Sex after menopause

You could sell it along with the Jesus fluid mentioned a few weeks ago!

Don't mention Bonjela.... Oh no, that's those naughty Mumsnetters!

Vagifem vaginal tablets may help, plus a vaginal jel that can be inserted before intercourse that you can buy in any chemist. Having been on HRT for many years, I have been advised not to continue. I have got urinary infections because of the dryness but this is the best advice I have to offer.

I’m 68 with a partner 13 years younger with a high libido. Therefore quite a bit of sex. No HRT with menopause but now use the ‘vatican’ pessaries for dryness. My trouble is with low libido, it’s disappointing after having a high one for most of my life up until post menopause. My ex husband wasn’t that interested so it’s a shame that I’m not now that I have a partner who is! Hey ho..

I use Vagifem too, but as a tiny pill inserted twice a week at night with an applicator thingie. Works perfectly. Only downside is a small amount of discharge next day from the melting of the pill - I use a washable pantyliner. Your doctor will be quite used to this and TBH you still need to have internal examinations at your age for cervical cancer anyway. So pull up your Big Girl Pants and get to the GP pronto!

I was on HRT for over twenty years. Very few problems, and it was the most creatively productive time of my life. I then got breast cancer - an unusual one and not oestrogen-related - but I was still taken off it. Since then, my health hasn't been great. I also have osteoporosis, inherited from my mum - the main reason for opting for HRT in the first place as it's a great bone conserver. Since I lost my husband five years ago, my health has really gone downhill, and I know that's grief-related, but I'd love to try the smallest dose of HRT again.
Oh, and I LOVED Vatican cream - a whole new and profitable brand there

Thank you everyone for the advice and giggles (Vatican!). I can't take hrt but will try vagifem pesseries. If that fails then we will just have to be more creative! Fortunately my hubby is lovely and very understanding. I think it bothers me more

flexiblefriend please can you explain atrophy. I'm not sure what it is.

Vagifem is a miracle worker (and also allows for smears to be taken practically painlessly - without it, it is impossible and is why I was prescribed it!)

I was given Vagifem by my doctor but when I went for a repeat they told me they did not recommend it on a regular basis as it is oestrogen based and could lead to breast cancer.

My gp calls it vaginal atrophy (marvellous!!) and I have topical hrt pessaries which I insert once a week to combat this

Vagifem 10 microgram pessaries are the size of a grain of rice, a tiny applicator releases one into your vagina. You only have to insert twice weekly. At 74 am able to enjoy an active sex life, so as for sex being over at 50, this is nonsense. Vaginal atrophy is the same as any atrophy, it shrinks, withers, the expression use it or lose it is worth pondering. Do not understand the posting about 'discharge' it is just the natural lubrication as it used to be.

My husband, who is 63 and younger than me, I am 67 has no interest at all, finished over 17 years ago partly I think because I have a very loose vagina caused by damage when I had my first child. I do try to give him a hug in bed but he doesn't respond. I feel very sad, we are like brother and sister now.

Vatican cream is one of the best things I've read about on these great forums! I shan't be able to look my doctor in the face when I next see her as we are bound to discuss it.. she is young enough to be my grandaughter and is VERY serious! Thank you Gransnet for totally livening up my Tuesday morning! I shall be giggling all day...

I felt as if someone flicked a switch when I turned 50. I wasn't allowed HRT because of high blood pressure. My doctor gave me Ovestin cream which I find helps a little. It's a shame that in your fertile years you can be put off by the worry of pregnancy. Once all that is over and you should be able to enjoy yourself you no longer feel like it. I don't think that many men understand quite what we are going through and what the problem is.

Thanks everyone for the giggles. When I saw the thread sex over 50 I thought it maybe 50 times? oops I thought I have been naughty. Keep the laughter coming

Your GP will prescribe some hormone pessaries. They work after a week and then you and keep topping up. Also using a vibrator is helpful. Exercises the muscles and gets yo aroused. Ann Summers has a pink one that looks like a lipstick and costs £10.

Phoenix - I love Tom Lehrer - hadn't heard him for years. I need a trip down memory lane now!

There are oestrogen pessaries. They just have the hormone work directly on the genitals, cervix and uterus. They are are usually used every night for two weeks, then twice a week thereafter. You don’t have to suffer with this problem. Just go and discuss it with your GP.

Hildagard - that's funny .
Reminds me of another joke.
2 grans talking -'Our daughter is expecting triplets. Evidently it's a one in a million chance.'
Long pause.
The other replies 'Good Heavens - how did she find the time to do all her housework?'

Have been feeling bit down today but the miracle Vatican cream has given me such a laugh!

Fennel that’s good?

Snap, Mollyplop. The only difference is that my libido is low enough that I could happily go without it for the rest of my life as long as we were still affectionate but, sadly, DH equates sex and love as being the same thing! I take an oral HRT, top up with a pessary and use Replens. It’s not totally comfortable but makes it bearable. I do wish I felt more amorous but give me a good cuddle anytime.

I love a good laugh. Great postings everyone!

Vagifem for dryness and Livial for libido,[Tibolone] you can take livial after the menop[ause,
I take it and i am 75