Sleeping wth children

The father seemed okay to me.

Anyway, he snores loudly and keeps his wife and son awake so it serves him right.

Years ago I sent DH into the spare room because of dreadful snoring, shouting and kicking in his sleep.

He loves having his own room and won't come back now but anyway it's only a short distance across the landing!

petallus . A good night's sleep all round!

Sounds good petallus. nothing like a good nights un disturbed sleep. I think there are quite a lot of people who like to have 'the bed to themselves', but are too embarrassed to admit it. it doesn't preclude intimacy at other times as the Daily Mail person said.

jingl don't feel too sorry for poor dad; it's a double bed he's sleeping in and he still gets to [ahem] 'visit' his wife alone from time to time.

Oh yes. Small double bed.

Still very wrong as a seemingly permanent thing. And the mother is enjoying it far too much. Sooner or later she will have to realise she no longer actually has a baby.

And the writer is bound to put the situation across in the way most favourable to herself. Who knows how often the dad grumbles.

Are we talking about 'a husband's rights' in this day and age?

Not exactly petallus, unless we are talking about his right to sleep in his own bed. With his own wife. Which is the normal thing in any marriage.

More to the point, it's bad for the child!

That child is going to feel very put out if (though it seems unlikely) he ever has a sibling.

Who's to say what's normal jings

If you say so Jingl.

I must remember to tell DH we have had an abnormal marriage for the past ten years or so.

And we thought we were happy.

Damn!

I thought this was a sensible discussion.

Obviously got it wrong.

We each speak from our own experience, jingl. So be it.

Absolutely.

Children often feel "put out" when new siblings arrive. That's just life. Something they and their parents have to deal with. Nothing new.

Various combinations of sleeping arrangements within families are nothing new either. There is absolutely no right or wrong if all it's about is everyone getting a good night's sleep. None of it is set in stone and never to be changed.

Definitely a shrugworthy situation and just the DM trying to make something newsworthy that really isn't, as it does.

But in this case it isn't about getting a good night's sleep. Not any more.

Now it's a case of the mother not wanting to let go because she is happy with the arrangement. No more persuasion is being applied.

Are there really no other posters (or lurkers) out there who think the same? Just me and, I think, annodomini? Quite surprised really.

Bump

Because it's amongst the lost threads.

Did you read the article jingl?

You seem more concerned at the situation than the husband.

Yes, I read the article. I don't care about the husband tbh. He's big enough to look after himself. I'm more concerned about the harm it must be doing to the child. Quite apart from the fact that, at six, he should be becoming more independent of his Mum, he is going to believe that he is the centre of the universe.

In other words, a spoilt brat.

We are not talking about a one year old!

Most little boys want Mummy to themselves but they have to learn that that isn't how it's going to pan out.

I wonder if the father is not doing enough to form a good "boys together" relationship with his son. Wonder if the father is the one to actually see the boy into bed at night, and read to him. Mummy needs to take a back seat.

Would be interested in hearing views of a wider range of grans. We need a poll.

Is the mother crazy?

Or is she ok in this?

It's all fine. A lot of it goes on. It does no harm. Panic not!

It's weird.

We all have our own weirdnesses jingl

One day this little lad will tell his mum he wants his own space. Hopefully before he's 15.