GagaJo
It's not 'rules'. It's a sociological categorisation tracking ideological changes.
I don't think anyone suggested we shouldn't think for ourselves and make our own decisions and judgements. The whole idea of debating an idea encourages independent, surely? The whole point of an open forum.
But there are so many posts on here about 'as an intersectional feminist. . . .', and 'intersectionalism means . . . ' - even 'intersectional feminism includes men', as though that is all that's to be said on the matter. Intersectional feminism 'says it', so anyone who doesn't agree is somehow lacking. That isn't debating an idea - it is judging others by how they measure up to it (in your view).
What I am saying is that the terminology is just that - a sociological shorthand (like Functionalism, Pluralism and so on) that describes the thinking - it shouldn't drive it.
Of course life moves on, and of course feminism (as well as other schools of thought) moves on. If it didn't we'd still be fighting for equal pay (although we still have some way to go there). Nobody is saying otherwise. But to assume that because someone does not believe that feminism should put the 'rights' of transwomen ahead of those of women means that they are behind the times, or lacking in some way is simply arrogant. It is a valid point of view, and not one that ever gets gets debated on here. I've tried. As soon as anyone says that they think like this (as I do) we are shouted down, called names or sneered at.
FWIW I do recognise that I have certain privileges, as does everyone posting on here. I have had an education, I am able bodied, I belong to the dominant race in the UK. I earned more than average, particularly for a woman, and can afford more than essentials. I was born into a democracy and so on. I know that, and I am grateful for it. My politics reflects the fact that I am aware that others have not shared in my good fortune, and I do not see myself as superior because I have been lucky.
None of that means that I should believe that transwomen are women though, or makes me see it as ok to put their rights ahead of those of women, and I don't see any logical reason why it should.