Not only a speeding offence but trying to wriggle out of taking responsibility. If it was my grandson he wouldn’t be borrowing my car again any time soon.

welbeck Fri 07-Nov-25 21:40:57

I can well believe it.
Not to have done so would have been remarkable.