Sleeping wth children

Yes, I read the article. I don't care about the husband tbh. He's big enough to look after himself. I'm more concerned about the harm it must be doing to the child. Quite apart from the fact that, at six, he should be becoming more independent of his Mum, he is going to believe that he is the centre of the universe.

In other words, a spoilt brat.

We are not talking about a one year old!

Most little boys want Mummy to themselves but they have to learn that that isn't how it's going to pan out.

Did you read the article jingl?

You seem more concerned at the situation than the husband.

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Because it's amongst the lost threads.

But in this case it isn't about getting a good night's sleep. Not any more.

Now it's a case of the mother not wanting to let go because she is happy with the arrangement. No more persuasion is being applied.

Are there really no other posters (or lurkers) out there who think the same? Just me and, I think, annodomini? Quite surprised really.

Children often feel "put out" when new siblings arrive. That's just life. Something they and their parents have to deal with. Nothing new.

Various combinations of sleeping arrangements within families are nothing new either. There is absolutely no right or wrong if all it's about is everyone getting a good night's sleep. None of it is set in stone and never to be changed.

Definitely a shrugworthy situation and just the DM trying to make something newsworthy that really isn't, as it does.

Absolutely.

We each speak from our own experience, jingl. So be it.

I thought this was a sensible discussion.

Obviously got it wrong.

And we thought we were happy.

Damn!

If you say so Jingl.

I must remember to tell DH we have had an abnormal marriage for the past ten years or so.

Who's to say what's normal jings

That child is going to feel very put out if (though it seems unlikely) he ever has a sibling.

Not exactly petallus, unless we are talking about his right to sleep in his own bed. With his own wife. Which is the normal thing in any marriage.

More to the point, it's bad for the child!

Are we talking about 'a husband's rights' in this day and age?

And the writer is bound to put the situation across in the way most favourable to herself. Who knows how often the dad grumbles.

Oh yes. Small double bed.

Still very wrong as a seemingly permanent thing. And the mother is enjoying it far too much. Sooner or later she will have to realise she no longer actually has a baby.

jingl don't feel too sorry for poor dad; it's a double bed he's sleeping in and he still gets to [ahem] 'visit' his wife alone from time to time.

Sounds good petallus. nothing like a good nights un disturbed sleep. I think there are quite a lot of people who like to have 'the bed to themselves', but are too embarrassed to admit it. it doesn't preclude intimacy at other times as the Daily Mail person said.

petallus . A good night's sleep all round!

The father seemed okay to me.

Anyway, he snores loudly and keeps his wife and son awake so it serves him right.

Years ago I sent DH into the spare room because of dreadful snoring, shouting and kicking in his sleep.

He loves having his own room and won't come back now but anyway it's only a short distance across the landing!

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Atqui I like the way the comedian Michael McIntyre referred to his success at child-rearing when, having looked after one child each all day, he said to his wife 'mine's still alive, so's yours - I call that a good day!' Yes, good enough is fine most of the time, with occasional bursts of brilliance and disappointment.

article in good old Daily Mail

I am certainly not being sanctimonius! In the article the dad didn't seem too happy with having to sleep on a little single bed in the spare room whilst young son occupied his place in the marital bed. Understandably!

Just not right. Not doing that boy any good at all. Not at 6!

I agree with Atqui - no child abuse here so let them do as they wish; and you are right - sleeping apart from a baby or young child would be seen as cruel in some cultures.