Hands up, how many of us have an unplanned pregnancy?

I am Spartacus!

5 children + 1 miscarriage, none of them planned, but I wouldn`t part with any of them. Then at 28 I decided no more, and was sterilised.

Nope. 2 planned pregnancies. In fact nearly didn’t want a second baby as I loved our first SO much I worried I couldn’t love a second as much! Silly me.

You aren't alone in that thought Urmston. My wise grannie reassured her daughter, my mum, not to worry, that babies bring their own love with them

I am Spartacus - we got married when I was 4 months pregnant.
I will never forget MIL visiting me in the maternity ward 3 days after DD was born. Did she give me a piece of her mind, never mind all the other mums and visitors.
I will never forget the kindness of the mums and the nurses who comforted me afterwards.
DD was loved and accepted by so many people/family without judgement, sadly she died suddenly when she was 7 months old.
I learnt a lot about life in that year.

your post brought tears to my eyes chocolate pudding. Your comment that you 'learnt a lot about life in that year' rings true to me. I was blessed with three healthy babies those years that teach us so much about life stay with us.

How sad chocolate pudding. It is tragic to lose a child. I wonder how your judgemental MIL felt.

chocolatepudding such a sad story. Xxx

Thank you all for your kind words. I could say more but I had better start another thread.

I have 4 adult children who are all by the ex! 1 of them was planned. None were unwanted

My darling girl was most definitely unplanned - I was 17 when I discovered I was pregnant - fast forward 32 years and she is not just a fabulous young woman but my best friend and shopping buddy -

Two of our four were (happy) accidents. All contraception has a failure rate. (I used to say that I only had to look at my husband to get pregnant!)

well, my husband was told by his specialist that 'it was highly unlikely he would ever be able to father a child' due to his MS.
That was in 1968. At the end of 1969 our first one was born, next one in 1970, third in 1972 and then early in 1975 the last two arrived just six minutes apart.
So delighted about all of them.

Congratulations Franbern

I am Spartacus - although more careless, as we were just starting to think another baby would perhaps be nice.

Hetty58 Mon 02-Nov-20 07:50:06
All contraception has a failure rate.

Back when I got snipped I was told that we must use other contraception until the sperm count was zero. It's usually a month or two but as the clinic advised, a year is not impossible.

I was also informed of recanalisation, that can happen when the vas deferens grow back to create a new connection, causing the vasectomy to naturally reverse itself.

So any chap who thinks he's firing blanks should check his powder once in a while.

I conceived when engaged after thinking I would find it hard to conceive because of taking youthful chances for a year. I had been on the pill, but when my mother found out she stopped me going to see the GP as he was known to our family. 9 months later, a much wanted baby.

I had a mis at 25 and an ectopic at 38, but sadly no more. Have 5 DGC.

Mine were all planned. On the other hand I believe from something my mother said that I myself am the result of a ‘happy accident’. At least I hope it was happy. I always felt loved!

Chocolatepudding these remarks stay with you dont they? My MIL s pearl of wisdom when my daughter was dying was "maybe the next one will be a boy" She had been so sure this baby was a boy she had knitted everything in shades of blue and was desperate for a boy.
Of course when the next baby was another girl she was abit put out but over the years they have been so close and love each other dearly.That remark stays ingrained in my heart .

My first 2, very close together, were unplanned but much loved. This was just before family planning clinics started. All there was sheaths for men or withdrawal. And you know what men are like! (apologies to any men reading).
After that I got a 'cap', then later, the pill. Then my 3rd, our lovely daughter, who was planned.
Sterilised at 50.

paddyanne, what a good woman to be able to appreciate the love between you MIL and daughter. You're right though, remarks like that may get put away but they surface again x