Sex after menopause

Isn't this a great medium for discussing things like this! I have no problems whatsoever regarding comfort/moisture etc. I'm 59 and had my last period about 5 years ago. My problem is my libido is non existent, much to my husbands dismay!

We have a great relationship but its pretty thin in the physical dept. I did mention this to my GP a year or so ago but she kind of disregarded it and said its something nobody really talks about!

Once I stopped ovulating (which was the time of the month I always felt the most sensual) my libido just took a hike! What is this Livial, valeriej43? We are both retired now and all the children have left home, so we should be at it like rabbits yes? I just really really can't be bothered!

I remember listening to some older women many years ago, talking about how they pretend to be asleep when their husbands came to bed, so as not to have to 'perform'! I was horrified and vowed I would never ever feel that way. Funny how things change!!

I really would recommend Vagifem - the tiny pessaries which you insert twice weekly. My female GP prescribed them when I kept having bladder infections. I now say (but only to trusted girlfriend and as a joke ) that I have the face and body of a 64 year old but the vagina of a twenty five year old!!!

Mollyplop - I hope you've been reassured by this thread that it's ok to talk about it and you can get help from your GP.
When I first joined here there were a few threads like this and it made me go back to the GP and ask for help. I had stopped Vagifem and had the same old bladder infections.
The doctor agreed - that was in France.

I was prescribed Vagifem pessaries but sometimes I “lost”them (what goes up sometimes come down!), so they weren’t entirely satisfactory. Eventually I stopped using them. I started using Estriol cream a year ago and while there is no doubt it is not as convenient as Vagifem, it works better for me.

My doctor is pretty useless to be honest but I'm going to try some if the things suggested on here. It's already made me feel better knowing that other women have experienced the same problems.

I’m 63 and have suffered no loss of libido luckily following menopause at 51. I find Sensilube which you can buy from any chemist perfectly adequate. What was horrendous was the perimenopause years with really heavy periods, hot flushes, profuse sweating and headaches - my libido definitely went off-kilter then

Vagifem "pea shooters" ate amazing, no more sandpaper sex for me!

Sorry that wasn't very complimentary about my GP. To be fair they are so busy they just don't have the time for minor stuff like this.

Oh, lovebooks, I to took HRT for ages and absolutely loved it until breast cancer forced me to stop. My libido was good and sex was not difficult or painful post menopause. Like you I began it for osteoporosis. I now have new aches and pains, thinning hair and feel the aging process far more. If medical opinion changed, I’d start taking it again tomorrow.

Vatican cream! Wonderful! I am seeing the Pope in my mind's eye every time I read it.

Should it be applied using the rhythm method?

Mollyplop, GPS are far too busy. However, painful intercourses, loss of libido etc isn’t minor imo

lemongrove yes, using the rhythm method would be good - but where would you get a band at that time of night. ??? .

I wish there was. Someone tell Mr absent.

Coolgran65 LOL!!!

With one three minute song!

God, does it take that long these days??

Only if there's no cricket on the tv

Can't risk a wicket being taken at 1.5 minutes, the roar from the tv would be disastrous

I usually manage a couple of rows of my knitting!!!

Picked up this thread and had the best laugh since my granddaughter told me she was going "Comanche": she meant "Commando" in that she had no pants on under her jeans! Only 5, so will allow such behaviour!

Vatican cream! A typo to treasure...

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