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Black Lives Matter versus All Lives Matter

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SueDonim Sun 07-Jun-20 18:15:16

There has been much talk about the slogan ‘Black Lives Matter‘ with many people saying instead that all lives matter. I think it’s a good topic for debate and to gain understanding.

To me, saying ‘all lives matter‘ is to deny that racism exists. It denies the experience of many black people who are not treated as white people would have been. Think of the man who achieved the highest office in America. Would anyone have raised the ‘birther’ question had Barack Obama been white? Saying all lives matter also closes down debate on the issue, suggesting that the very particular problems black communities experience are no different from that of anyone else therefore we shouldn’t talk or do anything about it.

The term ‘black lives matter‘ is not saying that only black lives matter. It means that black lives matter as much as other lives, whether that is in the undue violence meted out to the black community, the discrimination they face in healthcare , employment and housing and in many, many other ways.

I’ll put a link on the next post, explaining why saying all lives matter is wrong. If you only look at one item, please watch All Plates Matter. It sums it up in two minutes. Be part of the solution and not part of the problem.

Galaxy Tue 09-Jun-20 21:54:21

Children are taught all sorts of awful things at home, it's part of the role of education to show them other ways.

Dollymc2 Tue 09-Jun-20 21:57:00

Of course Annie, this is why children need to be taught, if not at home, then surely in education this should be prevalent
The world needs wake up

Anniebach Tue 09-Jun-20 22:35:06

I pray I am wrong but I fear all that is taking place will cause a
rise in racism , there will be much resentment.

Galaxy Tue 09-Jun-20 22:38:43

I imagine people said that when women campaigned for the vote.

SueDonim Tue 09-Jun-20 22:59:16

Why would removing the names of despicable people from our streets cause more racism?

Eloethan Tue 09-Jun-20 23:19:43

People who were leading proponents and beneficiaries of the enslavement, brutalisation and murder of other human beings do not deserve to be honoured with statues, street/building names, etc, etc. I doubt ordinary people had much say in the matter when these decisions were made - or perhaps they wouldn't have objected anyway - but I like to think we live in more enlightened times now (though I do wonder sometimes), or at least aspire to behave in a more civilised fashion.

Those who object to removal are, in my opinion, already racist in their views. We should not bow to racists.

SueDonim Wed 10-Jun-20 00:46:24

Yes, exactly. If you can’t bear the thought of a street name of a vile person being changed it says a lot about you as a person.

Mbuya Wed 10-Jun-20 02:03:32

Very thought-provoking posts and thanks to SueDonim for bringing the topic up. Education is important since our actions speak louder than words. I agree that children are not born racists, but they pick up a lot of their behaviours from their parents, friends and other influential people in their lives. We all have unconscious biases- when without thinking we react in a certain way to people we think or see are different. How do we change this-by discussing it as we are doing and recognising prejudice in ourselves since it impacts on how we deal with people. We have to continually work on accepting diversity and inclusion.

Evie64 Wed 10-Jun-20 02:05:35

I really think that your attitude towards racism depends on where you were born, brought up, went to school etc. Personally, I was born and brought up in London. It wasn't multicultural back in the late 1950s. There was only one black girl in our primary school. She called me ice-cream and I called her chocolate. We were best friends. However, by the 1960's London was more multicultural and that's when I heard my first racist comments, sadly, from my dad . I had no problems with my black friends and they had no problem with me. It was sad that my dad felt so insecure about the fact that black people were moving into our area.

Evie64 Wed 10-Jun-20 02:08:16

I should add, if you were brought up in a small rural village in the middle of nowhere, is your attitude different? How do you feel when your children come home from Primary School to say they have been celebrating Diwali or Eid? I'd be interested to hear other GNs opinions.

AGAA4 Wed 10-Jun-20 15:43:01

I was a child in the 1950s and there was racism then. Most of the parents seemed to have negative views of people who were different to them.

As a teenager in the 60s things were changing and I did challenge the views of the older generation but they were too set in their ways.

I think things are changing for the better but too slowly. Even now some people are racist and will not change, but it is not as bad as in the 50s.

That is why I have said up thread that teaching our children to accept and learn about other cultures and religions is the way forward.

To respect everybody no matter what their colour.

Eloethan Wed 10-Jun-20 20:10:12

My first job was as a secretary in the Hospital Secretary's department of a psychiatric hospital.

I remember quite clearly having some rather heated exchanges with two of the young men who were clerical officers in the same office as me.

One, R, would make racist remarks about the black and Asian staff who worked in the hospital, mostly as mental health nurses. The other, P, would agree with me that the remarks were unpleasant and uncalled for.

However, P, would make homophobic remarks about a gay man who worked in the pharmacy..

There was a massive amount of racism in those days, some of it quite blatant. If this culture hadn't been challenged, resulting eventually in race discrimination legislation, perhaps it would be just as bad today. It has got better but it has certainly not disappeared. White people tend to be quite tolerant of and friendly towards black people who are compliant and non-complaining. But if a black person objects to a remark or action they feel is unacceptable, there are some who then call them "difficult", "touchy", "over-sensitive" or - possibly the worst of all "having a chip on his/her shoulder".

This happened with my husband when he first came to the UK and people tried to change his first name (a perfectly easy name to pronounce and remember) to a typical English name. All of his non-white colleagues went along with this to avoid being proclaimed " trouble". It may seem trivial, and not on a par with being materially disadvantaged or physically threatened, but who would appreciate being expected, as a matter of course, to be given a different name of somebody else's choice?

Franbern Thu 11-Jun-20 15:55:35

typical sign in most places for rent in London in the 1950's and 60's stated 'No Irish, No Blacks, No dogs'. Racism was rife!!!

Mosley still led a Fascist movement in GB and was still trying to hold open air meetings in East London, where so many BAME and Jewish people lived. We prevented this by force - you might not like that word, but that was our way of dealing with this.

The Brexit lies (not debate) has given permission for racism to become legitimate. Was the original vote mainly about preventing 'foreigners coming to take out jobs' ? Think it was. Gosh do we need those foreigners now!!!

white supremacy was the norm. for the ruling classes from Churchill downwards - he stated that white races were superior to others.

I do find it so difficult to even to start to understand how anyone is judges by the colour of their skin, or shape of their eyes, etc. But ........perhaps those that do are just extremely unsure of their own abilities

Peardrop50 Thu 11-Jun-20 16:44:49

Very good posts from Starblaze, Madgran, Sudonim and many others. Never thought I'd agree with PaddyAnn but on racism we are on the same page. It is abhorrent and must not be tolerated but first it must be acknowledged. For those who still don't understand 'black lives matter' I refer you back to Starblaze's analogy regarding the position of women early last century.
I do understand the point of view of Anniebach and the poster who referred to my granddaughter's ordeal that where we single out a group and address their concerns while people of opposing views (however biased or wrong) see this as 'taking the other side' it can cause more tension but surely we have to 'side' with the oppressed if we are to make change.

Peardrop50 Thu 11-Jun-20 16:46:23

SparklingSilver was the other poster

Tooting29 Thu 11-Jun-20 17:51:59

All lives matter regardless of race, gender, age, faith, ability or sexuality. If we focus on just one then what becomes of the others. I deplore all labels given to people and the divisions that arise as a result and inequality that ensues

Summerlove Thu 11-Jun-20 18:12:12

Tooting, read the thread. People explain why “all lives matter” perpetuates racism

Tooting29 Thu 11-Jun-20 18:13:47

I have read the thread and the links and I remain unconvinced

Summerlove Thu 11-Jun-20 18:46:18

Then you have missed the point.

No one is saying that all lives don’t matter, but that traditionally black lives have not mattered as much. That needs to change.

trisher Thu 11-Jun-20 20:37:12

I like this explanation

SueDonim Thu 11-Jun-20 20:54:43

Tooting29 how can you not get it? Black people have been enslaved and dehumanised in the past and still today are discriminated against. They are not asking for anything more than anyone else, they simply want to be afforded the same rights and privileges as everyone else.

Try thinking of it as ‘Black Lives Matter as much as white lives do’. When a man can casually be killed on camera by the very people who should be keeping the peace, there’s something wrong in this world. It’s not as if George Floyd is the only one. The statistics tell the whole story.

Madgran77 Thu 11-Jun-20 21:56:15

"Black Lives Matter" as an organisation is about "Black Lives Matter as much as every other Life"!!

It is NOT about "Black Lives are more important" or "Other Lives don't Matter"

It is NOT disputing that All Lives Matter just saying that Black Lives Matter just as much!!!!

Kapitan Thu 11-Jun-20 22:15:40

Franbern, time to pick up your well thumbed copy of The Thoughts of Chairman Corbyn, settle down on the Beanbag, and read yourself to sleep dreaming of the glorious revolution that never happened. Night, night.

Furret Thu 11-Jun-20 22:30:58

While you read the Trump Bible Kapitan?

Sparkling Fri 12-Jun-20 06:40:30

I'm afraid all this will back fire. We are supposed to read something into everything, we will be frightened to think next. What happened was police brutality and a failure of the system in Americia, not here. we have most football teams with successful black players and lots in the music industry. All lives do matter Sue, don't tell me that there is a hidden agenda in that statement because there isn't. Where were our rights when the soldier was beheaded, didn't his life matter. I am fed up by all these isms people take people as they are, not to tiptoe round every comment uttered.