True story. I once employed a married female who regularly showed up for work on Mondays with bruising to her face. neck and arms.
Taking her to one side, I asked if things were OK. She opened up and it turned out that Friday nights were heavy rough sex nights with her husband where he humiliated and controlled her. While this was going on, the children were banished to the other end of the house.
Once she told me what was happening, both myself and the other staff were then subjected to weekly reports of their deranged sexually active weekends where he would slap her around and she would hit him back.
One day, after she'd given yet another account of how she got her bruises, I asked her if she had the means to leave him?
'oh yes, she smiled. I do. My father left me his house and money several years ago.
Then why don't you take your children, who were frightened of him, and leave?
Her reply was 'I will have my revenge one day but for now I'm not giving the bastard the satisfaction of letting him think he's won'.
I object to the idea that this woman was a victim when I remember how my own mother and her generation had no choice or means of escaping.
And Rigby, please don't assume I don't know how the system works. I do and I can see what the courts are beginning to see. It makes a mockery of the real victims.