I believe I said that there was no sign on the door, and it was up to the company to provide seperate secure facilities for the use of all their customers... Is that not OK? Also I hope you all agree to abide by this in its entirety.
Not having a changing room for men in a woman’s clothes shop is not discrimination, any more than not having a gents’ loo in a convent.
Your quote has nothing to do with the situation in the shop. I assume that (if it’s from the EA) it is from an education subsection, not a general directive? A teacher would be aware that a child had changed their name, so persistently refusing to use the new one would be a deliberate act, and the discrimination would come in because other children were being called by the right name and this one wasn’t.
Discrimination has to involve different treatment based on a protected characteristic. In this case, if no men are allowed into the changing room then Charlie was being treated no differently from other male customers, so no discrimination took place.
AFAIK, gender neutrality is not a protected characteristic, although things change quickly and I may be behind the times with that. In any event, if Charlie, who said himself that he does not ‘present’ as female, looks like a man, he is not being ’misgendered’. He is being addressed by the pronoun appropriate to his sex and appearance. How was the assistant to know how he ‘identifies’?
There are two separate issues here. One is about a male customer wanting to try on a dress. No problem there - there is a facility to buy online and return unsuitable items, or to buy in the shop, try on at home and do likewise, which is what most people not performing a publicly stunt would do, as there are no suitable changing facilities available. Nobody refused to sell the dress (which would have been discrimination).
The other is about a male-presenting, male-bodied person wanting to use a facility designed for female customers, at a busy time when others were in the communal area. He was asked to wait. If other male-presenting, male-bodied customers would also be asked to wait in the same circumstances, there was no discrimination.
What are you asking us to abide by in its entirety? I’m not sure what that means in these circumstances- we are not Monsoon shop assistants.
Also, you said that you were going to withdraw your custom because of this? That is, of course, your right (although something of a knee-jerk reaction), but you are, presumably, aware that Monsoon is struggling? Would you be happy to see it go under, with associated (and predominantly female) job losses, because of a publicity stunt by a TRA? In a recession, when even those in work are struggling? Doesn’t that conflict with intersectional feminism? I thought the point of that was to look across different groups so that supporting one doesn’t negatively impact on another?